How do YOU meet new playmates?

Chris&Amelia · 06-23-2003, 04:20 PM

Just curious how the esteemed and learned members of the Swingers Board meet new playmates.

You can vote for multiple items on this poll.

This came up after we were talking about how us, as a couple, are loath to answer ads or personals. And I've heard horror stories from other couples who have done this, and have ended up meeting some real "odd" (read = scary) people.

naughty A · 06-23-2003, 04:33 PM

My preferred method of meeting people is through off premise clubs/parties.

I did however have friends who introduced us to other friends at house parties so I think that translates into the same thing...

We had ads at one time ... early on, both print and internet... but I find that it is much faster to figure out if everyone clicks with an in person meet... the ads never worked especially well for us.

GREAT QUESTION/POLL.

**BiloxiCouple** · 06-24-2003, 12:16 AM

Swinger clubs only. Doesn't make any sense to try and hook up with somebody from Michigan, since I live in Mississippi.

We don't use swinger ads. Just personally don't like them.

Roxysbayou · 06-24-2003, 12:40 AM

We use personal ad sites. We would prefer to meet others at clubs but they are to far away from us to attend them regularly. We have had average success eith our online ad. We have also met some pretty good people through our clubs webpage.

fun_pairTX · 06-24-2003, 01:21 AM

We have had exceptional luck with swinglifestyle.com, WAY more than anywhere else we have tried.

EternallySingle · 06-24-2003, 02:31 AM

I just go out to meet people and make friends. If I meet a woman who says she isn't married or dating someone I turn up the flirting slightly. Every once in a while, seems like every four years or so, I actually meet a single woman who is in the lifestyle, we hit it off, and we're together two or three years. Then life happens and we get seperated. Then the process starts over again.

Next time I meet a single woman in the lifestyle and we hit it off, I'm gonna surprise her with a trip to Vegas and marry her at one of those drive-in wedding chapels.

uh, on second thought, maybe not

Weezie · 06-24-2003, 08:14 AM

I had to select multiple items on this one. We meet people through online personal ads and through going to a monthly social. We feel that this way we aren't limiting ourselves. One major draw back to meeting online is the fakes and phonies. Some of them never work out. Some we never meet. The good thing about it is getting to chat with them and seeing if you all click before any time is wasted in meeting. There's a whole crowd of people out there who are not on the internet and who attend socials or clubs only. Sometimes it's fun to get all dressed up and meet someone brand new face to face. In this case, we get to see them as they really are.

WesternSwing · 06-26-2004, 12:22 PM

Although we have "dated" a few couples from Internet ads, our "experiences" have been from people we've met at lifestyle parties of one sort or another. Even if we contact, or get contacted, via Internet sites it seems we end up using a party to meet at. Usually private parties where the atmosphere is charged, but not pressured.

Mr. WS

Spoomonkey · 06-26-2004, 12:40 PM

Clubs definitely work for us. The internet is slow and awkward for us... We use it and have met some couples, but we've never had much "physical luck" if you know what I mean. Clubs are just a great way to get the whole picture.

Although - if clubs were hard to get to for us - we'd probably be more serious about internet ads.

Spoomonkey

CB_n_Red · 06-26-2004, 02:26 PM

We don't seem to be having a tremendous amount of luck with the online adverts, plenty of responses to our adverts (we have yet to be the initial contacters) but not a huge number of successful encounters as a result. It's back to the time wasters and game players thread

Our best encounters have been through local meets.

tncple1141 · 06-26-2004, 04:53 PM

We have had the most luck with swinglifestyle.com . Met a great couple on there and a couple of singles. Haven't done the club thing yet, but thinking about it.

NewTemptations · 06-26-2004, 05:43 PM

To me, swingers clubs/parties is the best way to meet new people to party with! Meeting people in person will always be more preferable to me than trying to read between the lines in an ad to see if we are compatable.

Laura

**good times** · 06-26-2004, 08:20 PM

We have had poor results whith add sights (would probably be better if we could post pictures). We have had great results at the clubs.

lauriern · 09-01-2004, 09:49 PM

Well at a club it's pretty apparent what you are there for. Just wish there were more and nicer clubs in the States. Word of mouth and recommendations are also good. Blind ads are the worst. Again you get the pic collectors, the wanna-bees, the solo males and Christian fundamentalists trying to clean up the internet.

4lifesaparty · 09-02-2004, 09:33 AM

We first got going through swinglifestyle... we met a lot of couples in our area through it. And some of those couples have introduced us to many others. We don't really go out to any of the clubs as they are in a different city and babysitters are hard to come by.

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View Poll Results: Where do you find playmates?
Internet Advertisements / Personals	89	59.73%
Print Advertisements / Personals	2	1.34%
Lifestyle Clubs & Parties	69	46.31%
Non-Lifestyle social functions	14	9.40%
Through friends & mutual acquaintances	31	20.81%
Through work environment / place of business	5	3.36%
Other	8	5.37%
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06-23-2003, 04:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,450 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A Swing Lifestyle Name:PA_Panache	How do YOU meet new playmates? Just curious how the esteemed and learned members of the Swingers Board meet new playmates. You can vote for multiple items on this poll. This came up after we were talking about how us, as a couple, are loath to answer ads or personals. And I've heard horror stories from other couples who have done this, and have ended up meeting some real "odd" (read = scary) people.
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06-23-2003, 04:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
naughty A Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 997 Location: windsor ontario Status: couple - female half	My preferred method of meeting people is through off premise clubs/parties. I did however have friends who introduced us to other friends at house parties so I think that translates into the same thing... We had ads at one time ... early on, both print and internet... but I find that it is much faster to figure out if everyone clicks with an in person meet... the ads never worked especially well for us. GREAT QUESTION/POLL.
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06-24-2003, 12:16 AM	#3 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple Julie's Helper Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,002 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful	Swinger clubs only. Doesn't make any sense to try and hook up with somebody from Michigan, since I live in Mississippi. We don't use swinger ads. Just personally don't like them.
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06-24-2003, 12:40 AM	#4 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:likethat	We use personal ad sites. We would prefer to meet others at clubs but they are to far away from us to attend them regularly. We have had average success eith our online ad. We have also met some pretty good people through our clubs webpage.
	__________________ I put the "grrrr" in swinger baby, yeah! --Austin Powers

06-24-2003, 01:21 AM	#5 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Where we meet? We have had exceptional luck with swinglifestyle.com, WAY more than anywhere else we have tried.
	__________________ fun_pairTX

06-24-2003, 02:31 AM	#6 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male Swing Lifestyle Name:ABSingleMan	Luck of the draw I just go out to meet people and make friends. If I meet a woman who says she isn't married or dating someone I turn up the flirting slightly. Every once in a while, seems like every four years or so, I actually meet a single woman who is in the lifestyle, we hit it off, and we're together two or three years. Then life happens and we get seperated. Then the process starts over again. Next time I meet a single woman in the lifestyle and we hit it off, I'm gonna surprise her with a trip to Vegas and marry her at one of those drive-in wedding chapels. uh, on second thought, maybe not
	__________________ "Style is not lusting after somone because they are cool. Style is loving yourself till everyone else does too." Prince

06-24-2003, 08:14 AM	#7 (permalink)
Weezie Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 162 Location: MS Gulf Coast Status: female half of a couple	I had to select multiple items on this one. We meet people through online personal ads and through going to a monthly social. We feel that this way we aren't limiting ourselves. One major draw back to meeting online is the fakes and phonies. Some of them never work out. Some we never meet. The good thing about it is getting to chat with them and seeing if you all click before any time is wasted in meeting. There's a whole crowd of people out there who are not on the internet and who attend socials or clubs only. Sometimes it's fun to get all dressed up and meet someone brand new face to face. In this case, we get to see them as they really are.
	__________________ "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful"

06-26-2004, 12:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,973 Location: Utah Status: Single Male	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? Although we have "dated" a few couples from Internet ads, our "experiences" have been from people we've met at lifestyle parties of one sort or another. Even if we contact, or get contacted, via Internet sites it seems we end up using a party to meet at. Usually private parties where the atmosphere is charged, but not pressured. Mr. WS

06-26-2004, 12:40 PM	#9 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? Clubs definitely work for us. The internet is slow and awkward for us... We use it and have met some couples, but we've never had much "physical luck" if you know what I mean. Clubs are just a great way to get the whole picture. Although - if clubs were hard to get to for us - we'd probably be more serious about internet ads. Spoomonkey
	__________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

06-26-2004, 02:26 PM	#10 (permalink)
CB_n_Red Life's too short not to.. Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 616 Location: East Yorkshire, UK Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:CB_n_Red	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? We don't seem to be having a tremendous amount of luck with the online adverts, plenty of responses to our adverts (we have yet to be the initial contacters) but not a huge number of successful encounters as a result. It's back to the time wasters and game players thread Our best encounters have been through local meets.
	__________________ Take all things in moderation....including moderation

06-26-2004, 04:53 PM	#11 (permalink)
tncple1141 Registered Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3 Location: Tennessee Status: Couple	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? We have had the most luck with swinglifestyle.com . Met a great couple on there and a couple of singles. Haven't done the club thing yet, but thinking about it.

06-26-2004, 05:43 PM	#12 (permalink)
NewTemptations Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 70 Location: Las Vegas Status: couple	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? To me, swingers clubs/parties is the best way to meet new people to party with! Meeting people in person will always be more preferable to me than trying to read between the lines in an ad to see if we are compatable. Laura

06-26-2004, 08:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? We have had poor results whith add sights (would probably be better if we could post pictures). We have had great results at the clubs.
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09-01-2004, 09:49 PM	#14 (permalink)
lauriern Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 50 Location: virginia Status: M. Female	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? Well at a club it's pretty apparent what you are there for. Just wish there were more and nicer clubs in the States. Word of mouth and recommendations are also good. Blind ads are the worst. Again you get the pic collectors, the wanna-bees, the solo males and Christian fundamentalists trying to clean up the internet.

09-02-2004, 09:33 AM	#15 (permalink)
4lifesaparty Active Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 10 Location: Central Valley - CA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:4lifesaparty	Re: How do YOU meet new playmates? We first got going through swinglifestyle... we met a lot of couples in our area through it. And some of those couples have introduced us to many others. We don't really go out to any of the clubs as they are in a different city and babysitters are hard to come by.
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