Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you?

SweetandSalty1 · 06-27-2008, 09:13 PM

^I was just curious what was their marriage like before they started swinging? That is one thing I am bit worried about but my hubby and I are soo in love and so emotionally connected that I just can't see anything like that happening with us.

xoxo · 06-27-2008, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetandSalty1

^I was just curious what was their marriage like before they started swinging? That is one thing I am bit worried about but my hubby and I are soo in love and so emotionally connected that I just can't see anything like that happening with us.

Hello you. The only thing that makes me uneasy is if anyone I'm connecting with is going along with it just because they were afraid to say no, not to the other couple(s) but to their own spouses. My nightmare scenario is right after we make our move and be with someone else we end up in a conversation like this:

Me: What's wrong sweetie?
Her: I feel bad about what just happen. I wish we hadn't gone that far.
Me: Why didn't you say something before?
Her: I didn't want to disappoint you. I knew how much you really wanted this.

No means no, not to the opposite couple but to each other!! That's why I think getting to know a couple and taking things slowly is the best way to go.

SweetandSalty1 · 06-27-2008, 09:56 PM

^ITA! I feel like I always say that but it is true!

3sumff · 06-27-2008, 10:07 PM

I can't say that I am worried about anything at this point. My gf and I are in a very strong and wonderful relationship. Condoms are a must!

xoxo · 06-27-2008, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxo

Hello you. The only thing that makes me uneasy is if anyone I'm connecting with is going along with it just because they were afraid to say no, not to the other couple(s) but to their own spouses. My nightmare scenario is right after we make our move and be with someone else we end up in a conversation like this:

Me: What's wrong sweetie?
Her: I feel bad about what just happen. I wish we hadn't gone that far.
Me: Why didn't you say something before?
Her: I didn't want to disappoint you. I knew how much you really wanted this.

No means no, not to the opposite couple but to each other!! That's why I think getting to know a couple and taking things slowly is the best way to go.

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Originally Posted by SweetandSalty1

^ITA! I feel like I always say that but it is true!

You feel like you always say what? The "Me" part or the "Her" part?

bryanlee · 06-28-2008, 08:02 AM

My only worry is STD's. As someone said before. Everything else is much easier to deal with.

theflamekasters · 06-28-2008, 10:10 AM

i dont really worry about to much. If you are careful and smart, you shouldnt have much to worry about imo

SweetandSalty1 · 06-29-2008, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by xoxo

You feel like you always say what? The "Me" part or the "Her" part?

Lol both! You and T. are both totally on the same page as my hubby and I!

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06-27-2008, 09:13 PM	#76 (permalink)
SweetandSalty1 Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 50 Location: West Virginia Status: Couple SLS Name:SweetandSalty1	Re: Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you? ^I was just curious what was their marriage like before they started swinging? That is one thing I am bit worried about but my hubby and I are soo in love and so emotionally connected that I just can't see anything like that happening with us. __________________ Mr. and Mrs. J- 25 years old, new to swinging but excited to learn!!!

06-27-2008, 09:56 PM	#78 (permalink)
SweetandSalty1 Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 50 Location: West Virginia Status: Couple SLS Name:SweetandSalty1	Re: Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you? ^ITA! I feel like I always say that but it is true! __________________ Mr. and Mrs. J- 25 years old, new to swinging but excited to learn!!!

06-27-2008, 10:07 PM	#79 (permalink)
3sumff Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 69 Location: California Status: couple SLS Name:pleezers Blog Entries: 2	Re: Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you? I can't say that I am worried about anything at this point. My gf and I are in a very strong and wonderful relationship. Condoms are a must!

06-28-2008, 08:02 AM	#81 (permalink)
bryanlee Slave to Vanilla_Sugar Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 108 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Status: Couple SLS Name:bryanlee	Re: Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you? My only worry is STD's. As someone said before. Everything else is much easier to deal with.

06-28-2008, 10:10 AM	#82 (permalink)
theflamekasters I dont like sex, do you?? Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 150 Location: Texas Status: married SLS Name:theflamekasters	Re: Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you? i dont really worry about to much. If you are careful and smart, you shouldnt have much to worry about imo __________________ BOHICA (bend over here it comes again)

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