Swinging-Your Gestation Period

[ratimadan]

Presumably, almost all, or most of us couples now firmly in the lifestyle started as curious newbies wondering what the swinging lifestyle was about. We heard or read how couples were swapping mates with another couple/s for nonmonogamous sexual activities that included having intercourse with someone other than one's own spouse or mate. We then discussed with our mate or spouse what it would be like to exchange partners with another couple for sensuous/erotic play and to experience intercourse with the other couple's mate. If both of you agreed to give swinging a try, then that was a milestone in your swinging career. Starting with this milestone as day one, how long was it before you actually met, played and swapped partners with another couple or couples and experienced sexual intercourse with somone other than your own mate?

1. We jumped right in and did full swap of mates and had intercourse with the other couple's mate, within a week or two.

2. It took us upto six months before we did full swap of mates.

3. Six months to one year.

4. One to two years.

5. More than two years.

6. We are soft swingers-we swap mates for all sexual activities excluding intercourse.

[jdavisauto]

We was in the lifestyle for about 3 months before my lady half had intercourse with another male. It was about a year before we did the soft swap that included me, and about 5 years before we did the full swap together. We only did the full swap with one couple so far but very much enjoy them. I am looking forward to being with them again.

[Pepper & Drew]

We took the plunge. We soft swapped one day with a couple and did full swap the next. We were at Hedo, after all. We figured if we jumped in and it was ackward, we'd never have to see them again. As with most things, we didn't let the grass grow under our feet.

Pepper

[sweet_tna]

I'm not one to do things halfway . . . so we went for it first time out.

=)

[BiloxiCouple]

With all the polls you have conducted so far ratimadan, have you came to any conclusions?

[mervsmom97]

I voted "morre than two years" The Mr. and I had talked about finding another couple to play with and other fantasies for about 4 years before I even got an account on here. After that it was a little while before we went to a party and did full swap. It was our first time out, but we had talked about it for a very long time.

[realcplub2]

We started a bit differently, with a few 3somes before moving on to finding a couple.

They were full swap, as were we, However, because the first evening we spent with them was after a great New Years eve party.. there really wasnt too much after party play.. sort of like the swing club tycoon, when it gives you the.. Everyone had a great time, but were to too drunk to play..

The next time we got together with them, It was a nice dinner followed by an evening of human dessert, lol..

[dodgechevy]

Talked about it for less than a month, more around 2-3 weeks. After a month of having a profile up on Swing Lifestyle we went to a party and jumped right into full swap.

[ratimadan]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

With all the polls you have conducted so far ratimadan, have you came to any conclusions?

The conclusion, if there is one, is that us swingers or lifestyle couples are a very diverse, interesting and open minded group of people. Most seem to have approached and entered the lifestyle in different ways and timeframe.

One thing that does stand out is that almost all are enjoying the nonmonogamous lifestyle that includes sexual play and sexual intercourse with a variety of partners outside of the accepted bounds prescribed or imposed by the society.

[socolais]

I brought it up and we talked about it for a few months. We went to a private house party just to observe. It looked like we could have some fun with it and we planned to progress slowly. Next month at the party, we soft swapped and had a little puppy pile. We were convinced that it was fun and we felt comfortable going a bit faster. The third party, we full swapped in separate rooms.

At first, we were afraid swinging might be as bad as conventional wisdom had led us to believe. We found swingers to be just normal folks that enjoyed some sexual excitement and the adventure of pleasuring someone new. It took me about 6 encounters before I fully realized that this really IS a hobby.

As far as pure sexual excitement is concerned, nothing has yet to beat that puppy pile on an unfamiliar king size bed with folks we knew very little about. We felt we could trust them because they appeared to trust each other. They were concerned about making our first time especially good. Things were happening so fast, my brain was in a blender - I hadn't felt that sexually alive in years. My wife and I stayed on the bed when they decided to take a break and we had some Honeymoon Sex on the already sweat drenched sheets. If an event like that doesn't convince someone that this swinging stuff is good for us and good to us, they're probably crazy about other stuff too.

Every party we've been to has been fun whether we had sex there or not. Everyone we've met has been friendly and respectful. We haven't had or seen any REAL drama. We got lucky and found a great group of folks in the beginning.

[ratimadan]

[QUOTE=socolais;347369].

"At first, we were afraid swinging might be as bad as conventional wisdom had led us to believe. We found swingers to be just normal folks that enjoyed some sexual excitement and the adventure of pleasuring someone new. It took me about 6 encounters before I fully realized that this really IS a hobby."

Great observation! Swinging certainly is a great social hobby for the enlightened couple that wants to experience the sexual excitement of swapping mates, playing with, and, pleasuring someone other than your own mate/spouse in a variety of ways, and, in a variety of circumstances. The quest for, and, the actual act of sexual intercourse with another male/female is definitely a normal desire that conventional wisdom and the vanilla society seems to reject. Only if the vanilla couples tried and experienced the excitement and pleasure that is inherent in nonmonagamous sex, partner swap and sexual intercourse with a new partner to pleassure him/her and be plesured in return! This may be a tall order to ask for.