Whose Idea Was It To Start Swinging?

hotclubcpl4u · 05-07-2002, 01:03 AM

In a couple situation, was it the female partner's idea to explore swinging, or the male's? And which partner was the more adventurous?

ILcouple · 05-07-2002, 10:21 AM

I *her* brought up the idea shocked the b/f big time <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> and as far as more adventurous goes that is me again

they say im borderline pervert and I tend to agree.

hope you all have a nice day.
Kisses Rachel

**TNT** · 05-07-2002, 06:06 PM

Hmmm,I guess we are odd balls, neither one of us brought it up first.

I just happened to be off one day and was clicking around on the computer, when my husband got home from work (he was working midnights at the time). He said he had a web site to check out that a friend at work had given him. He had no idea what it was about, the friend just told him to check it out.

Well...we went to the web site and it was for a local Social. There were links to other sites and all were full of information.

We spent the whole day exploring the Lifestyle on the internet, talking and discussing it. A few weeks later we decided to check out the Social and have been hooked ever since.

As far as who is more adverturous...it's pretty much a tie there also, one of us will suggest something and the other one will say OK, lets give it a try.

Teresa

sexypairca · 05-07-2002, 10:02 PM

He brought up swinging initially, I was not interested at the time. A couple of years later he brought it up again and I was the one making arangements to go to our first club. I guess that gives hope to all the guys that get shot down. You never know.

"A" the wife

MiCpl · 05-23-2002, 04:04 PM

Not sure who's idea it was initially. It was just something that came about. But even before we got married he had been buying swinger mags. We had some friends that he had swung with as a single too. For me tho, I was definatley open to the idea as the idea of "settling down" had never really been appealing to me even tho I did figure I would do it and had decided to do it since I was married. Not sure who brought it up first tho.

I(the female half) am definately the more adventurous of the two of us. He is very quiet and reserved. If a woman wants to play with him she pretty much has to make the first move unless it's someone he's played with before. I tend to be the one to set a lot of things up, although he occasionally does set up meetings with new (hopeful) playmates.

babycakes3216900 · 07-22-2002, 02:21 PM

Would like to take a poll, Which partner suggested this lifestyle? Male or Female, just curious.....

frisson · 07-22-2002, 03:04 PM

Quote:

Would like to take a poll, Which partner suggested this lifestyle? Male or Female, just curious.....

A little bit of both.

Our F half opened up the whole topic when she 'fessed up to some pretty hot fantasies.

Our M half then picked up on it and suggested that we look into swinging as a way to satify that itch.

sexypairca · 07-22-2002, 03:34 PM

For us, hubby brought it up a couple of times, but I thought that the timing was off because we were still having our family. Once we knew for sure that our family was complete, I was good to go

. And here we are!

"A" the wife

sccple29073 · 07-22-2002, 03:50 PM

Well i guess it was a little bit of both..mentioned to hubby that i have always been bi-curious and that got him open do the idea and more :-p

OhioCouple · 07-22-2002, 04:37 PM

My better half says that I (Lori) am the one who took the initiation. Although, when we started exploring the lifestyle more, we both were equally involved.

Lori
DONT FORGET TO VOTE FOR JULIE!!!!!!

Brian and Jo · 07-22-2002, 11:12 PM

For us the decision to try out the swinging lifestyle was taken jointly after a lengthy discussion about where we were heading in our marriage. As we have posted before we had been married for about 15 years, were both seeking and finding some variety in our sex lives and were gradually drifting apart. I think I was the one who suggested that we pursue our interest in having other sexual partners together as a couple and Jo readily agreed. It was probably the best decision we have ever made because we are still together 25 years later and have enjoyed a wide range of partners and experiences which have enhanced our enjoyment of each other.

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-26-2002, 02:48 PM

I have no idea who mentioned it as a reality first. I don't think it ever really was particularly brought up by one or the other. It just kind of happened. The first time I remember really talking about it was after a couple contacted us online (before we started swinging) and brought up the idea to us. At the time we weren't really ready, but later after we got into the lifestyle we did end up connecting with them again and well....

sexy_toronto_couple · 07-27-2002, 12:23 PM

I think my husband mentioned the idea one night in bed after great sex, and I just kinda "jumped all over it", so to speak!
xo
N.

haswa · 07-27-2002, 01:30 PM

Over the years we had both shared fantasies of multiple partner and group sex. Then, 2 years ago we were in Amsterdam on business for 2 weeks and decided to go "observe" a couples-only night at a top-rated swingers club nearby. Well, after watching just one large group scene for a few minutes, we were just overcome with the sights, sounds, smells, and sensations - so we just joined in and never looked back.

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-13-2002, 04:51 PM

It seems like while most people assume it's the hubby who brings up the idea of swinging, more and more we are seeing couples where it was the woman's idea.

So who's idea was it?

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She brought it up.	257	31.77%
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05-07-2002, 01:03 AM	#1 (permalink)
hotclubcpl4u Here to Stay Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 37 Location: Ontario, Canada Status: Couple/Bi-F/Straight M Swing Lifestyle Name:hotclubcpl4u	Whose Idea Was It To Start Swinging? In a couple situation, was it the female partner's idea to explore swinging, or the male's? And which partner was the more adventurous?
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05-07-2002, 06:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Hmmm,I guess we are odd balls, neither one of us brought it up first. I just happened to be off one day and was clicking around on the computer, when my husband got home from work (he was working midnights at the time). He said he had a web site to check out that a friend at work had given him. He had no idea what it was about, the friend just told him to check it out. Well...we went to the web site and it was for a local Social. There were links to other sites and all were full of information. We spent the whole day exploring the Lifestyle on the internet, talking and discussing it. A few weeks later we decided to check out the Social and have been hooked ever since. As far as who is more adverturous...it's pretty much a tie there also, one of us will suggest something and the other one will say OK, lets give it a try. Teresa
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05-07-2002, 10:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
sexypairca Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 671 Location: Windsor, Ontario Status: married couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sexypairca	He brought up swinging initially, I was not interested at the time. A couple of years later he brought it up again and I was the one making arangements to go to our first club. I guess that gives hope to all the guys that get shot down. You never know. "A" the wife
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05-07-2002, 10:21 AM	#2 (permalink)
ILcouple Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 97 Location: Illinois Status: couple	I her brought up the idea shocked the b/f big time <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> and as far as more adventurous goes that is me again they say im borderline pervert and I tend to agree. hope you all have a nice day. Kisses Rachel

05-23-2002, 04:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
MiCpl Registered User Join Date: Jun 2000 Posts: 106 Location: MI	Not sure who's idea it was initially. It was just something that came about. But even before we got married he had been buying swinger mags. We had some friends that he had swung with as a single too. For me tho, I was definatley open to the idea as the idea of "settling down" had never really been appealing to me even tho I did figure I would do it and had decided to do it since I was married. Not sure who brought it up first tho. I(the female half) am definately the more adventurous of the two of us. He is very quiet and reserved. If a woman wants to play with him she pretty much has to make the first move unless it's someone he's played with before. I tend to be the one to set a lot of things up, although he occasionally does set up meetings with new (hopeful) playmates.

07-22-2002, 02:21 PM	#6 (permalink)
babycakes3216900 Active Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 15 Location: Florida	New Lifestyle Would like to take a poll, Which partner suggested this lifestyle? Male or Female, just curious.....

07-22-2002, 03:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
sexypairca Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 671 Location: Windsor, Ontario Status: married couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sexypairca	For us, hubby brought it up a couple of times, but I thought that the timing was off because we were still having our family. Once we knew for sure that our family was complete, I was good to go . And here we are! "A" the wife
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07-22-2002, 03:50 PM	#9 (permalink)
sccple29073 Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 61 Location: South carolina	Well i guess it was a little bit of both..mentioned to hubby that i have always been bi-curious and that got him open do the idea and more :-p
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07-22-2002, 04:37 PM	#10 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	My better half says that I (Lori) am the one who took the initiation. Although, when we started exploring the lifestyle more, we both were equally involved. Lori DONT FORGET TO VOTE FOR JULIE!!!!!!
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07-22-2002, 11:12 PM	#11 (permalink)
Brian and Jo Brian and Jo Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 322 Location: Ontario Status: Couple	For us the decision to try out the swinging lifestyle was taken jointly after a lengthy discussion about where we were heading in our marriage. As we have posted before we had been married for about 15 years, were both seeking and finding some variety in our sex lives and were gradually drifting apart. I think I was the one who suggested that we pursue our interest in having other sexual partners together as a couple and Jo readily agreed. It was probably the best decision we have ever made because we are still together 25 years later and have enjoyed a wide range of partners and experiences which have enhanced our enjoyment of each other.

07-26-2002, 02:48 PM	#12 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	I have no idea who mentioned it as a reality first. I don't think it ever really was particularly brought up by one or the other. It just kind of happened. The first time I remember really talking about it was after a couple contacted us online (before we started swinging) and brought up the idea to us. At the time we weren't really ready, but later after we got into the lifestyle we did end up connecting with them again and well....
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07-27-2002, 12:23 PM	#13 (permalink)
sexy_toronto_couple Registered Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 9 Location: Toronto, Canada	I think my husband mentioned the idea one night in bed after great sex, and I just kinda "jumped all over it", so to speak! xo N.

07-27-2002, 01:30 PM	#14 (permalink)
haswa Registered Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 8 Location: D.C., NYC, & San Diego Status: couple	Over the years we had both shared fantasies of multiple partner and group sex. Then, 2 years ago we were in Amsterdam on business for 2 weeks and decided to go "observe" a couples-only night at a top-rated swingers club nearby. Well, after watching just one large group scene for a few minutes, we were just overcome with the sights, sounds, smells, and sensations - so we just joined in and never looked back.

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10-13-2002, 04:51 PM	#15 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,294 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Who Brought it up? It seems like while most people assume it's the hubby who brings up the idea of swinging, more and more we are seeing couples where it was the woman's idea. So who's idea was it?
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