How Far Will You Drive?

[danc694u]

I haven't found this question anywhere on the board. Maybe we missed it.

How many here are willing to drive long distances for a meeting? We get lots of online offers from people 100-250 miles away. We've had people offer to drive to us. But, we can't see the point in that either. Especially since we may not be willing/able to return the favor.

So far, every online arranged meet has been a flop, for one reason or another.

What distance do you consider too far? We've narrowed ours to a 60 mile radius. With exceptions for couples who live in Davids' hometown area. Which we visit twice a month.

[Stratecpl]

We have had guests from 100 miles away to over 2000 miles away, but we have had only one local single man who has shown up. He lives about 25 miles away. The locals are all "NO-SHOWS" while the distant folks usually arrive. Go figure....

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

[JustAskJulie]

We limit ourselves to about 60 miles as well. Although we have some really good swinger friends who live about 200 miles away and get a lot of offers/inquiries from the same area (Detroit). We don't follow up on those long distance ones for the same reasons as you David.. just don't see the point. If you can spend the time to travel that far we have some really good friends that we'd like to spend time with (as well as other non-swinger friends and family in the same area). The most recent couple we met lives probably about 60-90 miles away from us, but we met them in the middle in a city we both frequent often, so we figure that still has it's options without either of us having to drive the full distance very often.

[TNT]

We try and keep it to about 60 miles ourselves. We have traveled further, but only because one of the clubs we like to visit is 2 1/2 hours away and have met people there.

[PA_RACERS]

We limit our travels to about 60 to 90 miles. But hey if they want to come to us from far away more power to them. just yesterday we had an inquire from a couple that is 7 hours a way. We have more luck with people who live mor ethan 30 miles away. It's to easy to be blown off that close to home.

Marsha

[danc694u]

We've noted that many people are willing to travel long distances, we're just not one of them.

On the other hand. Many people won't attend a local get together. Case in point would be the N MS group that tried to arrange a get together this weekend. One couple showed, out of 275 listed members. We were invited, but could not attend due to holiday gatherings with family.

If this is any indication of how our local get together will turn out. As I told one couple today. I do intend to eat dinner, regardless of how many show up LOL.

[Alura]

Our partner couples have always been in Northeast Oklahoma. We do have some friends who were transferred away but come to visit us about once a year. We met them in another city one time. We have no rules on this and would travel a few hundred miles if we thought the folks would be worth it.
Alura

[SnittyKitty]

Hi David & Maggie - We live 120 miles to your southeast. That is about the extent of how far we'll travel. Because where we live, we don't have the luxury of a 60 mile radius. We're down near Columbus & Phenix City, and it's really hard to find couples here. We're lucky that we have some friends who swing that live spitting distance from us; under 30 miles, but their it! All other couples we have correspondent with are outside the 60 mile circle, including you & David, who I chat with from time to time.

We don't expect couples to meet us, but two have thus far and as far as 120 miles away. It was a good night! I also think it's about the character of the couple. If we tell you we're going to be there, unless there's some sort of emergency, were there. We don't go unless I have spoken to you by phone before we walk out the door. I give folks my cell number if something happens that neccessitates a change of plans. If their a dud, I just restrict their number!

Where I have family, or we visit regularly, we do include those cities in searching for couples, as far away as 300 miles, but only when we have other things to do other than meet them.

I get frustrated with couples who can't keep a schedule. I don't mean emergencies or a change in plan, but couples that just don't give a damn.

For some of us in Bible Belt USA, I'd kill to have the luxury of a 60 mile circle. And at the same time, I wouldn't have had the opportunity to chat and email your husband, who I think is a pretty funny individual.

[danc694u]

Originally posted by SnittyKitty:
<STRONG>We're down near Columbus & Phenix City, and it's really hard to find couples here.</STRONG>

Okay Snitty, here's your chance to work harder, not smarter LOL. You guys have a club right down the street :p Do we need to send you the address?

[Bubblicious]

What's the acceptable distance cpls. are willing do drive in the U.P. to mingle with the same people(cpls.)????? Where should central location be best fit for (all). that want to be (THERE)?

[OhioCouple]

I believe it is different for each couple/person. Travel time is very dependent upon willingness and the time available.

For us we would be willing to go the distance (meaning across the country if need be) for someone that we would like to get to know better. Of course we couldn't do that every weekend but with enough advance planning...we would be there. We do have some friends that live about 4 hours away. Generally we will either split the distance or one or the other of us will travel to the others city and spend the weekend.

I have noticed an overall trend that most will only travel about an hour or so at best. Generally those are the ones that live outside of a major city and have relatively few alternatives.

Lori

[naughty A]

anything over an hour more or less requires an overnight stay and so if you are trying to get to know them before anything sexual happens it limits your opportunities to get together for dinner etc.

We have friends that live about 3-4 hrs away too, but we met them/got to know them when we lived about an hour away. So now we feel comfortable staying over in each others houses.

It depends on how much driving you are comfortable with too. I know people who think nothing of driving 2-3 hrs for dinner or a dance and then turn around and drive home.

Naughty A.

[Handyman69]

As Lori said, if you live outside of a major city you'll have to be willing to drive farther. we keep our looking to about an hours drive. Does that mean we don't travel farther, no, but those that are over our zone were initiated by those that were willing to go farther. These relationships have developed to the point that we are comfortable to spend a night/week-end.
We look hard for couples that are closer to us as we are looking for friendships/couples that will get togrther at times just for dinner or cards. We do a lot of camping and we whould not hesitate to ask anyone we swing with to come along, as we whould not swing with a couple that we woudn't want to spend other time with.

John

[remox]

My experience is that few people will travel more than 2 hours to get to a club, but will go that far or farther for specific people. Generally, an hour or perhaps a little more is about right.

[Ashley]

I don't think you can generalize. My boyfriend and I love to travel and we go to clubs. We live in Phoenix and have been to clubs in LA, Las Vegas, and Amsterdam. Seattle and San Francisco are on the "to do" list as is the Lifestyle houseboat trip on Lake Mead. Part of the fun of going on a trip for us is seeing what the clubs in that area are like. We have met couples from Ohio, Idaho, Spain and Greece.... a lot depends on what you are open to.