What is your ideal swinging outcome?

[sexypairca]

If you could have exactly what you wanted from the lifestyle what would it be? What is your ideal type of swinging?

[Weezie]

Our ideal goal in this is to make good friends that last a lifetime. That's not as easy as it sounds. After over 2 years in the lifestyle though, hopefully we have found some that will stick around.

[wrnakedru]

I recently found this poll and thought it asked a good question - I was surprised to find that while 24 had clicked an answer on the poll, only one response had been posted. So I am bumping it back up, hoping to get feedback from more folks.

I would think that this is a question that every couple [hopefully] has discussed and agreed upon. And also a consideration every single has thought through as well.

Variety.

[sexypairca]

I had asked that question but never expanded on my answer.

I answered a select few over the duration. While we really don't have any expectations, we enjoy the company of others in the lifestyle but don't necessarily swing with each of them.

At one point in time the "find one couple that we were compatatble for long term" sounded ideal but we are always meeting new people so we keep an open mind with respect to new play couples.

We take the friends with potential benefits route.

Annette

[Brit_Pair]

Hard to choose between options 3 & 4 - both represent strong positives to our philosophy. Guess either puts us squarely within the majority.

[NewTemptations]

I always thought oregano was the spice of life!!

Gotta love the Variety tho!

Laura

[SnSnLex]

We just think you should try to go with the flow so to speak. Trying new things is part of the expierence for us, some we like, some we didn't, but you never truly know untill you are at that point.

[Spoomonkey]

It would be great to find a select few - but that is tough. I tend to think that we will head that way, but there is something to be said for the process of looking

Variety is what we are getting - but not where we hope to end up.

Spoomonkey

[bugaboos]

I guess Variety is our answer... making a few long lasting friends would be great, too..but we move frequently and it's easy to lose touch sometimes.

[leftcoastcouple]

Variety.

Unlike a lot of you, we're specifically not at this stage looking for friendships or ongoing relationships of any kind. In fact, we're afraid of getting too friendly with any playmates, given that we had bad experiences in the past with some who got emotionally involved--very uncomfortable situations, and we lost some good friends, too, as a result. We don't want that to happen again, and because we know ourselves and realize that we too are human, there's always potential we could be the ones to get emotionally involved. Better to dabble and move on, we say, to minimize the risk.

As we get more comfortable with swinging, I could see the possibility of repeat performances with a select few couples--though we'd still want to dabble--but even then, we'd be doing frequent gut checks, ready to drop anyone with whom we felt we were getting too close. Maybe we're chicken, but our relationship is too important to risk.

[Purple]

We'd rather save the close steady relationship with each other & not get stuck with a "regular" partner or couple -- that being said, we have some really close friends that were just vanilla friends (now live in another state) and it has recently been put on the table that we are all into this lifestyle, so they might well be the exception to the idea.

[mwsw4ever]

For us we love meeting new people, so variety is one of our goals.The other goal is to make friends with a some nice couples in our area and have a inner circle or friends to always have close by for those weekend booty calls

[Pepper & Drew]

I chose select few. Right now, that's exactly how things are turning out for us and it is great. We've got 4 couples that we play with and that suits us just fine. We know them all well enough that we know what the other couple likes, etc., but we're not "exclusive" and all the other couples are the same way. If we find another couple or two to add to the mix, that's cool, but it's not something we're actively pursuing. This is just right.

[Greg & Sheryl]

When we voted in this poll many moons ago, we chose the “always seeking new partners” option. Surprisingly, last month we decided to change our swinging style and concentrate on playing with a core group of couples we already know. Although we won’t turn down a new couple if one happens to fall in our laps (figuratively or literally), we have decided to give up the grind of cruising for new couples, which can often be an exercise in frustration. Besides, we already have a number of friends in the lifestyle that we don’t see often enough. Between Denver and Colorado Springs, we know eight couples that we can see on a rotating basis. That provides us with good variety, and gives us plenty of people to invite to a party should we ever host one.