Is this your first marriage?

[DrNed]

Only once ,33 years and I can truly say I'd do it again in a heartbeat !

[RnLinohio]

Ok i have the fairy tale........... married the boy next door thing going on. We have been together since i was 14 him 17 got married when i was 17 (him 20) and will celebrate 14 yrs in May. I do think we were to young to get married, and it took us a long time to start communicating properly (a red head temper and an oriental temper). Neither us us wanted to comprmise much. But starting in this lifestyle and learning to talk about EVERYTHING has made us stronger.............. 6 yrs ago, i wouldn't have said we would be together in 20 yrs, but right now i would say we will be together 50 yrs from now, and a big part of that reason was learning how to communicate.

Robin

[MrYaWanna]

Once divorced neither of us thought we'd ever do THAT again! When we first met we did our best to avoid it, to scare each other off by telling each other everything we'd ever thought and done. Turns out that just made us better together. Swinging helps us communicate or we communicate so well we can swing, hard to say. Either way we both knew it would never work without complete honesty and respect for one another. Now we are happy as clams!!
I'm such a lucky man!!!

[JnM_Pgh]

Married 23 years. Began dating in 9th grade and never looked elsewhere! Every day I thank god I chose her and that she wanted me also! I can't imagine being this happy with anybody else!

[shoreguy]

I once saw the term "starter marriage" defined in Wired magazine in the mid-90s. It was a monthly column about new 'net terms. The definition was that it was a first marriage that was not in the best interests of the two parties, acquired no real property and produced no children. Both sides learn their lessons, divorce without much trouble (nothing to fight over) and move on.

I had a starter marriage. We were both too young, and a bad match even though we were in love. We are no longer on speaking terms, since I found out (years later from the other guy at my bachelor's party) that she was cheating on me at the end. I did learn a lot of lessons, both what I would expect in a mate, and things I shouldn't do. I wouldn't consider all first marriages as starter marriages.

Another favorite term from that column was "yuppie food stamps": $20 bills that you get from the ATM and then use to pay off the dinner bill at a restaurant. Some things they defined really did get popular, but most were just fads.

[licpl2cpl]

Third times the charm!

[LowPurrCpl]

We are college sweethearts, married for 8 years and still in love! We are the essential "do opposites attract?" couple. YES! We seem to compliment each other very well.

LowPurrCpl

[wrnakedru]

He is my second husband, I am his third wife.

He tells people it took him three tries to get it right.

We were both a bit gun shy at first. I was coming out of a very long term marriage and not in any rush. He was just out of his second divorce and was likewise in no hurry. We lived together for a full year prior to marrying.

We would each marry one another again in a heartbeat and feel very lucky to have found each other. We realize our prior experiences prepared us to appreciate one another and what we have together.

Neither of his earlier marriages included swinging. My former marriage did, for the last eight years of it. While I do not blame the demise of the marriage on swinging, for many years I truly believed I would never get into the lifestyle again.

We have been together for over 13 years, and swinging has only been a part of it for about the last 2 1/2 to 3 years. I have learned the difference it makes to have the right partner in lifestyle pursuits. I felt I was mostly a "ticket" the last time around, and thus my reluctance to re-enter the activity. This time it has truly been a unified, together as one experience - and it has made all the difference in the world.

[cm89]

First for both of us...

married 7 years, together for 15ish...

[Maus-Katz]

While I congratulate successfull couples that will never need a second marriage, I have always referred to my first one as the "trial run" for the real thing. That may sound crass, but it truly did teach me a lot about what to do and what not to do in a relationship. No kids or property, it was a (relatively) painless divorce.

Originally posted by MrYaWanna
Once divorced neither of us thought we'd ever do THAT again! When we first met we did our best to avoid it, to scare each other off by telling each other everything we'd ever thought and done. Turns out that just made us better together. Swinging helps us communicate or we communicate so well we can swing, hard to say. Either way we both knew it would never work without complete honesty and respect for one another. Now we are happy as clams!!
I'm such a lucky man!!!

MrYaWanna, all I can say is:
Dito Dito Dito

Although L tried to scare me off more

[BradAndJanet]

We've been married twenty years. I still love her as much, if not more than I did at the beginning. Oh, it hasn't been all roses. There have been plenty of thorns too, but we learned to work around them. I think that as long as you're both willing to do that, you have a real chance for something that lasts. Maybe that's what love is...

-B

[Greg & Sheryl]

Is there any way we can choose more than one option? Greg is on his second marriage, while Sheryl is on her fourth.

I guess we can choose the “3rd Marriage or beyond” option if it’s okay to go by a cumulative figure.

[txbbbiw]

This will be my first (we'll be married this March), and it will be his second. We'll be together 3 years this March. His first marriage was a "starter" one too...regrets all around and no problems divorcing.

[Botcpl]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie

I was having a conversation with a (divorced) friend of mine tonight and he made the comment that once you've been divorced it is much easier to see what makes a relationship work (whether it be yours or someone else's) and what is bad for a relationship.

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Julie,

The odds of the second marriage surviving are only slightly better than the first, roughly 50%.

We are on our only marriage, it will be 23 years in Aug. Of all my close high school friends, we are the only ones still on our first for each. It might be the water, I don't know.

We've been "testing the waters" in the lifestyle for only a couple of years and really only started excelerating the pace in the last few months. So far so good.

Botcpl

[mrs good times]

This is my first and mr. good times second. We've been married 18 years. His first I say was young, dumb and full of cum.