Is this your first marriage?

[robnbarb]

My wife and I are both on our second marrages.

She was married to a man that just did not appreaceate her at all and was only conserned for himself (that is the mild version of the story).

My ex had this sort of fantasy idea of what marrage was, that it was happily ever after or something. Meanwhile she also wanted to have her bi-romps but keep me out of it. From what I have been able to gather, in 6 months she had 3 affairs, one with another woman and 2 with other men, and never was I apporched about swinging or anything like that. In fact i doubt I would have with her since I honestly deep down never trusted her, I always felt like she was up to something but put it away since I could find no evidence for it.

Anyway the communication between us broke down to nothing until one day she spouts out "I don't love you anymore." no reason or ryhme or anything. I soon discovered she was dateing another man almost the day after she left. There is more, but it is a massive quagmire I just toss my hands up at most times and wonder why I married her to begin with.

[webehavin]

25 years and both on our first!!! Yes, the ups and downs are there, but we have learned to get over them. We are still continuing to discover the magic between us!!

[littlebit54]

I don't seem to fit in any of the categories either. I voted married twice; but i could have voted living together, never married. That's the one i should have picked, because those two marriages were a long time ago and in the scheme of my life now; very irrelevant.

The only good things i got from those marriages were my two sons (so irrelevant might be too harsh a word). My first husband was an emotionally barren wasteland. My second husband was just a plain old fashioned womanizing cheater. I told him if he ever wanted another woman, all he had to do was tell me, first. I would have understood and maybe we would still be together. But, instead he chose to sneak and be deceitful and kill my trust and love for him with his double standards of who can and who can't cheat!

My son's are both a priceless treasure to me; and if i could go back and change things, i would only try and introduce their father's to the lifestyle...lol

I've been living with my current S/O for 20 years in October. He's the kinkiest one of all (so far). But, whether or not i could ever talk him into (either one or both of us) getting into swinging is probably why i am on here in the first place.

I want to learn all about people in the lifestyle before i ever approach him about that first big step.

littlebit54

[HotMoCpl]

This is a good poll. Would have been better to also ask your age and gender.
Cheers.

I"ve been a bad, bad, bad wittle boy. -Elmer Fud

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Married 18 years, together 25. My first, her 2nd- she married 1st when she was 18, too young. We've been swinging for about 2 years- it coincides with the kids being old enough to be left home alone Very happy thank you very much. Communication- the thing that makes swinging work is what makes marriage work too.

[macallan_neat]

Our first.

Married 14 years, together for nearly 20. I'm so in love with her that if she leaves me, I'm going with her ...

When I married her, I thought I knew what love was. Fortunately, she's showed me what it really is.

I love you KA!

JD

[puneswings]

We are on our first marriage, and are now 7 years married. Ours was a typical Indian "arranged" marriage and I never knew Asha before our brief 1 month engagement. I know this sounds unimaginable to most, but what the heck, it worked for us.

As it turned out, we are very very compatible on almost fronts. She enjoys the occassional smoke like I do, shares the occassional drink with me (when reading this, keep in mind that these interests are quite rare for the traditional Indian woman) and of course we discovered we were both bi and developed a common interest in swinging as well (definitely even more rare! )

We did go thru some initial mind-f*** when we started swinging, some amount of jealousy and possesiveness did creep in. But we both understood that such feelings were not rational given that we were both interested in swinging and we both understand our love for each other, and now we were quite happy and secure in the lifestyle.

[puneswings]

macallan_neat: Loved this!

I'm so in love with her that if she leaves me, I'm going with her ...

Here's wishing you both all the happiness in life...

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Originally Posted by macallan_neat

I'm so in love with her that if she leaves me, I'm going with her ...JD

I liked it to! I've added it to my archive of keepable quotes. Thanks!

[jack_cindy1987]

My first, his second married 18yrs ..............lots of hills and mountains.A little out of breath Surrender but worth the climb. Wouldn't do it different.He is my best friend

[autumn528]

2nd(and last!) for the both of us. Mrs. Autumn tells me there's only one way out for either one of us and that's in a body bag. Gotta admire a woman of principle...

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by shoreguy

I once saw the term "starter marriage" defined in Wired magazine in the mid-90s. It was a monthly column about new 'net terms. The definition was that it was a first marriage that was not in the best interests of the two parties, acquired no real property and produced no children. Both sides learn their lessons, divorce without much trouble (nothing to fight over) and move on.

I had a starter marriage.

I kinda did too... although I think we married for the right reasons, and were married 14 years. I left because he was addicted to phone sex, that he hid from me... could not, or would not, communicate with me and would not seek counseling with me to get to the root of our problems.

Was also in a 2-year live in relationship which turned out to be the biggest mistake I ever made. Fortunately, marrying him was the biggest mistake I never made and I left him and moved to another state almost a year ago.

Glad to see many still on their first marriage!

[djjwp]

1st time 8 years of struggle (she was 18 and PG and I was 22)

2ed time 11 years of bliss with a great person.

Sometimes you need to change.

[lovefest04]

vjklander..

us too. first marriage - 26 years and counting.

I'm just not sure I can keep up with my hot hot wife facelick

i hope others can help

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[C n' D 4playin]

we are still on the first...
32 years as of march 18th.....

we only have one simple rule between us.......the 5 yr rule.
it goes something like this.

"things" (behaviors or honey do list items)....that WON'T matter in 5 years from today...we accept/ignore in eachother
the "things" that WILL matter........we make sure we fix before we go to sleep tonight. *wonders why "she" seems to win all those*

as Nymph an' Satyr stated....."Communication- the thing that makes swinging work is what makes marriage work too"

we must be lucky......because we have always have had that ability between us....from that first date forward.