Seperatly or together? What are your limits?

Bama0468 · 12-10-2003, 11:13 PM

was curious as to what paramiters you set when swinging , seperatly, same room, same house, or all the above.

Wife and I are an all the above couple.

fun_pairTX · 12-11-2003, 12:19 AM

Together to us means together, actually we prefer same bed.

NorCal Nites · 12-11-2003, 12:42 AM

Although we have only been with single women so far... we have set our boundary.

That boundary, however, was already tested just recently.

We want to swing only together... same room preferably... maybe same area/house, however, in the case of a single man contacting me several weeks ago (a guy we've known since we were children), the awkwardness of the situation made us decide that I should swing alone with him (at least at first) if we were to ever do anything. There is a lot more to the story (in childhood, my hubby hated him, but the guy truthfully cannot remember much about hubby), but it's mostly irrelevant, except for the one fact.

Hubby likes the idea of my being with him (may even be a reverse-revenge thing maybe?) but because it's so unbelievably awkward (we spent an hour or so on separate ends of a couch attempting to catch up on 10 years without seeing one another before he even touched me), it would probably be better, at least, at first to swing alone with him.

Any input on that? Like I said prior... we've only been with women otherwise, and still haven't experienced a couple, although we have some in the possible works for this weekend's club Xmas event.

HELP

VegasLee · 12-11-2003, 11:40 AM

Any time we party we are always in the same building. We do not go out on "dates" without each other. That seems to be our main rule if you want to call it that.

Laura may find a guy at a club that is not real up on having a 3sum or me being there and if she is comfortable with him she will go alone in a private room with him. I may do the same thing at times with a lady. Most of the time we prefer that both of us is atleast in the same area to watch each other.

Most of the time we end up in the same "pile"

Main rule we have is that we Always know where the other one is even if we are not in the same room with each other.

Brit_Pair · 12-11-2003, 03:00 PM

Well, since we got into this to enhance our pleasure as a couple, it's same room only for us.

jcbicouple · 12-11-2003, 06:05 PM

We voted for same room, since there was no choice for "same bed". We always stay together, even when playing with others.

imsnowman · 12-11-2003, 06:53 PM

As others have said, How about "same bed"?

sexypairca · 12-11-2003, 09:03 PM

Had to vote for "all of the above". Really depends on the situation.

Annette

hmr · 12-11-2003, 11:44 PM

It is usually same room. We started this together, and we usually stay together. Sometimes the same bed, sometimes, just a different place in the room.

Our regular monthly party can be same building, but there are very few swinging partners I feel that comfortable with. It all depends on the circumstances, and we know how mine backfired.
But there are others we have known for a while, where the circumstaces may change, and lead us to separate rooms in the future. Only time will tell. But, it will always be within earshot!

mrs hmr

**Alura** · 12-12-2003, 02:37 PM

We've done both same room and separate rooms. Both are fun in their own way. Same room is fun because we do it together and can watch each other in action. With separate rooms, we get to tell each other what went on when we get back together and that usually is the beginning of some super-hot lovemaking. Which tastes better? Ice Cream or Chocolate Cake?

We tried playing separately once, under special circumstances, but it didn't turn out the way we wanted, so we haven't tried it again. We might, under special circumstances, but only with the other's knowledge and approval.

We've both given the other our blessing to fuck certain (named) people should the opportunity ever arise, but that is so unlikely it's really a non-issue.

Mr. Alura

lcjtsd · 12-12-2003, 06:06 PM

Although I haven't as yet, my wife has played separately. I love it when she walks in the door and I know what she has been doing. Besides, she brings home a video of her fun which we watch together and then our fun begins!!!

Chris&Amelia · 12-12-2003, 06:18 PM

We only play together in the same room. Part of the fun is seeing each other get pleasured by our playmates!

sexyRus_inMass · 12-12-2003, 06:38 PM

Always same room, this is definitely a "team sport."

The only situation where we were in the same room with two beds (we're pretty new)- we took advantage of it and moved them together to make one big one! So i guess we still have to answer same bed.

We look at swinging separately as a division between us - just our personal philosophy and find nothing wrong with others having a difference of opinion. The best thing about this community is the ability to express yourself the way you want without judgement from others.

leftcoastcouple · 12-14-2003, 12:13 AM

We're still in the discussion phase--although, without the kids last night, our discussions got pretty intense and detailed!--but we seem to agree that if we're confident enough to let one another play with others (and we're essentially there), there's not a big difference between playing in the same bed vs. same room vs. different room vs...hell, why not wherever we want to?

We're going to be completely open and honest with whatever happens, just as we have with our (limited) experiences in the past, so we don't see much of a difference over the circumstances, other than the inherent excitement of watching one another vs. wondering vs. all-out saying, "OK, so tell me all about it."

We have major trust and years between us, but...that's just us.

**TNT** · 12-14-2003, 02:17 PM

Technically, we have nothing against swinging separately. We are certainly secure enough in our relationship to allow it. It just so happens that our fantasies lead to group sex rather than just different partners.

We have played separately when in a house party setting, but our desires are for hot group sex whether 3somes, 4somes or moresomes. We already have the best couple (one on one) sex we could have with each other, so why spend time playing separately when we could be having more fun together with others.

Telling each other about what occured while playing separately was/is hot, but we would much rather be there to watch each other, even if only as an observer.

Our play time is limited enough that we prefer to spend it pursuing what we both enjoy the most.

TNT

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Same room?	97	55.11%
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12-10-2003, 11:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bama0468 Rebel without a Cause :P Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 438 Location: Colorado Status: Ugly half of a beautiful Wife SLS Name:fountaincouple Blog Entries: 4	Seperatly or together? What are your limits? was curious as to what paramiters you set when swinging , seperatly, same room, same house, or all the above. Wife and I are an all the above couple. __________________ I don't speak or write proper english however, I do use fluent American Ease to its foremost!

12-11-2003, 12:19 AM	#2 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Together Together to us means together, actually we prefer same bed. __________________ fun_pairTX

12-11-2003, 12:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
NorCal Nites Active Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 213 Location: Redding, CA Status: Couple	Although we have only been with single women so far... we have set our boundary. That boundary, however, was already tested just recently. We want to swing only together... same room preferably... maybe same area/house, however, in the case of a single man contacting me several weeks ago (a guy we've known since we were children), the awkwardness of the situation made us decide that I should swing alone with him (at least at first) if we were to ever do anything. There is a lot more to the story (in childhood, my hubby hated him, but the guy truthfully cannot remember much about hubby), but it's mostly irrelevant, except for the one fact. Hubby likes the idea of my being with him (may even be a reverse-revenge thing maybe?) but because it's so unbelievably awkward (we spent an hour or so on separate ends of a couch attempting to catch up on 10 years without seeing one another before he even touched me), it would probably be better, at least, at first to swing alone with him. Any input on that? Like I said prior... we've only been with women otherwise, and still haven't experienced a couple, although we have some in the possible works for this weekend's club Xmas event. HELP __________________ ************************ Sonya and Larren Management @ NorCalNites.com

12-11-2003, 11:40 AM	#4 (permalink)
VegasLee Laura's Male Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 1,277 Location: Las Vegas, Nevada Status: Laura's Male	Any time we party we are always in the same building. We do not go out on "dates" without each other. That seems to be our main rule if you want to call it that. Laura may find a guy at a club that is not real up on having a 3sum or me being there and if she is comfortable with him she will go alone in a private room with him. I may do the same thing at times with a lady. Most of the time we prefer that both of us is atleast in the same area to watch each other. Most of the time we end up in the same "pile" Main rule we have is that we Always know where the other one is even if we are not in the same room with each other. __________________ Lee Lifestyles News *Remember when Swinging was about having sex?*

12-11-2003, 03:00 PM	#5 (permalink)
Brit_Pair Active Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 3,635 Location: UK Status: Couple	Well, since we got into this to enhance our pleasure as a couple, it's same room only for us. __________________ *It's not going to be an orgy. It's a toga party . . .*

12-11-2003, 06:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
jcbicouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 680 Location: Indiana Status: Happily Married Couple SLS Name:jcbicouple	We voted for same room, since there was no choice for "same bed". We always stay together, even when playing with others.

12-11-2003, 06:53 PM	#7 (permalink)
imsnowman Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 429 Location: TX Status: couple	As others have said, How about "same bed"?

12-11-2003, 09:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
sexypairca Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 670 Location: Windsor, Ontario Status: married couple SLS Name:sexypairca	Had to vote for "all of the above". Really depends on the situation. Annette __________________ I'm not cheap, but I am on special this week.

12-11-2003, 11:44 PM	#9 (permalink)
hmr hmr Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 416 Location: Roanoke,VA Status: Couple SLS Name:hmr	It is usually same room. We started this together, and we usually stay together. Sometimes the same bed, sometimes, just a different place in the room. Our regular monthly party can be same building, but there are very few swinging partners I feel that comfortable with. It all depends on the circumstances, and we know how mine backfired. But there are others we have known for a while, where the circumstaces may change, and lead us to separate rooms in the future. Only time will tell. But, it will always be within earshot! mrs hmr __________________ hmr Last edited by hmr : 12-11-2003 at 11:49 PM.

12-12-2003, 02:37 PM	#10 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,122 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	We've done both same room and separate rooms. Both are fun in their own way. Same room is fun because we do it together and can watch each other in action. With separate rooms, we get to tell each other what went on when we get back together and that usually is the beginning of some super-hot lovemaking. Which tastes better? Ice Cream or Chocolate Cake? We tried playing separately once, under special circumstances, but it didn't turn out the way we wanted, so we haven't tried it again. We might, under special circumstances, but only with the other's knowledge and approval. We've both given the other our blessing to fuck certain (named) people should the opportunity ever arise, but that is so unlikely it's really a non-issue. Mr. Alura

12-12-2003, 06:06 PM	#11 (permalink)
lcjtsd Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 125 Location: NO LONGER PARTICIPATING!!! Status: Couple	Although I haven't as yet, my wife has played separately. I love it when she walks in the door and I know what she has been doing. Besides, she brings home a video of her fun which we watch together and then our fun begins!!!

12-12-2003, 06:18 PM	#12 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,441 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A SLS Name:PA_Panache	We only play together in the same room. Part of the fun is seeing each other get pleasured by our playmates! __________________ "May God be with you."

12-12-2003, 06:38 PM	#13 (permalink)
sexyRus_inMass Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 55 Location: Mass Status: happily married	Always same room, this is definitely a "team sport." The only situation where we were in the same room with two beds (we're pretty new)- we took advantage of it and moved them together to make one big one! So i guess we still have to answer same bed. We look at swinging separately as a division between us - just our personal philosophy and find nothing wrong with others having a difference of opinion. The best thing about this community is the ability to express yourself the way you want without judgement from others.

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TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,187 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 31	Desires Technically, we have nothing against swinging separately. We are certainly secure enough in our relationship to allow it. It just so happens that our fantasies lead to group sex rather than just different partners. We have played separately when in a house party setting, but our desires are for hot group sex whether 3somes, 4somes or moresomes. We already have the best couple (one on one) sex we could have with each other, so why spend time playing separately when we could be having more fun together with others. Telling each other about what occured while playing separately was/is hot, but we would much rather be there to watch each other, even if only as an observer. Our play time is limited enough that we prefer to spend it pursuing what we both enjoy the most. TNT __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

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