What intimate acts do you reserve just for you and your partner?

[CuriousInOregon]

Well we have not had our first swing session as of yet, But have plans for it soon the only limitations we have put on it for Full Swap is Same room, No anal w or w/o condom, and no vaginal Sex w/o condom...... I think of it as a learning experience for us to explore ourselves Why put so many limitations on Fun? Doenst that take the "FUN" Out of it When we do have our first meet up I will let everyone know how it went I suspect nothing but GREAT things

[txduo2000]

Anal is totally off-limits with anyone but each other.

As far as vaginal, we use condoms with those we don't know very well, but if we get to know someone very well, our preference is definitely without condoms. We both hate using them. So that's one of the drawbacks for us.

We both perform orally without condoms, but I (female) half will not allow play partners to cum in my mouth. That, too me, is dangerous at the least, and far too intimate at the most ... while I like to swallow, it is reserved for my hubby.

[ALilOEverything]

About the only thing on that list that's too intimate is sex without condoms, and even then, that doesn't have anything to do wiht intimacy.

[Jamie&Kieth]

We enjoy a group sex atmosphere with our friends who we have been having sex with for some time now. We pretty much have the attitude that everything & anything goes as we/ are all pretty physical.

We enjoy being physical with our partners and yes I do enjoy watching my husband being physical-intimate with his partner(s). WE HAVE FUN!!!

[jennandjamesinm]

One of our very strict rules is no condom, no intercourse. This is more a precaution. As far as intimacy goes we really do not have any rules set.

J and J

[kas]

Originally Posted by Ashley

Finding it hard to believe that french kissing came in third.

It was my third... mostly because I'm a germ freak. Being a teacher for many years, has caused me to be hyper sensitive about somethings... so for me, it went like this

1) vag without condom
2) any anal
3) french kissing

Kas

[kas]

Originally Posted by kas

It was my third... mostly because I'm a germ freak. Being a teacher for many years, has caused me to be hyper sensitive about somethings... so for me, it went like this

1) vag without condom
2) any anal
3) french kissing

Kas

Ok.... after reading farther... I have to say... french kissing would happen for me if I knew the person fairly well (not first encounter) and I knew they had good oral hygiene habits.... I know I'm odd about this... not as bad as the aviator though!

[Spoomonkey]

No anal for us - we haven't mastered it ourselves, so we aren't ready to do it with others.

Condom free - that is a precaution, though it would be wonderful to find friends that we were close enough with to play without this rule. That would take a LOT of trust and is honestly very unlikely to happen...

I also voted "other" because sleeping together (seperate rooms and spending the night with your partner) would be a little uncomfortable for us.

Spoomonkey

[MassPleaser]

For us it would be No intercourse without a condom, at least not with just anyone. Only myself or my best friend are allowed in there without one, and thats cause I've known him for years and he's a safe sex kind of guy. I'm a little too thick for anal with my wife, she's a bit petite, but it's ok with others that can handle it. Kissing is ok for either of us, it just adds to the experience. We both love giving and receiving oral, she just won't swallow, thats left for me.

[sereneiders]

None, as long as there is a condom in between.

[HappyPeople]

Oops! I voted "no restrictions" before I noticed the condom option (duh).

All is fair game but condoms are necessary due to the health risk.

[sereneiders]

I posted my answer without reading others oppinions. Now I read, and there's a question about the options meaning that could lead to a very different results from the pool.

Someone pointed out condoms use have to do with safety and not with intimacy. This isn't necesarily true.

If we were able to prevent from DTS without condoms, then the requirement for condoms would have to do with intimacy. In such a theoretical scenario, I wouldn't care about condoms, so my "None, as long as there is a condom in between" answer has nothing to do with intimacy.

This poll also leads to another question. From the "intimacy enforcement" perspective, how does it works the limitation to perform some acts while other acts are forbiden?

The question is grounded over the definition for swinging, where a couple at some degree give up some sexual related fidelity aspects that where suposed to be one of the most important components for the marriage/couple contract, at least the one enforced by law and society (there's allways a contract). On this grounds, this pool is asking how much of these sexual related aspects can be given up without geopardizing the particular contract each swinger couple already have. Up to me, a more interesting question would be how this works.

I have to admit we're very peculiar about our particular contract and swinging. We had a threesome with another woman that turned into a deeph in love relation among the three of us, where we were confident enough as to let any of us to be alone with her, sleep with her alone, well, no restrictions at all. Even when the sexual aspects faded out, by now the love remains and she's our best fried and still we share a lot of time and activities with her. I know something like this is way off limits for a lot of swingers, but I don't know precicelly why.

Perhaps this is an off topic deserving another thread, if so, I appologize in advance.

sereneiders

[pairbond]

We do whatever we and our partner feel like doing at the time. The only thing we reserve for each other is our special love for and commitment to each other. Heck, we were both married previously and had other sex partners between marriages, so there wasn't much left physically to reserve for each other anyway! And that in itself speaks volumes that it isn't reserving a physical act, but reserving emotional commitment, that makes a marriage strong.

[lcjtsd]

We have no restrictions at all. Our only rule is to have fun.

After reading all these posts I finally understand why it is so difficult for couples to find other couples. Y'all have too many rules!!!

We Surrender !

Every thread on this Message Board in which couples express their frustration in finding another couple only has to come to this thread and they will instantly understand why it is so difficult to find another couple.

Every couples' definition of "intimacy" and "safe" is different. It's a wonder anyone hooks up with anyone. Sometimes it feel just like.. head bang

[BLove]

I'm not sure I could really have sex without lots of passionate kissing and caressing. If things seem too restricted then I imagine things would seem unnatural and my husband and I love how natural swinging has become for us. We've only swung with one couple who we have known a long time and totally trust so maybe that makes it easier. We actually approached the idea of swinging when we both decided we missed hot makeout sessions (the kind where the newness gives you butterflies). I'll never again get butterflies when kissing my husband but I'll never love my swinging partner the way I love my husband. Relationships grow and change so swinging for us is a way to grow together and not give up the pure bliss of a new kiss.