Is your spouse your best lover? ever

[VegasLee]

Laura is the best Lover to me and that is all that matters......

You can only receive what you are willing to give.

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by sexyshelby

I believe that white lies are healthy, and this is one that I think would be helpful. Its like when a woman asks if she looks fat...who the hell says, yeah you're a whale!

~SS

White lies like this aren't healthy at all. If a woman needs to ask these questions, and can't cope with the truth, then she has self esteem issues. lying won't solve that, nor will it encourage her to work through her esteem issues. it enables the behaviour in her...

[sexycouple4u246]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

We believe that sex between us is "soul sex". The kind of sex that relaxes you and makes you feel all warm and loved inside. The kind of sex that makes you want to stay in bed all day naked. The kind of sex that can make you cry because it's as much an emotional release as a physical one. The kind of sex that makes you want to crawl inside of them, and you still wouldn't be close enough to them.

This is the most beautiful and acurate description of our sex life, thank you for writing this. Many nights we have had this discussion and I could never put my finger on why my spouse is the best lover I have ever had and now I have my answer. A million thanks to you

In a nut shell my spouse is the best lover I have ever had. This also is the best part of the lifestyle. I enjoy sharing him and his talents with others.

[3sumff]

Absolutely! My gf is the best! By far!

[Gladiola4u]

I would have to say that my sex slave is my and has been my best lover hands down, although we have never asked each other that question I know what my answer is and I am sure he also knows. We have had a few swaps and nobody has compared to the orgasms that he brings me to and he knows exactly what I need and like when I have reached an orgasm to feel fully and completely satisfied.
I don't know if I am his best that he has ever had but I don't want him to answer otherwise so I will not ask.

[tittietwister]

I voted no.

As some other replies have stated it's difficult to separate sex and love when speaking of your spouse or SO. The love enhances the sex so even though it is more enjoyable with her, technically she isn't the best, I know that I am not technically the best she has had. There will always be someone better than you technically but hopefully only one true love.

[WeUse]

Originally Posted by flkeyscouple

. . aside from the quantity, the quality is fantastic. . . [Mrs. FLKeys]

You sure know how to make a guy jealous!

Seriously, that's great, and I do wish I could say the same for myself and my wife.

I've had one really super lover, however. It happened in between my marriage, and lasted about 9 months about 25 years ago. I was telling an old friend/client about it. He got a huge smile on his face, and said "Yeah! Know whata mean. I had one of those from about June '41 until March 42, a month after I married [someone else]..."

It seems like if you've ever had one of those, it just can't be forgotten, even though you know any serious relationship with that person would have been doomed from the outset. After I got married, that old partner used to call me on my birthday for about 5 or 6 years. Sometimes, I find myself secretly wishing she'd call now (although I also know we could never replace what we once had). Interestingly, I don't think I was that good of a lover for her!

Enjoy your blessing!

~J

[herpob]

Without a doubt my guy is the best lover I have ever had. He takes great care of me. He'll do anything with and for me and let's me do whatever I want or need. He is AWESOME!!! Sexually he Rocks my World! The other guys in our group are fun to have sex with, suck off, etc. but my hubby is incredible to PLAY with!!! And a Great Kisser to boot!

[steve as is]

my wife is the ultimate sex machine and has taught me a lot and is not scared to experiment with all parts of sexuall activity

[herpob]

Originally Posted by bonesray

My wife and I have been married for 30 years. We entered the lifestyle early last year. Last night she asked me if she was the best lover I had ever had. We have always been honest with each other, so I answered no. She is upset with me.

No matter how much I tell her I love her, she is hurt.

I would love to have some feedback from you.

Is your spouse the best lover you have ever had?

I couldn't help noticing that you haven’t gotten a lot of helpful input as to your dilemma with your wife’s hurt feelings. But as far as what you have gotten what have been the best insights?

I am also curious if you have spoken with your wife in depth about why she is not the best ”lover” you have ever had. BTW, why isn’t she?

Have you guys ever worked together on getting to where she is you best lover? What could she do?

And now for the BIG question - are YOU her best lover? Why or why not? And please give her answer not yours...

[jdavisauto]

My lady whom I love very much and is very good at what she does but is not the best lover that I every had. The best lover was a hispanic lady. We was in the same martial Arts class together and then I hired her and she worked for me for a while. She asked me one day how I like playing around with other girls (She knew I was a swinger) and if I ever thought about her. I told her the truth and say yes. She then asked me what I though about her? I told her I can show you or I can tell you, which one do you want? She wanted me to show her and I did and it lasted for hours. She was the best I have been with and lasted the longest with. She wanted to get with both me and my lady but it never did happen (DAMN).

[meetcute1]

My husband is the best lover I have ever had. Like someone else sd he and I are willing to learn. We have a very open line of communication and I am not afraid to tell him what I like or don't like because he doesn't skip a beat. He always wants to please me in everything he does. I could not ask for anything better. I think the bottom line is that he cares whether I am pleased or not.