Would you want to swing single?

[JustAskJulie]

Ok, so right now you are part of a couple. But what if something happened? What if you got divorced/ split up or (god forbid) your partner died. Would you want to continue to swing as a single?

Would it be something you might maintain and interest in but would prefer to find a new partner to enjoy it with? Would you continue to swing as a single? Or would you drop the idea of swinging altogether?

[RnLinohio]

I think i would swing as a single, but as of right now we are only looking for females mainly because i have no desire to be with another man................ and after i am single, if i still have those feelings, then i would have to say i might swing, but it would be mainly with females.

Robin

[OhioCouple]

I voted for other as I don't really seem to fit in any of the other catagories. I would most likely do so in terms of sex with no commitments or just to mingle with like minded people. Should our relationship terminate for what ever reason, I would not seek another LTR, however I know that I would like to have sex every now and again, without all the hassles that go along with dating.

[EternallySingle]

Based on the contacts I've had in the past six months I'm drifting back to the idea that I should stick to just dating and not think about pursuing swinging. For me, its a matter of picking my battles. When my ex-gf left, I said swinging was a thing of the past and went back to meeting single women for dating. While my ex tried to set me up with some of her friends, they all said they were doing me a favor, which I didn't need. Burned some bridges, but hey...you gotta feel good about yourself first.

I'm sticking to dating, unless I meet a R*E*A*L*L*Y special single lady who convinces me we have more than a sexual thing going on.

Doesn't mean I'm going to stop telling you what you need to be doing (in my opinion, of course )

[Alura]

It never occured to me to try swinging when I was single, and that was a long time.

Certainly, if I somehow lost Mrs. Alura, swinging would be the last thing on my mind. The first: Having to raise two teenage boys without the most wonderful partner I've ever known in anything I've ever attempted.

I wouldn't go to the trouble. No, I wouldn't swing if I were single.

Mr. Alura

[Chicup]

I'll be honnest I have no clue why men swing single. Oddly I was thinking of this today as a 'what if' and even with a couple I have swung alone with when the wife couldn't make it, I wouldn't swing with them if single.

[sexypairca]

If something happened , yes I would swing as a single. If I were to ever date again I would be looking for the special someone that didn't mind a little sharing too (eventually).

Annette

[Roxysbayou]

I would definitely swing single.

I couldn't imagine myself any differently.

Roxy

[jen]

If something bizzare happened and I found myself suddenly part of a couple...I'd be interested in swinging.

I'm sure of it.

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by jen
If something bizzare happened and I found myself suddenly part of a couple...I'd be interested in swinging.

I'm sure of it.

Sweet jen, I truly have a hard time accepting that it would take something 'bizzare' for you become part of a couple.

I don't know if I would swing single or not. On the one hand, I've read some of the things about how single men are treated in the lifestyle, but on the other hand, I've also read how much 'good' single men are desired by couples.

However, I don't believe that I would remain single by choice and would probably spend more time and effort wooing another woman than I would on attempting to swing. I was never happy single and I wouldn't expect that to be any different now.

Anyway, goddess willing, it's not something I need to worry about, as long as J renews my contract every August!

-B

[froggyjenn80]

Being a female it is easier to be welcomed as a single swinger than if I was a male. I think that knowing the ins and outs of swinging would help with if I was single.

Now I wouldnt just jump into it right after I lost my husband to whatever happened (knock on wood it never happens) But with time, the comfort of that part of my past would come back and I would want it to be part of me again.

So yes, swinging single is definately an option.
~Jenn

[Brit_Pair]

No, I can't imagine wanting to continue swinging as a single. It's always been something we've done together to enhance our sex lives, not our social lives, so I wouldn't keep playing to remain within a circle of people. And if I wanted recreational sex as a single, I'd seek out similarly disposed single females.

[matt1935]

My answer to swinging as a single is this.My partner(wife) passed a few years back and we had a great relationship and many friends in the lifestyle. I have tried to enter back into the lifestyle as a single male and contacts are almost impossible. The possibility of finding a single female to join with is as difficult.
The dating scene becomes a long process of meeting people and almost having to have a semi committment for physical contact..which I am not willing to do..So I am still searching for answers.
Matt@webtv.net

[Avantgarden38]

I would not swing as a single, but might try to find a female partner to swing together.

The Mrs. on the other hand, would swing single with the right couple. I think she is waiting for me to kick the bucket, just to have that opportunity available to her. I suspect she would be dating a few couples willing to spoil her a little. . . .

[Elusive BiFem]

The question asked was, "would you want to swing as a single" and I guess I'd have to answer yes.

For me, interest in swinging has waxed and waned over time much like phases. I've never been interested in finding a male partner to swing with me as a "couple" primarily because swinging was something secondary to everything else in my life and not something that I wanted to experience on an everyday and on-going basis. Also, I've been very specific (or selective, if you will) in terms of the couples I have involved myself with since, for me, the idea of swinging was about more than just the sexual aspects.

If I had it to do over again, would I? Yes. Enjoyed it and learned a lot about others and myself.
Will I continue? I don't know that I'll continue as an active participant, but I remain interested in the lifestyle and those interested in it. As I've said before, I've made some really great friends in this lifestyle, and if nothing else, that has been worth a pot of gold to me. (Well...almost. Change that to a pot of silver! After all, I'm unemployed presently.)
- EBF