What intimate acts do you reserve just for you and your partner?

[SuAndBud]

No intimacies in the privacy of our play-venue are too intimate, or reserved to our own partner.

Any intimacy in the public gaze is too intimate unless between our own partner.

[couplers]

We have no restrictions on what we do with other parters, but our partners are very restricted.

[ShellyM]

We do not have any intimacy restrictions...as a matter of fact, Jay and I are both very intimate preferring lovers. For me to just be in this for a mechanical screw is unnatural for me and so would not be enjoyable. I'm not saying I want to "make love" to a play partner, but there has to be a connection for me. But no, no intimacy restrictions...just you standard pro quo rules like condoms always.

[Charmed6879]

I also picked the no condom for vaginal choice. I did pick no anal, but that hasn't came up yet. Depending on the partner, we may or may not, but we would definitely use a condom regardless. Oh, and lots of lube, lol. When we first decided to get into the lifestyle, we said no kissing, but that lasted all of 2 minutes. My hubby nor I could be that intimate with another person and not kiss them. We also don't understand how you can have sex without being intimate.

We also reserve the L word for the two of us, but as someone said earlier, I could see us saying "I love you guys" and we wouldn't freak if someone said that to us, but we would so totally freak if while playing someone told us "I love you." We have a couple that we regularly play with and have for a couple years now, and I love them, but only as I love my BFF, not as I love my husband. We are the type of people who prefer to play with people we can become friends with.

We are not completely comfortable with major pda in public except between ourselves. But if I ran into say the couple I mentioned earlier, I would totally hug her and maybe even give her a quick kiss her in public. But I would also do the same thing with other people who I have not played with from that group of friends. Like one of my very gay male bffs who is also a part of that group of friends. But we would not be cool with making out with another couple in public unless of course we were at a lifestyle club or the like.

Now I feel like I'm rambling, lol.

[herpob]

Oral / Anal has been our special act and anal play on him. We sort of go with the mood of how hot we are as to what we give into unless it was preplanned. Anal excites both of us and we are not opposed to it with people we trust sooooo......

We definitely reserve the L word for each other, no doubt about that one, we care for others but do not love them in a marriage sense.

We also only massage one another. Sex is one thing but intimacy outside of sex is a no no for us.

[SweetandSalty1]

We have talked a lot about what we do and don't feel comfortable with. we haven't had experience with swinging yet so we might change our minds at some point but this is what we don't feel comfortable doing for the moment:

no intercourse without a condom
no prolonged french kissing
no slow and romantic sex
no anal sex

For right now we want to start off doing full swaps and want to do oral but want it to be fun and crazy sex and not passionate and slow. We just feel like that will limit feelings of jealousy. As time goes on and we get more experience we might change our minds but that is what we are thinking now.

[lustylearning]

"I love you," whispered in the ear, during intercourse.

[SweetandSalty1]

^def. that too!

[newmajor00]

Yeah, holding each other afterwards. We will do anything with others that we do with each other, even kissing. After sex with others we'll lay back and ebjoy the feeling, talk, or rest up for the next bout. Cuddling afterwards is something reserved only with each other.

[bryanlee]

My g/f and I are new to this (as a couple), but we have set very few limitations on ourselves. We think it will allow things to be more dynamic and overall more fun. We are both very secure in our relationship and have no concern of the other developing inappropriate feelings for our partners. If we did we would never do this.

I think boundaries definitely called for, but if you feel that the rules you set are all that's keeping your mate from caring too much or doing something that would hurt you then you may be in the wrong place. That's not directed at anyone...just my opinion.

We put our guidelines on our relationship and not the sex.

Honesty always
Open communication about feelings/concerns/emotions/fantasies
No Secrets

We feel if our relationship is healthy happy then that's what counts.

Sorry to ramble

Bryan & Sharon

[AandC]

We agree that when it comes to sex, we are not putting restrictions on each other. However, we do adhere to some rules...condoms are required and if we won't do it for each other, then we won't do it for someone else. Beyond that, the only issue is if someone was trying to get to close emotionally...like the "I love you whispered in your ear during intercourse" then that is a signal to run and run fast.

[cocpl2007]

Originally Posted by lustylearning

"I love you," whispered in the ear, during intercourse.

Bingo!

[redgirlwithfrec]

Damn, just saw this poll for the first time and the only thing we could think of was I love you and of course it was in the last post.

[ktimephoenix]

our violent play is definately restricted to us in the privacy of our own bedroom. partially because of the risk of upsetting anyone with a history of domestic violence, and partially because the act is a huge sign of our trust for each other, a trust we don't have with another couple.

[sweet_tna]

We don't do anal with anyone but each other, nor do we play without condoms.