Would you like a MFM 3some that is NOT within a 4some?

[yawanna]

IMO I think that finding a good guy is like trying to find the good single bi-female

There are far fewer single bi women than there are men; single or married but playing with a permission slip or cheating.

There can be problems with both single men and women, as there can be amongst or between couples. Swingers tend mostly to be couples, and if there were as many problems in locating suitable couples to play with, well then.... wouldn't couples or even swinging suffer a lot of damage from a bad reputation? I don't mean the taboo element, I mean the bad vs good experience quotient.

It has been our experience that the majority of women who play without their male partner with what has been referred to as boy toys, are looking to 'trade up' on their present partner, or if truly single, have one eye on finding a boyfriend.

Those are pretty much 2 of the 3 categories women playing as singles fall into...the third is they treat swinging as recreational sex...no strings, ties or other expectations.

Single men, perhaps due to their large numbers, fall into innumerable categories.....one being, with few 'members'...the good single guy.

We have up here something we call 'the wolf pack'.... we've literally seen them circle the crowd at a club, thus the moniker.

There are the 'service men'.... who believe they are 'servicing' a man's wife, or showing him how to do it better.

There are the 'I paid my $$ I expect sex' group.

There are the 'kids'.... barely legal young men sporting large endowments saying "I love sex' (duh)

etc. etc. etc.

I think it's just an onerous task to sift through the katrillion men wanting to swing.....I agree with TnT... the best way is to meet them at a club on the nights that single men are allowed. We still have to interview etc. but it's less trouble than responding to a hundred emails back and forth to find out if he is someone you'd feel comfortable meeting with, even for a drink.

For single men, I think the sheer volume of your peers is working against you.

[JnM_Pgh]

We have been looking for a guy that we were comfortable with to have a MFM for a long time. We finally met a guy on a trip to AZ. He was awesome! He was nice looking, a real gentleman, clean considerate, the whole works! He and I met on the evening before the wife was to arrive in town. We chatted over a couple drinks and I was pleased and hoped that he would do as well with the wife. We all 3 met the next night and things went much better than we ever expected! The night of fun was ended at 2:30 AM and everybody was very satisfied! We have made plans to meet him again in Feb when we go to Las Vegas! So as far as the poll goes, yes we would certainly have a MFM "if" we could meet the right guy!

[tbop]

I prefer "playing" with a couple. I have played with the wife and the husband either watched or was off playing with someone else. But honestly, I prefer the 3some thing. I dunno why. Maybe it's a security thing.

[Vjklander]

We have done MFM FMF MFMF MMMFMMM and a few others. I really think most single males are ok guys, they just get a bad rap from a few bad apples.
J

[jcbicouple]

Originally posted by Vjklander
We have done MFM FMF MFMF MMMFMMM and a few others. I really think most single males are ok guys, they just get a bad rap from a few bad apples.
J

We'd have to agree. We've enjoyed our encounters with single males as much, and probably more in most cases than we have with females or couples. There have been a few bad apples, but that has been a small minority.

Hi Im in the same boat as alot of you gals. My hubby will not go for a mfm because his is the only in his bed. So we discussed the possibility of my having a mfm experience when we are at a house party. Then i can be in one room with my two guys and he can have his one in his room. LOL I'll let you know how it works out.

[Maus-Katz]

Originally posted by douwanna
his is the only in his bed.
have his one in his room.

Perhaps I'l dense, and I did just wake up, but what did you mean to replace with ?

M

[Greg & Sheryl]

We don’t have any objection to MFM threesomes, but we don’t actively pursue them. Everywhere we go online, we find ourselves bombarded by single men who are looking to join us. There’s no way we can filter through all of them, so we have to decline all of their offers.

However, there is one single male who lives in nearby that is a good friend of ours. He also has a reputation in our city as the most sought-after single male in the swinging community. We have had him join us for MFM experiences in the past and he will likely join us in the future.

Besides this gentleman, there is only one other man with whom we have shared a MFM encounter. Believe it or not, he was a local paramedic we met online and spontaneously invited to our place. Sheryl has enjoyed all of our MFM threesome experiences, but she isn’t looking to do that very often. We are just too couple-centric.

[sandk]

Originally posted by curious24
where do you all find good single men? It looks like to me people aren't finding them? Why is this? IMO I think that finding a good guy is like trying to find the good single bi-female.

And Texas is just so far away!

Seriously, finding someone compatible isn't easy for a couple, much less adding a third person!

But, I think it will be worth the wait

K (and S)

ps. I'm the female

[curious24]

Originally posted by sandk
And Texas is just so far away!

Seriously, finding someone compatible isn't easy for a couple, much less adding a third person!

But, I think it will be worth the wait

K (and S)

ps. I'm the female

lol... i get "Texas is just so far away!" all the time...

i'm thinking that i need to move..

anyway.. i totally agree with you that waiting to find the right person or persons is the best thing.. that's just one of the reasons why i haven't had an experience yet.. well that and "Texas is just so far away!" hehe

[Maus-Katz]

We were just talking about this at dinner this evening... I had thought about the FMF thing but had never really given any consideration to the MFM thing before... Sounds like it could be fun, I'm pretty open to a new experience...

L (the other half who hasn't posted until tonight...)

[ready2pla]

That is where the male partners are wrong they don't think there will be a woman there for them too enjoy. Unless your threesomes are with three guys you will have one very happy and appreciative lady for you too enjoy. If you could pick one lady too make very happy sexually wouldn't you pick your partner.
Now I am not talking about inviting a guy over and you go sit in the corner while he nails your wife to the bed!!! Jump in there and help him out that is what she is wanting. Two men paying attention too her. Find out by talking if she would like one in her mouth while she is getting pounded good. And if she is like my wife she my just jump for a chance at a DP.

[Alura]

Originally posted by Maus-Katz
We were just talking about this at dinner this evening... I had thought about the FMF thing but had never really given any consideration to the MFM thing before... Sounds like it could be fun, I'm pretty open to a new experience...

L (the other half who hasn't posted until tonight...)

Welcome to the board, L. Here's hopin' we hear a lot more from you!

Mr. Alura

[sandk]

Originally posted by jcbicouple
We'd have to agree. We've enjoyed our encounters with single males as much, and probably more in most cases than we have with females or couples. There have been a few bad apples, but that has been a small minority.

For us, we seem to encounter the "single" male who has a SO (meaning they really aren't single) and their SO "doesn't understand" or "isn't interested", etc. It gets tiresome to read through all the emails from the obviously horny married men to find the real single good men.

We've said, in our various profiles, we aren't interested in males who have an SO that "doesn't understand", but we still get numerous emails from them. Sometimes we wonder if they are just so horny they can't understand what they read, if they read at all. It must make it harder for the good single men to find couples. I don't envy them.

We have encountered a few single men and have enjoyed their company tremendously!

K (of S and K)

[customhardtail]

We have a single friend that we play with on occations...my hubby is usually the instigator... He knows I love to suck one while I'm being fucked by the other.

We also have had MFM within a foursome.

It's all good!