What intimate acts do you reserve just for you and your partner?

[MarriedNY'ers69]

We are a non kissing couple. We kiss other body parts but not on the lips no french kissing. That's how we feel comfortable. I don't need to explain myself

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by MarriedNY'ers69

I don't need to explain myself

You absolutely do not have to explain yourself. Your comfort zones are yours alone and no one can press those. If doing something would feel wrong - that is good enough for you to have a rule against it.

Spoomonkey

[angelrose85053]

Holding Hands and actually SLEEPING with the other person(s).

[dscouple2]

We are softies, we do all but penetration. I don't particularly care to lie and cuddle afterwards, E does (except with him). I would prefer - in someone's home, go have a snack -we're always hungry after sex and caffine and cig, or at a club, go back to the bar area. Talk somemore, flirt somemore. I like to reserve my most intimatices for my man.

Bad annie

[cj22s]

condoms are a must; we are clean and hope to stay that way but mostly because i am not on the pill. (i know i should be if i plan on playing around but that is another thread) as for kissing i had no idea there were so many people out there who felt that way. i cant imagine having having sex with someone with out ever kissing them!
Sex is much more intimate act than kissing it involves your whole body and requires complete comfort with yourself your SO and you partners for the evening. With that much intimacy already out in the open how is something so small as a simple kiss too much? I' m not saying that your feelings are in any way wrong. I am just trying to understand the difference.

[DGrey]

We play with one couple without condoms, we've known them for a while and both of us females are on the pill. When we play with other couples, we use condoms as do they. Nothing is off limits though as long as everyone feels comfortable. I happen (Erika) to enjoy anal very much and if I'm in the mood for it and it happens, great. For that though, condoms are always used regardless of who I'm with.

E&D

[bourbonnchristi]

The only thing we WILL NOT do with partners is intercourse without a condom. We haven't gotten in a situation with anal yet so we haven't had to worry about that. Everythign else is good to go, for now.

[MikeandDawn]

Dawn was reading the results over my shoulder and wondered aloud how 5 times more people have a problem with their partner's mouth touching someones else's mouth than that person's genitals. It doesn't bother either of us, but I could see where it could bother others. Dawn and I traditionally engage in rather intimate relationships with our male partners anyways.

[2jersey]

We accept the notion that all sexual activity is a manifestation of lust, rather than love.
Our love for one another is sacred, but we have no boundaries on safe sexual activity.

Intercourse without a condom is not, in our view, any more intimate than intercourse with a condom – it is, however, unsafe in many/most situations.

Anal sex is not, in our view, any more intimate than vaginal sex. It is, however, something which we rarely enjoy – so we probably won’t do it with play partners.

For us, kissing, cuddling, etc… are integral to the sexual experience – and we have no reservations about performing these acts with play partners (before, during, and immediately after a sex act).

We can only think of one boundary which is somewhat related to intimacy. Mr 2jersey won’t spank female play partners – but he is willing to lightly spank Mrs 2jersey (if asked). Mrs 2jersey is happy to spank females, so we, as a team, can satisfy that desire when it arises.

[stillconsiderin]

For some reason this is something I have thought long and hard about.For me and hubby were pretty much open to most things,as long as we are together.(in the same room) Except intercource without a condom and for me anal sex with anyone other than my hubby is out of the question.As far as kissing,I would always respect another's boundarys but I would find it very hard for me to be intamate with them on any level without it.I think Thrax sumed up most of my toughts on this subject.
[quote]Kissing? Although it is very intimate -- since it is face-to-face -- I think it's difficult to separate it from basic sexual activity. After all, it usually is a prime component of foreplay. And usually the most intriguing, satisfying, initially arousing part of foreplay. Not that I am in love with the woman I'm having intercourse with -- the target of my affection -- but I am interested, excited, and looking forward to exploring more with her.

And during face-to-face intercourse, kissing is the secondary sexual link. Some sex therapists say that the most exciting thing for a woman is that when a man realizes how close she is orgasm, he kisses her...the combination of vaginal/clitoral stimulation and kissing is apparently a real turn-on for a lot of women.

The Lady of Still

[BedroomEyes]

we're just starting out, so we decided a few rules will apply-

no anal for her from "the other man"
no oral from him to "the other woman"

that's about it. we think (so far) that most anything else will go, except for condoms are a must until all new partners show a clean bill of health.

[good times]

Originally Posted by BedroomEyes

no oral from him to "the other woman"

Ok, I gotta ask because I have never heard of that one, why no oral? The reason I ask is that I have just never heard of that one, and in all the encounters we have had oral was one of the main activities practiced and expected by all.

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by good times

Ok, I gotta ask because I have never heard of that one, why no oral? The reason I ask is that I have just never heard of that one, and in all the encounters we have had oral was one of the main activities practiced and expected by all.

We read a profile today where the man said he liked to give oral to women but he did not like to receive oral. That was extremely unusual.

We see lots of women who will receive oral from women but not give oral to to women. They are usually newbie bi-curious - we're not interested in that arrangement, but grateful that we know about it in advance.

In our play book - everyone gives and receives.

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by 2jersey

...We can only think of one boundary which is somewhat related to intimacy. Mr 2jersey won’t spank female play partners – but he is willing to lightly spank Mrs 2jersey (if asked). Mrs 2jersey is happy to spank females, so we, as a team, can satisfy that desire when it arises.

Now you guys are getting wierd on us.... facelick

U No Hoo

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by good times

Ok, I gotta ask because I have never heard of that one, why no oral? The reason I ask is that I have just never heard of that one, and in all the encounters we have had oral was one of the main activities practiced and expected by all.

Excellent question. Inquiring minds Want To Know!

Male D