Would you want to swing single?

[Stephen]

My partner has stopped swinging due to disinterest in the scene, unfortunately we met too many cples who didn't light her fire.

I however love recreational sex. Swinging for us was always part joint fun and sometimes one to one fun, we're not a glued to the hip at a party cple.

Playing solo is much more horny, but I do get messed around and am very wary of disrespectful cples who see a single guy as a poor substitute for the real thing- cple swapping.

Why do guys like me do it? For me, I love the sexual performance aspect, I have good stamina for a 44 y.o, and it panders to my vanity when a woman shows obvious appreciation of my vwe status. Plus I do love the company of women with an up front pervy imagination.

Finding another playmate (with my partners approval) via dating, is always going to run the risk of emotional complications.

[jen]

Originally posted by BradAndJanet
Sweet jen, -B

They said sweet jen, I love when they say sweet jen!

Thanks BnJ you rock.

The- bizarre - of it would be in me wanting to be part of a true relationship, actually. Seems like I always think I want that, until it knocks at my door. Then, somehow, I become certain it isn't anything near what I want. Or something.

Look, I learned how to spell bizarre. See, I can be taught.

[HotMoCpl]

We've agreed on one point. At our age, if something should happen to the other, (the word divorce does not exist in our relationship) widow/widower, the other is then allowed all the wild abandon sex without the concent of the other. facelick

[Chemistry_0518]

Nope, neither of us believes that we would even seriously consider putting in the effort involved in swinging single. It would not be worth it. We are receiving pleasure not from the activity alone, but from the fact that we are doing it with each other. Remove that from the equation and then the question arises "why deal with the hassles?"

[adventureUS2]

I think swinging with out my S/O would not be half the rush it is now. I would not persue swinging but if I were to find myself in a situation were a couple invited me into their bedroom I would not say no.

[ALilOEverything]

I would swing single, I think it would be lot of fun. It wouldn't be nearly as much fun as having my husband with me though, there are some elements of sharing my spouse I would greatly miss.

[intuition897]

Sure! We both love the idea of swinging. And if we ever found ourselves single again (which I can't imagine, but for the sake of hypothesizing...) we would definitely engage in it. Everybody gets horny now and then, and personally I love the idea that I could help a couple in their relationship together the way swinging has positively affected my relationship with Mr. intuition.

[Atilla]

hmmm, I don't think I would.

Reason why? I need a partner, I'm one of those people who depends on her spouse. So therefore, I would concentrate my efforts on finding myself another partner first and then if swinging came back into the picture, I'd be game.

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[JustAskJulie]

This is one of those questions that is easier said than done. When I went from married to single, I tried playing as a single and I did a couple of times, but in the end I just didn't like being a single female in the lifestyle - mainly I didn't like how people just fall all over you and when they discover you are bi, it's worse than being a bi female half of a couple and the way that many bi-women assume that if you are bi, you WILL play with them.... it's that times 3 when you are single. Then as a single you also don't have anyone to fall back on or rely on for comfort or safety.

[good times]

When I answered this poll originally I said that I would, now I am pretty sure I wouldn't want to swing if I were single.

[two4youinswva]

It's hard to know without being in the situation, but I don't think I would.

If someone requested me as a 3rd for a night of fun, I would probably be willing to join in. But to actively pursue the lifestyle? Not as likely.

[havefuninsun]

Part of what I like about swinging is it is an "us" activity -- something that turns us on together. I highly doubt I'd ever play as a single.

[MRSfun]

We have had the difficult talk about if, and when, one of us passes on.

Yes, we will stay in the lifestyle as a single.

[The Fuse]

Wow... If Mr. Fuse were somehow just not there anymore, putting aside the implications of that... I would *love* the idea of swinging single. Not too many women float my boat, but occasionally it does happen, and I would love to swing with couples if I liked both halves. I would love that freedom of being able to have fun and NSA sex with people I liked, without having to think about a future with them.

Of course, I'm sure that the reality of swinging as a single female would often not live up to the apparent advantages.

But I bet it's a LOT of fun sometimes.

[Tia Vampire]

I think that I could swing as a single female with no problem. Back after me and my husband divorced, I booty called for two years. I would usually pick up a guy in the club every weekend or every other weekend. Plus I think that swinging at a house party would be safer than picking up some random guy from a bar that could do anything to you while you are together.