Racial Diversity in the lifestyle

[JustAskJulie]

I'm curious as to what people's thoughts are on mixing races within the lifestyle. So I post a poll.....

(you can select as many of the above responses as apply to you).

Feel free to post your thoughts on racial diversity within swinging as well as any experiences you have had in this regard.

[JustAskJulie]

Interesting that this post has had 90+ views and only 5 people have even responded in the poll.

FYI: the poll is anonymous.

[jcbicouple]

We'll reply! We like all colors. We have actually turned down playing with people because they were prejudice and it was obvious. We don't deal well with people who think that someone is less of a person due to race. There are particular "cultures" that we don't agree with, and therefore wouldn't play with someone within those, but we consider that very different from race. It's more about sharing common interests and beliefs, than what race they are.

[NotsoNew]

We look for the personality first. No limits on race here.

[thump29]

We like all races. Personality is the most important thing for us too. Race has never bothered us as long as we all get along.

[BiloxiCouple]

We are not racially limited. We look at personality first. We are an Equal Opportunity Lifestyle Fuck.

Variety is the spice of life. If all you like is salt, then you are missing the rest of the spices.

Thanks to Julie for bringing this up!!!! And get down to Biloxi girl!!!!!

We look at the personality and the way we get along. Race doesn't matter to us.

Julie, I would like to add something which was of little concern to us at the time, but found it a little distrubing. Our first MFM was also my wife's first interracial experience. Which everything went fine. But later the talk had got around amoung our friends. Actually most of the couples in our group enjoyed the company of this single black gentleman. And he was often the topic of many conversations, because of his reputation with the women. So I took a little razzing from the guys, and my wife had to go off with the ladies, and tell them how things went. All in fun. But later that evening while setting at a table, with another couple. The man made a conment about how he didn't want his wife with any black guy. We never let it bother us. But since of the 20 or so couples that hang around together, and all were open about their interracial meetings. we found it strange for him to make that comment. After my wife's first time.

We feel if people don't like interracial that is their business, but we felt his comment was out of place at the time. Especially when he's in a group who don't care about race.

[JustAskJulie]

I have had people (other swingers and non) take issue with me when they have found out that I have been with black guys. Early on we had at least one couple that we played with then never played with again because they showed their prejudice side.

It's all about what you like or don't like. If you dont' have any desire to be with someone of another race or whatever that's your preference (so it doesn't turn you on big deal).... but to say that others are wrong for doing so is another story.

Or to take issue when you visit a club because there are other races there. They are there for the same reason that you are and just like any other couple if you aren't interested in them then you dont' have to play with them, but they still have just as much right to be there as you do.

[yawanna]

I have always been astounded at the 'whiteness' of the swinging community, particularly the clubs and house parties (our version of your on premise clubs).

White, middle and lower classes. One club purported to be upper echelon like doctors and lawyers, but it was just more white middle class folks.

'round here..the majority of blacks are in the single men, there are a few interracial couples of black and white and a few white and asian, and a few same race east indian.

I often wonder.. why?

[RnLinohio]

i know that the club we attend has all nationalities, but we have no preference to race. I have had several men think that because i turned them down it was because of there color. And have not wanted to even talk to me because of that. But it wasn't that i wasn't into different races, it was because i wasn't into men. My husband is mixed, and we have had several incounters with black women, asain women......... as long as they have a good personality and we are both attracted to her........ then lets go for it.


On the other hand i have met several white couples in the lifestyle that won't go with other races. but they are by no means rude about it........ they have said that they just don't find other races attractive. I don't know weither they are predudice or not, but i feel everyone has there choices. As long as the dont judge me, and look down on me because i do go with other races, then it is all good........... but as soon as someone that is rude to someone of another race..... or as i like to say. shows their ass......... i want nothing to do with them.

just my .02

Robin

[Amy and Mike]

An attractive guy is an attractive guy, and I've met men of many different races that I find attractive. I also had a black boyfriend once. But I'm from Los Angels where things tend to be more integrated and people more openminded. I'm pretty sure hubby feels the same way about women.

By the way, I admit I'm completely in LUST with Jesse L Martin from Law & Order.

http://www.nbc.com/Law_&_Order/bios/...L._Martin.html

[Dani&Drew]

Not only am I willing, I'd love to enjoy some interracial I always thought it was a shame not to see a more diverse range of swingers, even in heavily racially mixed areas like West Michigan cities.

[colleen4]

We really enjoy interracial experiences. Primarily we have been with blacks. Colleen loves a strong black man with a big cock, she says their cum tastes better than white guys. I enjoy watch her fuck a black man. the sight of a hard black shaft pounding my sweet colleen's white pussy turns me on so much.

[Greg & Sheryl]

Although interracial couples are occasionally spotted in the Colorado swing scene, black couples are quite rare. As much as we would like to see more diversity among Colorado swingers, we realize that this is caused by de facto segregation that we can do little about. While there are a number of black males around who are married to either white or Latin women (we even know of one black male/Asian female couple), it seems like black women are virtually non-existent in the Lifestyle.

Greg has a theory about this based on his dating experience prior to meeting Sheryl. Generally, black women do seem to be easier to get into bed, although this may be in part because Greg is also black. But white women, once you get them into bed, seem to be much more willing to experiment. These experiments may include such things as anal sex, role-playing, erotic photography, BDSM, and swinging.

Conversely, it seems like many black women don’t even want to perform oral sex. Greg attended a historically black college in the 1980’s and couldn’t even buy a blowjob from many of the coeds there! These results from a study at the University of Arkansas (http://comp.uark.edu/~nlwilli/ho5.htm) seem to confirm this aversion:

Frequency of Oral-genital Stimulation:
1. 75% of white women report performing oral sex; 78% of white women report receiving oral sex.
2. 34% of black women report performing oral sex; 49% of black women report receiving oral sex.

At our most recent visit to a local on-premise swing club, there was only one black female in attendance. She is married to a white gentleman and they are regulars at this club. Including us, there were three black men at the club who were all with white women. The remaining 35 couples (our estimate) were all white, although a few appeared to be Hispanic. There were no Asians present. We don’t make race-based decisions on who we play with, but it would be nice to see a greater variety of people. After all, isn’t variety a big reason why many of us swing?