Would you like a MFM 3some that is NOT within a 4some?

**TNT** · 12-10-2003, 09:13 PM

This comes from another post that got me to thinking and wanting to elaborate a bit more on from a woman’s point of view, as well as, post a poll to see what the women really think.

It seems that a lot of people believe that there is no difference between having a MFM 3some within a 4some (MFMF) and just a MFM 3some (couple + single man).

They are right in one sense but having a 3some within a 4some is totally different than just a 3some.

Yes you can achieve any position you want in either scenario, but a 3some within a 4some always leaves one person left out. Yes, there is nothing wrong with this and we have done so on many occasions and have enjoyed it immensely but it does not have the same feel as a true 3some.

When we have a 3some within a 4some, I am always aware of the fact that the other woman is sitting there waiting her turn, I feel rushed and worried that she’s not having a good time, even when she assures me she is in no hurry and is fine with watching. I don’t mind being watched, but there are times when I really don’t want to be. I enjoy watching Ted in a 3some, but there again, the other woman is constantly asking me if I am fine and I have to reassure her to go ahead and enjoy herself.

In a 3some there is none of that pressure…I don’t have to feel rushed, I don’t have anyone watching and waiting, I don’t have to reassure someone I am fine and I get two men totally to myself for the whole night without any worries at all. And darn it, there are just times when all I want are two men without another woman being there.

Yes, good single men are as hard to come by as a single bi-female. But, they are out there and the good ones are no more likely to cause trouble for you than a couple.

I have discovered through talking to a lot of women that they would love to have a MFM 3some, but their husband won’t go for it. He only wants to have FMF or MFMF because there is another woman there for him to enjoy and won’t even consider a MFM. (I honestly think this has to do with an insecurity issue on the husband’s part, when it’s something that the wife would like to try but that is just my personal opinion.)

So my question is…Women if you had the chance for a MFM 3some that was NOT within a MFMF 4some would you want to try it?

NOTE: I am not knocking on 4somes as those are extremely fun but for this post, I’m focusing on 3somes.

Teresa

Miss_Piggy · 12-11-2003, 12:24 AM

I'm definitely into the idea of an MFM.

Kermit likes the idea of an FMF better although he is interested in an MFM. This might make a good poll.

~Piggy

Miss_Piggy · 12-11-2003, 12:28 AM

okay.

that was particularly dumb. I see that this is a poll

Sorry.

*Piggy walks away sheepishly*

:slam"

**TNT** · 12-11-2003, 08:13 AM

Don't worry Miss Piggy, I too suffer from "blonde moments" on a regular basis.

Teresa

Elusive BiFem · 12-11-2003, 08:43 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Miss_Piggy
okay.

that was particularly dumb. I see that this is a poll

Sorry.

*Piggy walks away sheepishly*

:slam"

That's OK, Miss Piggy...we all have those moments. I posted to someone on a Welcome thing the other day that their avatar was really cool and suggested that they enter it in Julies contest. Thought I'd done a fine job until my good friend wrnakedru pointed out that the avatar was one of the board things...

......and she deliberately waited until it was too late for me to edit the post. So there I sit...forever...looking dumb as a rock.

Whatever...it was a cool avatar.....<EG> - EBF

SexhoundDog · 12-11-2003, 12:58 PM

Teresa,
This would be a REALLY interesting poll (it will be anyway), if you had duplicate sets of responses to check off, only one was for women to answer and the other for men.

By the way, you look like some kind of fox from your photo!

jcbicouple · 12-11-2003, 05:08 PM

We voted for choice #1, as there was no completely accurate choice for us. We have had several MMF threesomes, and have enjoyed them very much. Of course we also enjoy any combo of threesomes, foursomes, or moresomes.

**TNT** · 12-11-2003, 08:14 PM

jcbicouple

You'll have to forgive me, this was the very first time I have ever posted a poll...hopefully the next time I will get it right, lol.

This is a subject that I was very interested in from the woman's point of view as my best friend in the world (next to Ted) wants a MFM threesome really bad but her husband will not even discuss it. He is fine with FMF, FMFM, but not MFM and I was wondering how many other women also would like to try a MFM 3some.

Like you two, we enjoy it all

Teresa

**TNT** · 12-11-2003, 08:16 PM

SexhoundDog,

Thank you

Teresa

4funfriend · 12-11-2003, 08:22 PM

I agree with jcbicouple, as we are in the same "boat". We have a single male friend that we play with often outside of our circle of friends. They all know about each other and are fine with the arrangement.** Finding the right guy for us wasn't too hard, but it did take longer then 2-3 weeks. Just make sure that you talk about everything!!! Take your time and get to know the person so that you are sure you are all on the same page.

**This would make an interesting poll. (If I only knew how to post one.)
If you had a circle of regular play mates that didn't like the idea of a MFM situation and you did. Would you tell your play mates if you met someone single that you wanted to play with?

facelick

**TNT** · 12-11-2003, 08:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by 4funfriend
**This would make an interesting poll. (If I only knew how to post one.)

If you had a circle of regular play mates that didn't like the idea of a MFM situation and you did. Would you tell your play mates if you met someone single that you wanted to play with?
facelick

Interesting question 4funfriend, why don't you start a new thread with this question...it should promote lots of discussion.

Teresafacelick

curious24 · 12-11-2003, 11:29 PM

I'm not a woman but I had to reply to this message. I just saw the results of the poll and being a single male and hearing all the bad things about single males I was kind of shocked to see the results of 29 people or 78% so far said "Yes, I would like to try a MFM 3some, if we could find a good single man"

I know this has been talked to death.. but where do you all find good single men? It looks like to me people aren't finding them? Why is this? IMO I think that finding a good guy is like trying to find the good single bi-female.

I am also very interested in trying a MFM. Probabaly more so than a FMF. My problem is two fold. The stereotype of the single male and the fact that I want to meet a good couple just like the couple wants to meet a good male.

It seems to me it's like trying to get a credit card... they won't let you have one unless you have good credit, but you can't get good credit unless you have the credit card...

ugh

Brit_Pair · 12-13-2003, 06:06 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by curious24
IMO I think that finding a good guy is like trying to find the good single bi-female.

IMHO, finding a good single man is indeed challenging. But trying to find a good single bi-female is like trying to find the Holy Grail.

Or the Arc of the Covenant.

Atlantis anyone?

2New2it · 12-13-2003, 07:46 AM

The problem is defining a "good single man". His opinion of good and what the couple thinks is good are usually entirely different concepts. It doesn't take much conversation with a perspective playmate to reach that conclusion. We are open to single men, but turn down literally hundreds of guys who think they are perfect for us.

The biggest problem we've found is that most applicants apparently can't read or comprehend. No tattoos means no tattoos. No piercings means no piercings. No facial hair means no facial hair. Hair on head does not mean bald. Five-six is not tall. Age twenty-two is not over forty and age seventy two is over fifty. Married is not single. Four-hundred pounds is not slightly overweight. Filthy fingernails, unbrushed teeth and wife-beater shirts are not cleancut.

12-13-2003, 08:35 AM

I have discovered through talking to a lot of women that they would love to have a MFM 3some, but their husband won’t go for it. He only wants to have FMF or MFMF because there is another woman there for him to enjoy and won’t even consider a MFM. (I honestly think this has to do with an insecurity issue on the husband’s part, when it’s something that the wife would like to try but that is just my personal opinion.)

So my question is…Women if you had the chance for a MFM 3some that was NOT within a MFMF 4some would you want to try it?

This was my feeling going into our first MFM threesome. Not insecure, but not liking the fact that I wasn't going to have a woman to enjoy. But it was something the wife wanted to try, so I agreed. Once the fun started I found it very enjoyable.

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View Poll Results: Would you like a MFM 3some that is NOT within a 4some?
Yes, I would like to try a MFM 3some, if we could find a good single man	1005	74.55%
No, I would not like to try a MFM 3some	94	6.97%
We have MFM 3somes within our 4somes and that is just fine by me	285	21.14%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 1348. You may not vote on this poll

12-10-2003, 09:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,842 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 50	Would you like a MFM 3some that is NOT within a 4some? This comes from another post that got me to thinking and wanting to elaborate a bit more on from a woman’s point of view, as well as, post a poll to see what the women really think. It seems that a lot of people believe that there is no difference between having a MFM 3some within a 4some (MFMF) and just a MFM 3some (couple + single man). They are right in one sense but having a 3some within a 4some is totally different than just a 3some. Yes you can achieve any position you want in either scenario, but a 3some within a 4some always leaves one person left out. Yes, there is nothing wrong with this and we have done so on many occasions and have enjoyed it immensely but it does not have the same feel as a true 3some. When we have a 3some within a 4some, I am always aware of the fact that the other woman is sitting there waiting her turn, I feel rushed and worried that she’s not having a good time, even when she assures me she is in no hurry and is fine with watching. I don’t mind being watched, but there are times when I really don’t want to be. I enjoy watching Ted in a 3some, but there again, the other woman is constantly asking me if I am fine and I have to reassure her to go ahead and enjoy herself. In a 3some there is none of that pressure…I don’t have to feel rushed, I don’t have anyone watching and waiting, I don’t have to reassure someone I am fine and I get two men totally to myself for the whole night without any worries at all. And darn it, there are just times when all I want are two men without another woman being there. Yes, good single men are as hard to come by as a single bi-female. But, they are out there and the good ones are no more likely to cause trouble for you than a couple. I have discovered through talking to a lot of women that they would love to have a MFM 3some, but their husband won’t go for it. He only wants to have FMF or MFMF because there is another woman there for him to enjoy and won’t even consider a MFM. (I honestly think this has to do with an insecurity issue on the husband’s part, when it’s something that the wife would like to try but that is just my personal opinion.) So my question is…Women if you had the chance for a MFM 3some that was NOT within a MFMF 4some would you want to try it? NOTE: I am not knocking on 4somes as those are extremely fun but for this post, I’m focusing on 3somes. Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

12-11-2003, 12:24 AM	#2 (permalink)
Miss_Piggy mildly abnormal Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 1,404 Location: Sometimes Canada Status: I'm with Kermit Blog Entries: 2	I'm definitely into the idea of an MFM. Kermit likes the idea of an FMF better although he is interested in an MFM. This might make a good poll. ~Piggy __________________ I feel that a woman doesn't have to be called 'Ms.' in order to be a woman of her own making. I believe 'Miss' allows moi to be a woman, and my karate can get me anything else Last edited by Miss_Piggy : 12-11-2003 at 12:29 AM.

12-11-2003, 12:28 AM	#3 (permalink)
Miss_Piggy mildly abnormal Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 1,404 Location: Sometimes Canada Status: I'm with Kermit Blog Entries: 2	hahahahaha okay. that was particularly dumb. I see that this is a poll Sorry. Piggy walks away sheepishly :slam" __________________ I feel that a woman doesn't have to be called 'Ms.' in order to be a woman of her own making. I believe 'Miss' allows moi to be a woman, and my karate can get me anything else

12-11-2003, 08:13 AM	#4 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,842 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 50	Don't worry Miss Piggy, I too suffer from "blonde moments" on a regular basis. Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

12-11-2003, 12:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Teresa, This would be a REALLY interesting poll (it will be anyway), if you had duplicate sets of responses to check off, only one was for women to answer and the other for men. By the way, you look like some kind of fox from your photo!

12-11-2003, 05:08 PM	#7 (permalink)
jcbicouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 680 Location: Indiana Status: Happily Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:jcbicouple	We voted for choice #1, as there was no completely accurate choice for us. We have had several MMF threesomes, and have enjoyed them very much. Of course we also enjoy any combo of threesomes, foursomes, or moresomes.

12-11-2003, 08:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,842 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 50	jcbicouple You'll have to forgive me, this was the very first time I have ever posted a poll...hopefully the next time I will get it right, lol. This is a subject that I was very interested in from the woman's point of view as my best friend in the world (next to Ted) wants a MFM threesome really bad but her husband will not even discuss it. He is fine with FMF, FMFM, but not MFM and I was wondering how many other women also would like to try a MFM 3some. Like you two, we enjoy it all Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

12-11-2003, 08:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,842 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 50	SexhoundDog, Thank you Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

12-11-2003, 08:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
4funfriend Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 55 Location: Carroll County MD Status: Couple	I agree with jcbicouple, as we are in the same "boat". We have a single male friend that we play with often outside of our circle of friends. They all know about each other and are fine with the arrangement. Finding the right guy for us wasn't too hard, but it did take longer then 2-3 weeks. Just make sure that you talk about everything!!! Take your time and get to know the person so that you are sure you are all on the same page. This would make an interesting poll. (If I only knew how to post one.) If you had a circle of regular play mates that didn't like the idea of a MFM situation and you did. Would you tell your play mates if you met someone single that you wanted to play with? facelick

12-11-2003, 11:29 PM	#12 (permalink)
curious24 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 696 Location: austin, tx Status: Single Male	I'm not a woman but I had to reply to this message. I just saw the results of the poll and being a single male and hearing all the bad things about single males I was kind of shocked to see the results of 29 people or 78% so far said "Yes, I would like to try a MFM 3some, if we could find a good single man" I know this has been talked to death.. but where do you all find good single men? It looks like to me people aren't finding them? Why is this? IMO I think that finding a good guy is like trying to find the good single bi-female. I am also very interested in trying a MFM. Probabaly more so than a FMF. My problem is two fold. The stereotype of the single male and the fact that I want to meet a good couple just like the couple wants to meet a good male. It seems to me it's like trying to get a credit card... they won't let you have one unless you have good credit, but you can't get good credit unless you have the credit card... ugh

12-13-2003, 07:46 AM	#14 (permalink)
2New2it Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 96 Location: Fort Worth Status: couple	The problem is defining a "good single man". His opinion of good and what the couple thinks is good are usually entirely different concepts. It doesn't take much conversation with a perspective playmate to reach that conclusion. We are open to single men, but turn down literally hundreds of guys who think they are perfect for us. The biggest problem we've found is that most applicants apparently can't read or comprehend. No tattoos means no tattoos. No piercings means no piercings. No facial hair means no facial hair. Hair on head does not mean bald. Five-six is not tall. Age twenty-two is not over forty and age seventy two is over fifty. Married is not single. Four-hundred pounds is not slightly overweight. Filthy fingernails, unbrushed teeth and wife-beater shirts are not cleancut.

12-13-2003, 08:35 AM	#15 (permalink)
Willbfun Posts: n/a	Re: 3somes I have discovered through talking to a lot of women that they would love to have a MFM 3some, but their husband won’t go for it. He only wants to have FMF or MFMF because there is another woman there for him to enjoy and won’t even consider a MFM. (I honestly think this has to do with an insecurity issue on the husband’s part, when it’s something that the wife would like to try but that is just my personal opinion.) So my question is…Women if you had the chance for a MFM 3some that was NOT within a MFMF 4some would you want to try it? This was my feeling going into our first MFM threesome. Not insecure, but not liking the fact that I wasn't going to have a woman to enjoy. But it was something the wife wanted to try, so I agreed. Once the fun started I found it very enjoyable.

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