What does it take to scare you away?

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-24-2003, 03:52 PM

The topic on Questions to Ask?? regarding sexual history has led to some very interesting thoughts and discussions. The one I found most interesting was the idea of "wild" people are not safe. Which of course led to the discussion of what constitutes being "wild". How many partners does it take for you to decide ok this person just has had too many partners for me to feel safe with them.

Are there other issues that constitute wild? At what point do you feel that you just can't trust your sexual health in the "hands" of this person or people?

01-24-2003, 09:36 PM

Julie, I think you might need an 'All of the above" catagory on this one.

bimrdcpl · 01-24-2003, 10:49 PM

I agree with everlast Julie all of those things on there scare us both. So because they all did we just chose other. Sorry if it messes up your poll but we looked at it all of them and just couldnt pick one.

J & K · 01-25-2003, 06:51 PM

All of the above, plus more!!!! LOL!!!

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-26-2003, 06:24 PM

That's why I left it so that you could check more than one option.... so you can check them all if they all apply.

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-06-2003, 12:45 PM

Interesting subject. We love to swing ourselves. Full swap of course. It's interesting that some of this would either "scare" you away or MAYBE turn you on? The way I see it you are probably only one encounter away from a couple who participates in the various categories listed here. If that's true and you really do swing then you have already been with that couple thru another couple. Something to think about.

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-06-2003, 12:49 PM

Oh, forgot to say what scares us off. Bad personalities. Not listed here. You can still have a good personality and do "all the above" and we still would like you. And the party goes on.

***JustAskJulie*** · 02-07-2003, 02:28 PM

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Originally posted by BiloxiCouple
Interesting subject. We love to swing ourselves. Full swap of course. It's interesting that some of this would either "scare" you away or MAYBE turn you on? The way I see it you are probably only one encounter away from a couple who participates in the various categories listed here. If that's true and you really do swing then you have already been with that couple thru another couple. Something to think about.

You pretty much perfectly summed up my thoughts behind posting this topic.

PAyoungCPL · 08-22-2004, 11:47 AM

If they refuse the use of condoms or if any part of thier region is green or looks like something is written in braile.

lauriern · 09-02-2004, 09:35 PM

People lie. At least you know people who admit they are wild, unclean, or untrustworthy are probably not lying to you. Reminds me of a joke I was told when I moved to Utah. How does a Mormon say "Fuck you", he says "Trust me." Works for Christy Fundies too. The best thing is to listen to that little voice in your head. If they are too good to be true, they probably are. Once you dip your toe in the pool of swing you accept the dictum "You are fucking everyone the other person has fucked." If you are not a risk taker this is not the lifestyle for you.

HDrider · 10-01-2004, 01:27 PM

Ditto BiloxiCouple's bad personalities

stoutgatte · 10-01-2004, 04:35 PM

There are a lot of things that would scare me off a couple, but none of them are listed... Does that mean I'm one of them

**good times** · 10-01-2004, 05:05 PM

I'm with Stoutgatte here, I figure we have probably encountered all of these things in the various people we have played with, whether we knew it or not.

Greg & Sheryl · 10-04-2004, 10:52 PM

Just about the only thing that truly scares us away are bi men.

Chemistry_0518 · 10-05-2004, 11:56 AM

We would like to echo the condom issue. But beyond that, we have experienced that other strange behaviors will raise the red flag. In one situation, an individual bragged unnecessarily about possessions and things like the number of hotels they have had sex in pointed us away from them, and rightly so because they were what most people would consider WHACKOS!!!!

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View Poll Results: What would it take to scare you off? (check all that apply)
They can't remember or won't say how many partners they have had	57	27.80%
They do "wild" group sex like gang bangs with guys they don't really know?	97	47.32%
They are into one night stands	63	30.73%
More than 100 partners	72	35.12%
You know they've had unprotected sex	91	44.39%
They've had sex with people you know to be unclean/untrustworthy when it comes to their sexual practices.	160	78.05%
They readily admit to their "wild" sexual encounters and are proud of them.	52	25.37%
Other	51	24.88%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 205. You may not vote on this poll

01-24-2003, 03:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,250 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	What does it take to scare you away? The topic on Questions to Ask?? regarding sexual history has led to some very interesting thoughts and discussions. The one I found most interesting was the idea of "wild" people are not safe. Which of course led to the discussion of what constitutes being "wild". How many partners does it take for you to decide ok this person just has had too many partners for me to feel safe with them. Are there other issues that constitute wild? At what point do you feel that you just can't trust your sexual health in the "hands" of this person or people? __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

01-24-2003, 10:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
bimrdcpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 231 Location: Warren Michigan Status: couple SLS Name:bimrdcpl2	I agree with everlast Julie all of those things on there scare us both. So because they all did we just chose other. Sorry if it messes up your poll but we looked at it all of them and just couldnt pick one. __________________ Enjoying the journey with our new found friends!!!!

01-26-2003, 06:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,250 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	That's why I left it so that you could check more than one option.... so you can check them all if they all apply. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

01-24-2003, 09:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
everlast Posts: n/a	Julie, I think you might need an 'All of the above" catagory on this one.

01-25-2003, 06:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
J & K Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 189 Location: Middle GA Status: Couple SLS Name:OKC_CPL	All of the above, plus more!!!! LOL!!!

02-06-2003, 12:45 PM	#6 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple YOUR PLACE OR OURS?? Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 2,755 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits SLS Name:graceful	Interesting subject. We love to swing ourselves. Full swap of course. It's interesting that some of this would either "scare" you away or MAYBE turn you on? The way I see it you are probably only one encounter away from a couple who participates in the various categories listed here. If that's true and you really do swing then you have already been with that couple thru another couple. Something to think about. __________________ Billy & Elaine You can't fix stupid...

02-06-2003, 12:49 PM	#7 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple YOUR PLACE OR OURS?? Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 2,755 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits SLS Name:graceful	Oh, forgot to say what scares us off. Bad personalities. Not listed here. You can still have a good personality and do "all the above" and we still would like you. And the party goes on. __________________ Billy & Elaine You can't fix stupid...

08-22-2004, 11:47 AM	#9 (permalink)
PAyoungCPL Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 49 Location: pa Status: couple	Re: What does it take to scare you away? If they refuse the use of condoms or if any part of thier region is green or looks like something is written in braile.

09-02-2004, 09:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
lauriern Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 50 Location: virginia Status: M. Female	Re: What does it take to scare you away? People lie. At least you know people who admit they are wild, unclean, or untrustworthy are probably not lying to you. Reminds me of a joke I was told when I moved to Utah. How does a Mormon say "Fuck you", he says "Trust me." Works for Christy Fundies too. The best thing is to listen to that little voice in your head. If they are too good to be true, they probably are. Once you dip your toe in the pool of swing you accept the dictum "You are fucking everyone the other person has fucked." If you are not a risk taker this is not the lifestyle for you.

10-01-2004, 01:27 PM	#11 (permalink)
HDrider Active Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 12 Location: GA Status: Couple	Re: What does it take to scare you away? Ditto BiloxiCouple's bad personalities __________________ Guns kill people like spoons made Rosie O'Donnell fat

10-01-2004, 04:35 PM	#12 (permalink)
stoutgatte Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 332 Location: South-Africa Status: Male Half	Re: What does it take to scare you away? There are a lot of things that would scare me off a couple, but none of them are listed... Does that mean I'm one of them __________________ Stoutgatte: Plural form of the afrikaans slang for a very norti person...

10-01-2004, 05:05 PM	#13 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,415 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: What does it take to scare you away? I'm with Stoutgatte here, I figure we have probably encountered all of these things in the various people we have played with, whether we knew it or not. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

10-04-2004, 10:52 PM	#14 (permalink)
Greg & Sheryl Blogging Swingers Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 722 Location: Denver, CO Status: Couple	Re: What does it take to scare you away? Just about the only thing that truly scares us away are bi men. __________________ Greg & Sheryl Our Swinging Blog

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Chemistry_0518 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 158 Location: Suffern NY Status: Couple SLS Name:Chemistry_0518	Re: What does it take to scare you away? We would like to echo the condom issue. But beyond that, we have experienced that other strange behaviors will raise the red flag. In one situation, an individual bragged unnecessarily about possessions and things like the number of hotels they have had sex in pointed us away from them, and rightly so because they were what most people would consider WHACKOS!!!!

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