Racial Diversity in the lifestyle

[teknurse]

Hmm. I've mentioned to my wife that I'm interested in black women. She has expressed to me that she has been with black men. At the club we go to fairly often, it is usually 80% white, but I've never actually seen any kind of segregation or prejudice at the club. My wife is always quick to point out that she isn't white either, being 1/2 American Indian and 1/2 Pure Blood Sicilian! Some friends of ours regularly host house parties, and there are a few black couples that attend, and it just never seemed to be an issue. It's funny, I always thought of swingers as being more 'tolerant' as a whole, not just about sex, but I may have been wearing my racial blinders....

Allen

[Oreocookie]

We are an interracial White male/ Black female married couple that attends a swingers club here in Atlanta. The Whites do out number any other racial group & most of the time when we see another interracial couple it is always Black male/White female.

We are new to this lifestyle. Although I am shy, my husband is the epitome of extrovert, but both of us are very friendly. There have been a few times when people have been rude. One night, the male of the White couple was looking at both of us & called over his wife to speak, she told him "You cannot play with her". Also ther have been times when the the White husband has gotten slapped for looking at me. Also, my husband was talking to a White couple, & as I was coming from the restroom he introduced me & the wife told her husband "No chocolate tonight".

We have met some very nice White & Black couples there. Until everyone, no matter what race you are, learn to be more respectful if there is no intrest & not show such "nastiness", the swingers clubs will never become a melting pot.

[Oreocookie]

We are VERY much in love with each other & have no intention of causing problems. We always play together as a team.

Sorry for the sloppy spelling in last thread.
"Interest"
Corrected!

Have A Nice Day !

The Toronto club that we sometimes frequent is predominantly white though there are a few interacial couples usually an Asian / caucasion combo. If there is a black couple they are usually way below our age range. As one of the most racially diversified cities in North America there must be swinging black couples of our generation around somewhere.

Long b4 I met Puss I was involved with a very sexy black lady who, had we not been married to others at the time, would have been very willing to join the lifestyle. Of course that would have just made us another black / white couple.

It is not the race of someone who makes us go ewwww...it is always something else about their manner. I find it hard to understand why anyone can justify "no sex" based on race alone. What millenium is this and who raised those bigots to have those beliefs? Those white trash should crawl back under their rocks and never get their rocks off.

My $0.02 Cdn

Kiss

[Saint John]

Yup. The fact that you are in Canada changes this conversation a lot.

I frequent Vancouver a lot and it really makes one sad to return to Yankland. Race relations are EASILY 20 years behind most of Canada. It's easily one of those things where you grow up thinking the USA is better than everyone and everything...until you travel a bit. I've also found parts of Europe to be the same.

Being in the South doesn't help. I'll be honest. I haven't seen a ton of overt discrimination like you describe, however definitely more than what I have seen in the Northern parts.

Not a slam to Southerners. Just stating the status quo.



"I have had people (other swingers and non) take issue with me when they have found out that I have been with black guys.

Quite common. Again, another failing of our society.

[hmr]

Just something I heard many years ago.

Think of all the people you know.

Now, think of all the people you would call acquiantances.

Think of all the ones you would call friends.

Think of the few you could count on when you really need it, no matter the situation.
Not very many left are there?

Concidering there are so few, why would anyone eliminate people just because of something as unimportant as their skin color?

Think about it.

Mr hmr

BTW, I'm sure you can guess the way we voted.

[Chicup]

Now this won't be well thought of I'm sure, but when it comes to sex, we makes decisions where race plays an influence, hence we are racists.

I am not attracted to black women, of course there are some who are an exception, but the 'average' black woman does not turn me on at all. Maybe Mr. Happy is a closet klan member, but when it comes to sex I listen to the little guy. If he isn't up for it either am I.

My wife isn't attracted to black men or Asian men. I've never asked her for specific reasons, but I think its the 'average' black male features and the smaller stature of most Asian men which she isn't attracted to.

Now does this make us evil racists? I don't think so its just basic attraction.

[mifligirl25]

we are a racially mixed couple also, and have never based a decision on race alone. color is only skin deep and great human beings go much deeper.

[Island guy]

Originally posted by Oreocookie
We are an interracial White male/ Black female married couple that attends a swingers club here in Atlanta. The Whites do out number any other racial group & most of the time when we see another interracial couple it is always Black male/White female.

We are new to this lifestyle. Although I am shy, my husband is the epitome of extrovert, but both of us are very friendly. There have been a few times when people have been rude. One night, the male of the White couple was looking at both of us & called over his wife to speak, she told him "You cannot play with her". Also ther have been times when the the White husband has gotten slapped for looking at me. Also, my husband was talking to a White couple, & as I was coming from the restroom he introduced me & the wife told her husband "No chocolate tonight".

We have met some very nice White & Black couples there. Until everyone, no matter what race you are, learn to be more respectful if there is no intrest & not show such "nastiness", the swingers clubs will never become a melting pot.

My wife and I are also an interracial couple (I'm white, she's black) and we are also fairly inexperienced in the lifestyle, and there are no clubs here. I am shocked that in today's day and age someone would discriminate in such a rude way as you described, Oreocookie. Greg & Sheryl also pointed out that variety is one of the things we seek.

I our experienced we have been with only white couples or single white females. But, we love all races and we're open to it.

[colleen4]

I actually enjoy being with interracial couples. The guys typically are very well endowned and I love sucking big black cock. Also the black women are very openminded.

[EternallySingle]

While I've had several encounters with black women while swinging, I've never been in a relationship with a black woman who was interested in swinging. Three were white and one was hispanic/asian. Never really gave it much thought because I think of people in terms of personality, interests, and culture, not skin color.

[BradAndJanet]

Race doesn't really make a whole lot of difference to us. If we're attracted to people, then we're attracted to people, plain and simple.

-B

[Sweetdevil]

As a Black couple we have met couples whom has accepted and rejected us because of our race. Of the couples that rejected us, they let us know we were not welcome; and of the couples who accepted us, they made us feel welcome. This is a subject which was discussed with the a couple who brought us into swinging so we ready when it happen.

I can remember a group outing to bar and the husband of one couple constantly made negitive comments interracial swinging. The other's were looking to me to make a strong statement, but I did not want get into a fight, so I sat silently. Until he made a comment about my wife and not being attractive. Then I told him to stop or we, him and I, would be outside and I find out how much of a man he really is. He gave a look like okay. Then I said, remembering these words clearly, "...get you bitch-ass up and see what you are made of!" Seeing that I was serious he backed off. The mood of the group changed and I could tell my wife may not want to try swinging.

But later without this couple at the table, I was asked "... what took me so long?" I said, "I didn't want to spoil the party". Their reply was he was the one spoiling the party and the rest of the group did not feel the wasy he did. This brought a smile to my wife face. As for me I was trying to come down from being angry. Well the other ladies took care of that by flirting with me while sitting my lap. My wife was just flirting with the men. The night got sexier but we did not swing that night.

In the van riding to our cars some of the men had my wife more relaxed by kissing and playing with her in the back. I was glad to see she was enjoying herself. Later, as I was driving home, my wife said she knew what I was thinking and had hope I would start a fight. She knows me so well!

The following day we got a call from the "sponsor" couple to see how we were doing, that "other's" were concern and how they like us. This is really reassurring. We had decided not to let this one person stop us from swinging and we told them so. We found many couples that accepted us for us and likewise accepting them for themselves.

We have had many more positive experinces than negative experinces. But there are always a few who has to let it be known that they do not find black couples attractive. Our standard response is, "we don't find you attractive either!" Which usually caught them off-guard. Whether these couples are racist it depends on the reason(s) why don't particpant in interracial swinging. We do not take time to find out.

In most cases you never miss what you never had. And one of the most important aspect of swinging for us has been getting to know couples and establishing a friendship or closeness with similar couples.

A post note to this story. Sometime later the husband of that couple said that he really did find my attractive but he had painted himself into a corner, because his wife wanted to have sex with a black man and that upset him and he did not know to handle it.

Talk about underlining psychological issues.

[MattMann]

I think that man's revelation to you was the truth in many of those situations. It seems to be the case, particularly in today's youth culture where athletes and hip hop are the kings and both fields are dominated by black men, that white women are attracted to black men, and black women are attracted to black men and asian women and hispanic women are attracted to black men. But you rarely see anyone attracted to your average white man; no talk about black women who fantasize about having sex with a white man, so that's gotta hurt the more insecure white men and they have to take it out on somebody! Plus, coming up short in any endowment comparisons doesn't help them feel any better either. So bad feelings based on race may not always be the result of one race regarding itself as superior, but just the opposite, the one race may feel inferior to the other race and the jealousy presents itself as hostility. The end result may be the same, but knowing the cause may allow the offended party some sense of self worth knowing it is envy and not enmity.

[NewTemptations]

I dont consider myself to be racially predjudiced in any aspect of my life...... however......

I do have certain likes/dislikes when it comes to choosing swinging playmates

for example:

I tend to be attracted to very tall men. This tends to rule out most aisian guys. I have met some very nice asian guys, but the sexual attraction was just not there for me....

There tends to always be more than a few hispanic guys at the club that we go to. Once again, I dont feel that that I am predjudiced against them, but personality wise I tend to find most guys of hispanic decent to be way too "aggressive" for my tastes. What can i say? Personality is way more than half the attraction for me, and the over the top aggressive guy no matter what race he may be tends to be an instant turn off to me.

Laura