What intimate acts do you reserve just for you and your partner?

nice_cpl_n_bama · 09-13-2006, 07:00 PM

The only thing Laurie and I reserve for "just us" is bareback (condomless) sex. We've been happily married so long that I don't feel the least threatened with anything she might decide to do. Condoms are a safety issue not an intimacy issue.
A few weeks ago one of our playmates asked Laurie if he could try a little anal play with her. I was VERY surprised she agreed. She has always been very tender back there but our friend is TALENTED. Needless to say I watched very carefully and learned a few things we tried out between us later that night.

r_poseidon · 09-27-2006, 04:27 PM

For us, french kissing, or any kissing on the mouth period. It seems to us that there are so many emotions there. Plus, like I think I saw elsewhere in this thread... that is how you seal your marriage, is with a kiss.
Also, anal (for us), becuase we are the first for each other doing anal.
I also voted other... holding hands after playtime, like just laying there, and falling asleep with someone else.

ShellyM · 09-27-2006, 05:11 PM

I don't do anal, and thats about our only restriction. Not that I have a problem with it, its just personally uncomfortable to me and hurts like HELL lol. But everything else we do, and we love kissing.

Mr. Hump alot · 09-27-2006, 09:56 PM

I think anel is to be shared with that special someone and it shouldn't be up for grabs

Thkmlkchoclik · 09-28-2006, 01:12 AM

No french kissing, anal, vaginal without condoms.

flkeyscouple · 10-22-2006, 10:10 PM

Same room, prefer same bed... and no strangers for anal. That seems to be the rules that have stayed with us. We started with a few others but with mutual agreement we slowly eliminated rules as we got more comfortable.

Sarah

ShellyM · 10-22-2006, 10:20 PM

We had our first swinging experience, and I have to say that everyone is right about rules...out went right out the damn window! Well, except for condoms. So now we are with whatever we are comfortable with. The sexual energy we have with this couple is we are comfortable same room, separate room, shower, trampoline......the horizons are endless lol.

kywife4two · 11-11-2006, 12:00 AM

Intercourse without condoms, and any anal is reserved for us only. Terms of endeerment are out with us as well; too personal.

Tybee Swing · 08-13-2007, 08:14 AM

I was really surprised to see that over 20% of people who voted feel that deep kissing is crossing a line in swinging.

roandronni · 08-13-2007, 04:51 PM

First time poster, here.

I too was surprised to see over 20% voted that French kissing was too intimate. One of the events that started us thinking about swinging was a french kiss.

Wifey and I attended a party a few years ago where a girl who was known for being outrageous decided to stir things up by starting a game of Spin the Bottle. This was NOT a lifestyle party, just a group of friends who met online through similar life events. My first surprise was my wife wanted to play the game. My second came after a few rounds of safe, quick kisses that were nothing more than pecks. The girl who started the game spun the bottle and it landed on me. Before the girl got over to me to collect her kiss my wife whispered in my ear, "Give her tongue". I didn't need any more prodding than that and gave her such a smooch! It was fun to watch her reaction as she moved from shock, quickly looking at my wife to see if she knew what was going on (my wife was grinning back at her), then getting an impish look in her eyes and returning the kiss. When we were done she turned around and said "OH MY GOD! Ro frenched me!" That seemed to give everyone in the game permission and soon everyone was deep kissing everyone else.

Afterwards my wife and I talked about it to see how we felt. We both were very turned on to see the other kissing other people. We started talking about trying swinging. Unfortunately, health issues put the issue on the back burner for a couple of years. But now that things are getting better we're back to thinking about it.

I don't think that French kissing will be an issue for us if we continue moving down this path. hehe

Tybee Swing · 08-13-2007, 07:39 PM

Cool story, Ro!

Our first little step toward swinging involved some mind-blowing kissing. Mr. Tybee and I had a 3-way kissing session with a beautiful woman, and the rest is history.

Deep kissing and sex go together for us...we can't even imagine having a sexual encounter where kissing wasn't allowed. Might as well tell us to do it with our hands tied behind our backs. It would be just as awkward and just as unfulfilling to not be able to kiss, as it would to not be able to touch.

Spoomonkey · 08-13-2007, 07:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Deep kissing and sex go together for us...

I don't believe you!

Prove it...

Spoomonkey

Tybee Swing · 08-13-2007, 08:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I don't believe you!

Prove it...

Spoomonkey

Yummy!

ShellyM · 08-13-2007, 08:19 PM

Tybee, I agree on the kissing. We had a couple with that rule, and I told him truthfully that I couldnt do it because I'd have to relearn the entire process without kissing lol. I just cannot do it that way lol!
Shelly

lovinher · 08-13-2007, 09:15 PM

Sex without kissing is like Oreos without milk.
But I understand that not everybody likes Oreos.

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View Poll Results: What acts are reserved for "intimate" partners?
French Kissing	229	20.00%
Masturbation / Mutual Masturbation	48	4.19%
Oral Sex performed on him	53	4.63%
Oral Sex performed on her	50	4.37%
Vaginal intercourse - with condoms	85	7.42%
Vaginal intercourse - without condoms	514	44.89%
Anal intercourse (with or without condoms)	514	44.89%
Other (post in the comments)	37	3.23%
None - we have no restrictions with other playmates	297	25.94%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 1145. You may not vote on this poll

09-13-2006, 07:00 PM	#121 (permalink)
nice_cpl_n_bama Where's the party! Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 198 Location: Huntsville, AL Status: Couple SLS Name:nice_cpl_n_bama	Re: What do you keep for yourselves? The only thing Laurie and I reserve for "just us" is bareback (condomless) sex. We've been happily married so long that I don't feel the least threatened with anything she might decide to do. Condoms are a safety issue not an intimacy issue. A few weeks ago one of our playmates asked Laurie if he could try a little anal play with her. I was VERY surprised she agreed. She has always been very tender back there but our friend is TALENTED. Needless to say I watched very carefully and learned a few things we tried out between us later that night. __________________ FATAL ERROR: WITTY LINE NOT FOUND (A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail

09-27-2006, 04:27 PM	#122 (permalink)
r_poseidon Here to Stay Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 62 Location: Charleston, South Carolina Status: Couple SLS Name:hedgehogstew	Re: How intimate is too intimate? For us, french kissing, or any kissing on the mouth period. It seems to us that there are so many emotions there. Plus, like I think I saw elsewhere in this thread... that is how you seal your marriage, is with a kiss. Also, anal (for us), becuase we are the first for each other doing anal. I also voted other... holding hands after playtime, like just laying there, and falling asleep with someone else.

09-27-2006, 05:11 PM	#123 (permalink)
ShellyM Jay's Bumper Buddy Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,299 Location: San Marcos, TEXAS Status: On the prowl for man meat SLS Name:lost_j1	Re: How intimate is too intimate? I don't do anal, and thats about our only restriction. Not that I have a problem with it, its just personally uncomfortable to me and hurts like HELL lol. But everything else we do, and we love kissing. __________________ Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho Shelly

09-27-2006, 09:56 PM	#124 (permalink)
Mr. Hump alot Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 32 Location: P.A Status: M/couple SLS Name:theconcord1	Re: How intimate is too intimate? I think anel is to be shared with that special someone and it shouldn't be up for grabs

09-28-2006, 01:12 AM	#125 (permalink)
Thkmlkchoclik Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 68 Location: PA Status: Married SLS Name:Cimpala26	Re: How intimate is too intimate? No french kissing, anal, vaginal without condoms. __________________ Attitude is what makes a person truly beautiful. telly2

10-22-2006, 10:10 PM	#126 (permalink)
flkeyscouple Sarah&Roger's Female Half Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,160 Location: FL Status: couple-female half SLS Name:floridakeyscouple	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Same room, prefer same bed... and no strangers for anal. That seems to be the rules that have stayed with us. We started with a few others but with mutual agreement we slowly eliminated rules as we got more comfortable. Sarah

10-22-2006, 10:20 PM	#127 (permalink)
ShellyM Jay's Bumper Buddy Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,299 Location: San Marcos, TEXAS Status: On the prowl for man meat SLS Name:lost_j1	Re: How intimate is too intimate? We had our first swinging experience, and I have to say that everyone is right about rules...out went right out the damn window! Well, except for condoms. So now we are with whatever we are comfortable with. The sexual energy we have with this couple is we are comfortable same room, separate room, shower, trampoline......the horizons are endless lol. __________________ Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho Shelly

11-11-2006, 12:00 AM	#128 (permalink)
kywife4two Active Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 24 Location: Lexington, KY Status: Happily Married Couple SLS Name:kywife4two	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Intercourse without condoms, and any anal is reserved for us only. Terms of endeerment are out with us as well; too personal.

08-13-2007, 08:14 AM	#129 (permalink)
Tybee Swing wild at heart Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,837 Location: coastal Georgia Status: couple	Re: How intimate is too intimate? I was really surprised to see that over 20% of people who voted feel that deep kissing is crossing a line in swinging.

08-13-2007, 04:51 PM	#130 (permalink)
roandronni Registered Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 6 Location: Utah Status: couple	Re: How intimate is too intimate? First time poster, here. I too was surprised to see over 20% voted that French kissing was too intimate. One of the events that started us thinking about swinging was a french kiss. Wifey and I attended a party a few years ago where a girl who was known for being outrageous decided to stir things up by starting a game of Spin the Bottle. This was NOT a lifestyle party, just a group of friends who met online through similar life events. My first surprise was my wife wanted to play the game. My second came after a few rounds of safe, quick kisses that were nothing more than pecks. The girl who started the game spun the bottle and it landed on me. Before the girl got over to me to collect her kiss my wife whispered in my ear, "Give her tongue". I didn't need any more prodding than that and gave her such a smooch! It was fun to watch her reaction as she moved from shock, quickly looking at my wife to see if she knew what was going on (my wife was grinning back at her), then getting an impish look in her eyes and returning the kiss. When we were done she turned around and said "OH MY GOD! Ro frenched me!" That seemed to give everyone in the game permission and soon everyone was deep kissing everyone else. Afterwards my wife and I talked about it to see how we felt. We both were very turned on to see the other kissing other people. We started talking about trying swinging. Unfortunately, health issues put the issue on the back burner for a couple of years. But now that things are getting better we're back to thinking about it. I don't think that French kissing will be an issue for us if we continue moving down this path. hehe

08-13-2007, 07:39 PM	#131 (permalink)
Tybee Swing wild at heart Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,837 Location: coastal Georgia Status: couple	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Cool story, Ro! Our first little step toward swinging involved some mind-blowing kissing. Mr. Tybee and I had a 3-way kissing session with a beautiful woman, and the rest is history. Deep kissing and sex go together for us...we can't even imagine having a sexual encounter where kissing wasn't allowed. Might as well tell us to do it with our hands tied behind our backs. It would be just as awkward and just as unfulfilling to not be able to kiss, as it would to not be able to touch.

08-13-2007, 08:19 PM	#134 (permalink)
ShellyM Jay's Bumper Buddy Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,299 Location: San Marcos, TEXAS Status: On the prowl for man meat SLS Name:lost_j1	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Tybee, I agree on the kissing. We had a couple with that rule, and I told him truthfully that I couldnt do it because I'd have to relearn the entire process without kissing lol. I just cannot do it that way lol! Shelly __________________ Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho Shelly

08-13-2007, 09:15 PM	#135 (permalink)
lovinher Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 763 Location: cleveland area Status: married to lovinhim SLS Name:Lovinall	Re: How intimate is too intimate? Sex without kissing is like Oreos without milk. But I understand that not everybody likes Oreos. __________________ I know I was born. I know that I'll die. The in between is mine. (PJ)

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