Racial Diversity in the lifestyle

[TheGentleman]

Interesting question Julie. I am a black man and I have limited swing club experience. I find that white people are more open about this issue than black. Also black people stereotypically dont seek sexual pleasure at swing clubs .. This alternative lifestyle is not frequent in black culture. Why ? I would assume because the integration of our society is still not as open and exposure to the lifestyle and people is limited to mostly whites and blacks who more integrated into the general society .. either in education, work, or neighborhood enviroments ... To let your sexual desires out is freedom in a sense ... Interesting question !

[oddcouple2841]

This is K (the male)

With myself it is more a matter of attraction. Preference in pornography may be a good indicator. I find that I am attracted to Caucassion, Black, Asian, American Indian and some Hispanics. I find that I have little to no attraction to East Indian, Middle Eastern or dark haired latins.

I do not consider myself racist but I do believe we each have some predjudice in all of us. This being said I think most persons tend to gravitate to their own "safety level" or situations where they feel at least somewhat comfortable. I myself would not want to venture off immediatly with a couple of a different race because I would too far beyond my comfort level at this point. In the future though I see where it could be a definate possibility.

[Mrs.PaganLovers]

Humans are humans, color is only skin deep. We are all alike, there are cultural differences. I happen to have been lucky enough to experience a wide range of different cultures.

I do have certain things that I am attracted to but that is a whole different topic, in my humble opinion.

Blessings
Mrs. PL

[mr&mrsbees]

We are Asians-Caucasian. People usually stereotype us until they talk to us We are well traveled (due to work/educations/vacations) couple and have seen and received many reactions from people, so we adapt and adept to cultures and behaviors whenever we have to. Most of the time we get a very good treatment

M & Mrs Bees

[eatscherry]

Hhhmmmm... I go out with girls of all types . One of my girlfriends likes SLAYER and AFI and the other likes 2LIVE CREW so you can guess what they look like . But I have found that the choices people make is basesd on race , sometimes . But some people try to force it and others vailidate being racist every chance they get and for any reason . And me being black does make things harder dating defferent people .

[stu]

It's a question of being on the same wave length...of liking or disliking...culture has not much to do with it.......its a different matter that one might gel better with some one of their own culture...but then on the other hand...some one from another culture...'intriguing'...I should think .

[richdon03]

We are an inter-racial couple (Black Male, Caucasian female) in New England. Like the population, most clubs are predominantly white. However, we constantly receive invitations to all sorts of clubs and parties and have witnessed very little discrimination, per se. What we find interesting is that there are relatively few African American Couples actively participating in the lifestyle. I believe it was TheGentleman who mentioned that alternative lifestyles are not generally practiced in the black community. This is largely correct. African Americans tend to be exceptionally conservative about most sexual issues, at least publicly. Someone mentioned surveys regarding oral sex practices, for example. They also tend to be more homophobic as a group than most cultures. Finally, prejudice is not a trait posessed by solely caucasians. There is a very large part of the African American community that would never consider getting sexually involved with caucasians.

That being said, your fantasy is your fantasy. If you don't want to have sex with a black person, that's your choice. We're just thrilled that the swinging community in our area is as welcoming as it is. If Rich approaches a white woman who isn't attracted to black men (as rare as that is), he just moves on to the next one. Black men are in demand in these parts. As for Donna, white men are a special treat. We're glad we're in New England. Rich is from the south (Texas). There are still people in those parts that believe it is a sin to mix the races. Swinging and race-mixing may be more of a risk than they are willing to take.

[conley&caramel]

We are in Southeast Michigan, and feel we have been faced with racial prejudice in many swinger clubs. We don't let it bother us,we enjoy ourselves and always stay open minded. By the way,we are a happily married blk cpl. We have been to only been to one club that made us feel uncomfortable. Needless to say we have not returned. We are opened to any race, we are much more deeper than skin color. Thank you for this topic,it helps us to have a better understanding of what we are dealing with in this lifestyle. G & J

[goldengirl]

Let me start off by saying that I'm a biracial (black & white) and growing up my step-father was Persian (from Iran) and grew up as a non-mormon in UT..And what I've learned is that people aren't really different they just have different life expierinces,as we all do. But I must say that to some degree the fact that people seriously ask themselves wether or not they'd be with another person based on race(blacke,white,hispanic etc...) completly rediculous. I've had friends of many different cultural/racial backgrounds tell me they wouldn't date a certain race (there's no such thing as reverse rascism in my book only rascism) and I put them in check for it.

I also find just as offensive when I've had friends or others tell me they want to be with me or someone else based solely on there race for exsample peolpe who say they have "Asain Fever" or date black men" because they all have hudge cocks" or that "white women are sluts"(I personally find it a HUGE turn off ). Both points of view are to me, dehumanizing because either way your not dealing with a person your only choosing to deal with a part of them that they had no control in creating.For every stereotype there is sout there, there is someone that can disprove it. Now if you find someones skin tone or there hair or eyes etc.. attractive , that's great! But when you limit yourself to the types of people you have in your life based only on race then you limit your growth as a human being . That being said I wish you all luck in finding what your looking for and luck in challeging any beliefs that you may have that limits your ability to expierence yourself as a sexual being and a human being.Namaste'

[hochongs]

Children are all foreigners.

[wifes_sex_slave]

The club we attend outside Toronto is primarily caucasion - don't ask why because there are so many different races in the area - there is no excuse.

My skin colour is white, but I am a Heinz 57. My family background is English, Irish, German, French, Dutch and my great grandmother was black. I have married an Hispanic woman so our children have that as well.

I see absolutely no reason to believe that anyone who wants to have sex with so many people in this lifestyle would be prejudice just because the colour of the skin is different from their own.

I just read the post from awhile ago RE: DARK ROOM and there were so many people who responded "Yeah, let's go". Now think about it this way, "IF" perchance you were involved in this "dark room" orgy and everyone was having a fun sucking, f*cking, feeling, tasting and a good time was had by all - when the lights were turned on - would you then be upset to find the room was full of several races mixed and mingled with your own juices?

I want to have a good time with people who are interesting, funny, erotic, etc... I don't care what colour they are.

Hey, if James T. Kirk can do a green girl - so can I! facelick

[The_Phoenyxes]

Mr. Bird and i are an inter-racial couple (white male and 1/2 black 1/2 white female). We dont rule anyone out because of race. As long as they have a good personality then we are good. Just think about how many good experiences that could get away from you if you put up barieers like that!

[naturalwoman]

I am in an interracial relationship, I am white my partner is black. We actually started hosting our own swinger parties after we found our experiences at the clubs to be very uncomfortable. Our parties consist of black and interracial couples which many have also have experienced uncomfortable situations at clubs. We are now going on our 10th year of hosting such parties. Our parties are open to all couples and single females and select single males, but we find most white couples decline the invitations. I don't know the reasoning behind this maybe it goes back to the old saying "birds of a feather flock together" but I definately would like to see more diversity in the swinger lifestyle and perhaps a little more understanding of interracial couples in the lifestyle. Nothing is worse than walking into a club to have my partner approached over and over to fullfill a BBC fantasy or me approached by black men only because the assumption is made when I walk into the door with my black partner that I am only interested in black men. We are there for the same reasons as everyone else..... To enhance our already incredible relationship, to fullfill or revisit a few fantasies and in return hope to fullfill others fantasies, to meet new people and to enjoy the company of likeminded individuals whatever their race may be.

As far as black couples not being as open and into the lifestyle I completely disagree!!!! At our last party here in Chicago 48 black couples were in attendence as well as 18 single black females, 20 single black males and a handful of other females (white, hispanic and asian) It's the environment not the lifestyle.

[latinlover64]

first of all i don't care what race there is swinging with me at lone it's a place where everybody get along and have a great time. and second i need help in finding a club for me i'm new in the area which is Grand Rapids Michigan and don't know where the swingers clubs are at if anybody has any clue please send me a private line to latinlover64 thanks a million "bananadog

[joe22]

Had our first black experience at the Edgewater in Oakland and wife enjoyed it very much. A number of people watched us in a three some.