Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you?

[Iplay]

Originally Posted by CyberMWCouple

Is there anything in the lifestyle that worries or scares you?

STD's,Aids. A little bite that some1 in a 4 sum will get pergnant

[DBL D]

I think STD's and someone becoming pushy or possessive would be a very bad thing. Pregnancy is in there too..although we are very careful about that part.

Male D

[curiousagain]

STD's and posessive people. Some couples want you to play only with them and even want to discourage "their" single male from dating anyone else. That's not swinging, that's a nightmare.

[agilemicpl43sum]

Besides STD's...I would have to say I agree with MIbbwcpl...family finding out..or worse..our kids. eek!

[guitarlover]

Of course, the usual bug a boos like, broken condoms, an oops pregnancy, an STD, etc.
We posted a poll concerning web cam cyber sex with another person or couple, but then started wondering whether we could be recorded? Does anybody know the answer to that?

[good times]

Originally Posted by guitarlover

We posted a poll concerning web cam cyber sex with another person or couple, but then started wondering whether we could be recorded? Does anybody know the answer to that?

Sure you can, a quick check of the newsgroups will find thousands of clips and images people have recorded from web cams.

[guitarlover]

Originally Posted by good times

Sure you can, a quick check of the newsgroups will find thousands of clips and images people have recorded from web cams.

Thanks for mentioning that fact. I thought so, too, but, wasn't sure. Guess we could still share web cam if I made sure to keep the lens pointed away from our faces to remain discreet...

[bsubverted]

This was a very interesting post one that I will defiantly come back to.

But for now I can post what scares me the most

Me and my ex tried out swinging, at first we just hade sex in front of people at a party something that turned us on immensely, then she hade sex with two other guys whilst another friend and I watched, that also turned us on. The problem came when I hade sex with another women, she found that she became immensely jealous. Something that turned out to be an important factor for way our relationship stopped working.

I’m scared of a similar incident. I would want the girl that I’m with to know that she likes it and not think that it might be good.

[hilltop]

Originally Posted by biblonde

becoming friends and playmates with someone who turns out to be possesive and obsessive of one or both of us....and yup that happened!!!

didn't like being told when and how often we were to see them (which in their opinion was to be every free moment we had!) and who we could and couldnt "date"!

STD's and the above quote. Connected with a couple as a single male and after it was endless pressure to reconnect from the female half. I took 24hrs to respond to an email and next thing I knew all of the couples that that we knew mutually were informed of what a raging A-hole I was and to steer clear of me. Luckily the others knew me well enough to check in for my side of the story.

Be selective. Don't do what's uncomfortable and stay firm on your limits!

[Estaque]

What worries us is that we may run across someone that gets too attached to one of us. Sometimes people think that just because you have sex with them that gives them permission to inject themselves into your life. Pushy, obsessive people like that are a concern for us; stalkers and the fatal attraction types.

[Tia Vampire]

I have to say the same as every one else- STD's. If what i hear about swingers is true, i don't think i have to worry about anything else.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by Estaque

What worries us is that we may run across someone that gets too attached to one of us. Sometimes people think that just because you have sex with them that gives them permission to inject themselves into your life. Pushy, obsessive people like that are a concern for us; stalkers and the fatal attraction types.

Ditto!

STD/Pregnancy ranks as No. 1, with stalker/obsessive/clingy as No. 2.

We quit swinging for 16 months because our first couple, whom we thought we were "friends" with, the wife got too attached to us as a couple, to where they wanted to be with us or chat or email with us daily, and then went stalker/obsessive over my husband. That was bad enough for us to leave for a long time, and figure out what our boundaries would be in the future, and how we were going to avoid another situation like that. Doing MUCH better this time around and having a lot of fun...

Rebecca

[ShellyM]

An envelope from the Internal Revenue Service marked "audit"....
Oh, and std's.

[daisy girl]

STDs!! The incurable ones scare me more than the curable ones. Being "outed" is my second fear. The last fear would be obsessive people.

[Tatakai]

crazy pyscho people, STD's, jealousy over one getting more attention than the other person and it starting conflict that would end the playing. Being lied to is my pet peev.

Tatakai