Is your spouse your best lover? ever

[intensity_too]

Do you really think the people who voted no are going to post to this thread? It's not going to happen.

[sexychoclit]

I am not married, however I can admit that the guy I am seeing now isn't the best lover I have ever had. In the lifestyle I met a man who could keep up with me in the bedroom and during our 2+ years together I can barely count a moment when I didn't have an orgasm.

As far as my relationship goes, it is a good one, but as far as sex is concerned I find that he doesn't have the stamina that I do and that can be a problem for me. The good thing about my boyfriend is that he has previous experience in the lifestyle and he is willing to do what it takes to make me happy and of course I do the same for him. So at some point, I hope that he will become the best lover I have ever had.

I don't think that your wife should be jealous. Did you tell her who your best lover was and was that person in the lifestyle? If so, then I can see where her not being your best could cause a problem.

[bill&sabrina]

Originally Posted by intensity_too

Do you really think the people who voted no are going to post to this thread? It's not going to happen.

Did you read the original post, or did you just read the subject line?

[lovinher]

She sure is the best. Without a doubt. Not even close. No question. Really! I'm not lying. She knows it too! Love you babe

[Cpl2share]

I have been with women that could or would do things that Mrs. Cpl can't or won't do. But, she is still the best lover (by any definition) that I have ever had because she does things with me for pleasure. Not because she is expected to, or because she has to, or because she is scared what I might say in teh locker room. Everything that she does with and to me is out of the desire to bring pleasure to me and us. That makes her the best lover in the world.

We both answered yes. Mr. Cpl does anything that I ask of him. He may not have the best technique in the world, but he has the best technique in me. And that is what matters. After 17 years together he has learned every button and just when and how to push them. I take that back, he is the best in the world, at least for me.

[cubnamy1995]

I'm sorry, and I know that I'm gonna get tore up for saying this, but this is apples and oranges and I would know better than to say something that dumb. And mind you, I've said some really dumb shit.

My wife is the only "lover" I've ever had, and of course she is the best. But my wife is in a category all her own. No other woman even gets lumped in there.

I'm all for honesty, but there is something to be said for nuance. There is a big difference between saying "honey, I think a different dress would be more flattering on you" and "my God you look like a fat ass in that."

Have we had women that were really, really good? Sure! Better than her? No, because even if my wife just laid there (which is far from the truth), it is a whole different thing, and I would never try to lump her in.

Has she had guys who were technically better than me? Maybe. But I'm different. I'm HER man. I have a place all to myself.

I mean no disrespect, but this just seems like a really good example of what happens when we men forget to put in our stupid filter, and shit just comes pouring out of our mouth without being processed through the brain first.

Apologize, attempt to re-explain your position, and reminder her that we are, by nature, dumb-asses from time to time.

Feel free to flame me for this all you want, but if you are a man, and you are honest with yourself, you have said something really stupid in the past to your wife, you have watched the words come out of your own mouth, and wished like a mother-fucker you could pull them back just as soon as they came out.

Flame away....

[havefuninsun]

Originally Posted by cubnamy1995

I'm sorry, and I know that I'm gonna get tore up for saying this, but this is apples and oranges and I would know better than to say something that dumb. And mind you, I've said some really dumb shit.

My wife is the only "lover" I've ever had, and of course she is the best. But my wife is in a category all her own. No other woman even gets lumped in there.

I'm all for honesty, but there is something to be said for nuance. There is a big difference between saying "honey, I think a different dress would be more flattering on you" and "my God you look like a fat ass in that."

Have we had women that were really, really good? Sure! Better than her? No, because even if my wife just laid there (which is far from the truth), it is a whole different thing, and I would never try to lump her in.

Has she had guys who were technically better than me? Maybe. But I'm different. I'm HER man. I have a place all to myself.

I mean no disrespect, but this just seems like a really good example of what happens when we men forget to put in our stupid filter, and shit just comes pouring out of our mouth without being processed through the brain first.

Apologize, attempt to re-explain your position, and reminder her that we are, by nature, dumb-asses from time to time.

Feel free to flame me for this all you want, but if you are a man, and you are honest with yourself, you have said something really stupid in the past to your wife, you have watched the words come out of your own mouth, and wished like a mother-fucker you could pull them back just as soon as they came out.

Flame away....

You are a very smart man. Or well trained. Either way, you seem to have cured your own foot-in-mouth disease.

Now for us women ... we need to LET GO of those dumb comments every once in a while ... understand things are said that come out different than their intention, and not hold it over our man's head for the rest of heir lives, too. ("You know what I'm mad about. In 1984 when we were in that terrible fight, you said I got a "D" on my wife report card. Man: "But honey, that was 23 years ago ... I didn't mean it .... I was just pissed at that moment...").

[belgiumCouple]

I voted no, but this may change in the future... She's not the best but very rapidly becoming the best (she used to not-like blow jobs but loving it now and she's really an expert at it)!

[daisy girl]

Yes, Yes, and Damn Yes! He loves me enough to make me feel dirty and naughty during sex while realizing that I am truly his soul mate.

[ht805cpl]

a loaded question that most people would have to lie about, what good does it do to ask this type of quesiton? My spouse, is a very hot lady, whom I have had some great sex with, both alone and with others. Is she the very best, she is great but I have had a few who were better. Not in every way and not every time, and maybe because there was no commitment it lent itself to being a bit more loose and wild. But I always leave the party with my spouse.

[Tybee Swing]

This has been interesting reading! Some comments have got me curious about something. Do men often rate their lovers or sex experiences according to how loose and wild it gets? By what things the woman will do or can do (which some other women don't do)? Is "best lover" status something that is bestowed on someone for how kinky or different they were, compared to others? I'm very curious about this. If anyone has any thoughts on this or experiences to share, I'd love to hear it.

[sereneiders]

Is your spouse the better cooker? Is your spouse your best chess opponent? Is your spouse the best singer you know?....

Well, the list goes on and on and on, and you wouldn't expect to answer them all with a "yeah"... even when you may anuser some of them with a "yeah!" because it is the politically right question. However, if we were to give the politiaclly right answer this question, the poll resuld shoud be 100% for yes, 0% for no.

Perhaps it's worth to say that I don't expect to be the best lover ever for my wife. I know I am good, but I hope her to be able to meet better lovers than myself, for the sake of her pleasure! And also to say there are so many features involved that t doesn't make too much sense the term "better lover", i.e., some give better oral than others, some moves the hips better than others, some figure out the right words to say at the proper times, some are more passionate, some more imaginative... it's a huge list and I doubt someone would be able to score 10/10 for every item.

What really cares for me is my own list of features, where some of them has nothing to do with sex, and there are priorities or "weights" to put them in order (BTW, the sexual related ones aren't the most important ones), and the whole outcome cannot be beaten by anyone else in the world.

[Jack and Jeannie]

There is no 'best'. The least memorable I ever had was fantastic.

[ViSexual]

I voted no.

I've been married for 35 years and I've been with lots of women.

My wife isn't the best at intercouse.

My wife isn't the best at giving head.

My wife isn't the best I've ever eaten.

But, she's a close second in all of the categories and the 'best' of each isn't even in the top ten of the other's.

But, come to think of it, my wife has the best tasting anus of any woman I've ever been with. Now, number two is sure close to her though! In fact, I wouldn't mind have number two and my wife side by side for a real 'taste' comparison!

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

Laurie and I have been married 19 years now. She is undoubtedly the best lover I have ever had. She knows EXACTLY where to touch me and how. She also just keeps getting better because every time we find a playmate who has some trick she doesn't know we work on it till she figures it out.