Reasons TO USE condoms

[JustAskJulie]

Was going back through and thought I would post the opposite question to the one I posted the other day. This one is for those who do use condoms either all or some of the time while swinging.

Why do you use condoms?

[ashki2374]

I voted both, actually my strongest tendency is to prevent pregnancy.

I am diabetic so and unwanted pregnancy could be deadly to myself and a child. While I am pro-choice, I could never abort a fetus concieved out of wanted sexual content, my opinion not a suggestion.

My maternal family line has a four generation history of strokes and high blood pressure, which eliminates many of the medicinal controceptives, believe me i've asked.

Lastly, my major is in pre-med. I know there are some seriously deadly diseases out there. Just like I am not going to rub myself down in a sugar solution and walk through a swamp *reference West Nile Virus* nor I am going to take the risk with my sexual partners.

ashki

[Chris&Amelia]

Both.

Long story short: even The Pill is not 100% effective, and while condoms aren't a sure thing either, using both at the same time is as sure as you're going to get short of sterilization or abstinence.

Also, many STD's can be carried by a person and they're not even aware that they are a carrier until it's too late. So, while another couple may honestly believe that they really are "clean", we don't want to pick up something that with, at the worst, kill us (HIV) or has no cure (Herpes).

[naughty A]

Just like I always wear a seatbelt... I always use a condom.

because even though I never think I need it. Why take the risk.

I always assume that even with the precautions and careful screening we do there is probably one contact in a person's past that puts you at risk.

I voted to prevent STD because I've been on the Pill so long I think of it as 100% effective even though I know statistically it is not. I guess I forget that some people actually use the condom to prevent pregnancy.

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally posted by naughty A
I voted to prevent STD because I've been on the Pill so long I think of it as 100% effective even though I know statistically it is not. I guess I forget that some people actually use the condom to prevent pregnancy.

One of our playmates doesn't use any sort of birth control with her hubby, as he's gotten a vasectomy a while ago. I, on the other hand, am definitely not shooting with blanks. Another one of our single female friends can not use an sort of hormonal birth control, and uses the diaphragm. The 20% failure-rate for the diaphragm does not fill me with confidence.

You can bet that when we play with these two, we break out the condoms with extra spermicide!

[Ashley]

For me, it's STD prevention, I have an IUD for birth control.
For L, it's both.
And there's another thing I like about it.....may sound weird but because there is a barrier it's not as intimate in my mind as when L and I have sex. Of course there are other qualitative differences between our making love and swinging but those are my thoughts.

[Weezie]

We use them for both reasons. The condom does provide some sort of emotional barrier when having sex with others. Maybe it's a mind thing. My husband and I do not use one when it's just us. I was reminded of why we use condoms with others not long ago when we attend a weekend long party and saw some friends of ours having many many partners within about a 72 hour period(which brings up another good topic). I'm not going to hold that against them, but to stand back and look at it...you have been with everyone they've been with...and some of those people I wouldn't let touch me with a 10 foot pole!

[Ashley]

I hear ya Weezie....our favorite swing partners are the biggest sluts in the world and they DON'T use condoms. I love them to death but I would never have sex with them without the reassurance of that little piece of latex.

[thump29]

We use condoms when we swing to protect against stds. I dont have to worry about pregnancy because I had a tubal done about 4 yrs ago. Hubby uses one to protect against stds and we both believe that it is more personal with each other and that it means more.

[WesternSwing]

We do not use condoms with eachother, but we use them with others for protection against STD's first and foremost, cleanliness second, and birth control third.

My wife is on the pill, and I have not had a vasectomy so the last thing we want is for me to get someone else pregnant, and even though she is on the pill, there is a very remote chance it could happen to her, too.

Cleanliness. It is a rule that we end with eachother, and I don't like playing in another man's cum. It's just is not a turn-on for me. And like Ashley mentioned, the condom seems to take away a little intimacy, and my wife and I feel cumming in her is very intimate. It leaves something else that is left for sex just between us.

Mr. WS

[catherine1962]

We always use a condom except for my husband.

[venus]

We use Condoms all the time, neither of us are fixed lol and we sure don't want to pick up anything...it's just alot safer to us.

Mrs Venus

[Eroica]

My wife is trying to get pregnant. So we abstain from being with others during her fertile period. For us, penetrative sex with others is rare. However, we wouldn't think of sex with others without a condom not only for contraception but for disease protection. If you are intimate with a fairly active swinging couple who don't use condoms, just do the math of the possible partners that they could have been involved with. We know couples that have sex with other couples two or three times per weekend. The laws of probability catch up with these couples having unprotected sex even if the chance of catching a disease is only 1%! After a year, they would have been exposed to thousands of other couples who would have had sex with their partners. Promiscuous and unsafe couples are a danger to everyone and they are a long term threat to the lifestyle in general.

[dc29]

Originally Posted by Ashley

For me, it's STD prevention, I have an IUD for birth control.
For L, it's both.
And there's another thing I like about it.....may sound weird but because there is a barrier it's not as intimate in my mind as when L and I have sex. Of course there are other qualitative differences between our making love and swinging but those are my thoughts.

We agree, the extra barrier makes the event less intimate. She says, that it does make it less fun, but as of right now we would always use them.

[zebrahead7557]

As I may have mention in another post, we always use them to protect ourselves from STD's & an unwanted pregnancy. My husband is still fertile & since I am not able to use the pill, patch or shot due to blood clots, & don't really trust people especially with all of the nasty & deadly stuff out there, & last but not least I don't want strange cum in my vagina.