Are you a Newbie?

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-23-2003, 02:00 PM

An introduction I read and some of the responses to it got me to thinking... at what point do you stop being a newbie?

Is it when you've had your first experience? Is it after you've had many experiences? After you've been swinging for several years? After you join your first swing club? Or after you've been regularly attending parties for a certain length of time?

If you consider yourself a newbie, tell us at what point you will no longer feel that you are newbies?

If you don't consider yourselves newbies, at what point did you stop considering yourselves such?

kookla · 05-23-2003, 03:43 PM

I guess I consider myself a newbie because I am finally coming to terms with my own sexuality and how I feel about things, as well as shedding a lot of societal constraints. I think I will stop feeling like a newbie as I become more comfortable with the fact that this is who I am and there is nothing abnormal about it. Dh is really helping me a lot in this area...not that he's anymore experienced, but I feel so comfortable sharing with him all of my feelings on the matter and exploring new avenues.

EternallySingle · 05-23-2003, 03:46 PM

I think I stopped being a newbie when I realized the number of horror stories I had were equal to the number of great experiences.

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-23-2003, 04:05 PM

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Originally posted by EternallySingle
I think I stopped being a newbie when I realized the number of horror stories I had were equal to the number of great experiences.

Great post and great pic. Glad to see you finally decided to show us who you really are

Elusive BiFem · 05-23-2003, 04:18 PM

I really liked kookla's comments:

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I guess I consider myself a newbie because I am finally coming to terms with my own sexuality and how I feel about things

I don't consider myself a newbie although I'm not greatly experienced, but I think those comments sum up exactly why I don't think of myself as a newbie. -EBF

OhioCouple · 05-23-2003, 04:29 PM

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Originally posted by EternallySingle
I think I stopped being a newbie when I realized the number of horror stories I had were equal to the number of great experiences.

LOL! I still consider us Newbies for just this reason. It seems like everytime we think we are doing it right....another curve ball gets hurled at us.

Another reason why I say you can't read, read, read and read some more on this board and ask question to the 'no longer newbies'. At least when you get thrown the curve ball you have not only a glove to catch it with, but a mask to protect it from scrambling your brain permanently.

RnLinohio · 05-23-2003, 04:50 PM

We have been in the lifestyle for almost a year (actively) i think after about 6 months of going to the clubs (about the time everyone there knows your name) is when we stopped thinking of ours selves as newbies but we haven't had alot of encounters, so i wouldn't call us experienced either. So i just don't know how to discribe us................. lol
Robin

OhioCouple · 05-23-2003, 05:48 PM

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Originally posted by RnLinohio
We have been in the lifestyle for almost a year (actively) i think after about 6 months of going to the clubs (about the time everyone there knows your name) is when we stopped thinking of ours selves as newbies but we haven't had alot of encounters, so i wouldn't call us experienced either. So i just don't know how to discribe us................. lol

Good point RnLinohio, there is a difference between being 'new' and being 'experienced'. We have been active in the lifestyle for about 1 1/2 years. When it comes to making poor choices, moving to quickly, not having rules and boundries in place...we are VERY experienced, which is why we still consider ourselves as still 'new'. We are still learning how to be 'good' experienced swingers!

Roxysbayou · 05-23-2003, 06:26 PM

I still consider myself somewhat of a newbie. Mainly because we search and search and months go by before we even attempt an encounter. We have definately had more searching than actual play. So I would have to say that my actual physical experiences or lack of make me a newbie.

21mfmarried · 05-24-2003, 08:25 PM

Well, I have only had the pleasure of sharing my wife with other men as of yet. So I would definitely consider myself as a newbie, but I really would have to ask, do we ever really stop being newbies? I mean each and everytime something new is learned and something is done a little differently. I think we are all newbies of some sort. Would you not agree?

BradAndJanet · 05-24-2003, 11:56 PM

We are still newbies with one experience and will be for some time to come. Like OhioCouple said, just when you think you have it figured out, there's another twist in the road. I can't say at what point we'll feel 'experienced', but I hope it happens!

-B

J & K · 05-25-2003, 10:58 PM

If you consider yourself a newbie, tell us at what point you will no longer feel that you are newbies?

Well Lori,

First, I want to tell you we are newbies, but just got devirginzed for our first soft swing lastnight/this morning. Whoo-Hoo!!! Before I go give the answer to this I must tell you it was very exciting. It was so exciting that when K and I started our sex and I looked over seeing the other cpl having sex I just climaxed and had to tell K to stop moving her hips---too late---lol. It was the first time in my life having sex in front of others. K never got the chance to have fun with me (climax), but 2 hrs later I follow it up with a great session in front of the other cpl. Wow--did K bring down the walls with her orgasm. Now--the other cpl is a full swap cpl, but they knew we were going to do soft first then move to the next stage later. The male was giving K a rub down (she was so WET) and it drove him up the wall for not having the full swap---just look at K at our link below and you could see why---lol. Anyways---I wanted to do the other woman, but it was K's Birthday yesterday and I promise her she would get her b-day sex from me. The poor cpl--they were wanting to F__K us so bad. I did give the other lady a rub down---in matter of fact I gave her an orgasm when rubbing my unit against her clit. Of course we didn't know it at the time until she told us later--lol.

I think we will consider ourselves NOT newbies until we have full swapped at least 3 times. Until now--we will still consider ourself newbies in the soft swing area until we get it down 2 more times in that area too.

dave_susie2001 · 05-26-2003, 09:51 AM

We are at the point where our experience guides us in choosing our playmates. Like so many of you, we made some poor choices and had some bad experiences sexually when first starting out. When we got to the point where we could usually tell if it's going to work out before hand, we stopped considering outselves newbies.

We still make mistakes in judgment, but happily, they are few and far between.

jdf7379 · 05-28-2003, 05:24 PM

I know we are...do to the fact we are still searching for our first experince. We have played around alot...a little kissing other people at parties, even the occasinal flashing. We are both getting more cofident with our bodies with other people. I think once we get totally relaxed sharing with others than that Newb will just fade away. Not there just yet.

NinjaBabe · 06-02-2003, 03:27 PM

I'm a newbie myself. And I must admit that I have been with only men so far and want to try more. I know this may sound a little corny, but I don't know how to phrase what i want to say.

I want to try a new experience but am a little scared at the same time. I would appreciate any suggestions on what I should do, NinjaBabe.

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05-23-2003, 02:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,250 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Are you a Newbie? An introduction I read and some of the responses to it got me to thinking... at what point do you stop being a newbie? Is it when you've had your first experience? Is it after you've had many experiences? After you've been swinging for several years? After you join your first swing club? Or after you've been regularly attending parties for a certain length of time? If you consider yourself a newbie, tell us at what point you will no longer feel that you are newbies? If you don't consider yourselves newbies, at what point did you stop considering yourselves such? __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

05-23-2003, 03:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
EternallySingle Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 1,035 Location: Michigan Status: Single Male SLS Name:ABSingleMan	I think I stopped being a newbie when I realized the number of horror stories I had were equal to the number of great experiences. __________________ "Style is not lusting after somone because they are cool. Style is loving yourself till everyone else does too." Prince

05-23-2003, 04:50 PM	#7 (permalink)
RnLinohio Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 136 Location: Ohio Status: Couple	RE:are you a newbie We have been in the lifestyle for almost a year (actively) i think after about 6 months of going to the clubs (about the time everyone there knows your name) is when we stopped thinking of ours selves as newbies but we haven't had alot of encounters, so i wouldn't call us experienced either. So i just don't know how to discribe us................. lol Robin

05-23-2003, 03:43 PM	#2 (permalink)
kookla Registered Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 4 Location: USA Status: couple	I guess I consider myself a newbie because I am finally coming to terms with my own sexuality and how I feel about things, as well as shedding a lot of societal constraints. I think I will stop feeling like a newbie as I become more comfortable with the fact that this is who I am and there is nothing abnormal about it. Dh is really helping me a lot in this area...not that he's anymore experienced, but I feel so comfortable sharing with him all of my feelings on the matter and exploring new avenues.

05-23-2003, 06:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female SLS Name:likethat	I still consider myself somewhat of a newbie. Mainly because we search and search and months go by before we even attempt an encounter. We have definately had more searching than actual play. So I would have to say that my actual physical experiences or lack of make me a newbie. __________________ I put the "grrrr" in swinger baby, yeah! --Austin Powers

05-24-2003, 08:25 PM	#10 (permalink)
21mfmarried Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 62 Location: Moraine, OH Status: Couple	Well, I have only had the pleasure of sharing my wife with other men as of yet. So I would definitely consider myself as a newbie, but I really would have to ask, do we ever really stop being newbies? I mean each and everytime something new is learned and something is done a little differently. I think we are all newbies of some sort. Would you not agree?

05-24-2003, 11:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,071 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	We are still newbies with one experience and will be for some time to come. Like OhioCouple said, just when you think you have it figured out, there's another twist in the road. I can't say at what point we'll feel 'experienced', but I hope it happens! -B __________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us...

05-25-2003, 10:58 PM	#12 (permalink)
J & K Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 189 Location: Middle GA Status: Couple SLS Name:OKC_CPL	If you consider yourself a newbie, tell us at what point you will no longer feel that you are newbies? Well Lori, First, I want to tell you we are newbies, but just got devirginzed for our first soft swing lastnight/this morning. Whoo-Hoo!!! Before I go give the answer to this I must tell you it was very exciting. It was so exciting that when K and I started our sex and I looked over seeing the other cpl having sex I just climaxed and had to tell K to stop moving her hips---too late---lol. It was the first time in my life having sex in front of others. K never got the chance to have fun with me (climax), but 2 hrs later I follow it up with a great session in front of the other cpl. Wow--did K bring down the walls with her orgasm. Now--the other cpl is a full swap cpl, but they knew we were going to do soft first then move to the next stage later. The male was giving K a rub down (she was so WET) and it drove him up the wall for not having the full swap---just look at K at our link below and you could see why---lol. Anyways---I wanted to do the other woman, but it was K's Birthday yesterday and I promise her she would get her b-day sex from me. The poor cpl--they were wanting to F__K us so bad. I did give the other lady a rub down---in matter of fact I gave her an orgasm when rubbing my unit against her clit. Of course we didn't know it at the time until she told us later--lol. I think we will consider ourselves NOT newbies until we have full swapped at least 3 times. Until now--we will still consider ourself newbies in the soft swing area until we get it down 2 more times in that area too.

05-26-2003, 09:51 AM	#13 (permalink)
dave_susie2001 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 284 Location: Michigan Status: Married Couple	We are at the point where our experience guides us in choosing our playmates. Like so many of you, we made some poor choices and had some bad experiences sexually when first starting out. When we got to the point where we could usually tell if it's going to work out before hand, we stopped considering outselves newbies. We still make mistakes in judgment, but happily, they are few and far between.

05-28-2003, 05:24 PM	#14 (permalink)
jdf7379 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 162 Location: NW Arkansas Status: Couple	I know we are...do to the fact we are still searching for our first experince. We have played around alot...a little kissing other people at parties, even the occasinal flashing. We are both getting more cofident with our bodies with other people. I think once we get totally relaxed sharing with others than that Newb will just fade away. Not there just yet.

06-02-2003, 03:27 PM	#15 (permalink)
NinjaBabe Active Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 11 Location: Pennsylvania Status: Single Female	A new newbie here I'm a newbie myself. And I must admit that I have been with only men so far and want to try more. I know this may sound a little corny, but I don't know how to phrase what i want to say. I want to try a new experience but am a little scared at the same time. I would appreciate any suggestions on what I should do, NinjaBabe.

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