Personal Ads - Yes or No

[ShellyM]

Well, I am torn on this. On the one hand, through sls we went to the camping trip at the nudie ranch, and met some awesome couples who I keep in touch with almost daily and consider to be my friends...and we have met other couples who are great as well....great post for us making friends.
Now, play partners are another matter entirely! lol it seems like we meet, talk and things are great. comes to talking about meeting, and POOF! lol

[Dooode]

You really gotta stop POOF'ing them, Shelly. You're not going to get anywhere that way!!

Most of my contacts come through online sources. These days, SLS. Sometimes a couple wants to get together seperately, should we initially meet at a house party.

What irks me is that none ever wanna go out, just to go out. You know, hang, be friends, have some downtime fun.

[fun4Ds]

spammer me thinks

[Tia Vampire]

No! we do not use persoal ads. Why is that, if you do agree to meet up with a couple, then poof?

[BCinIN]

We have an ad, but have never met anyone through it. We're not worried about it either.

I think a lot of couples with ads are either fake (like single males pretending to be couples--I've heard of a lot of those out there), or get cold feet, or maybe don't like something about a profile and yet don't have the character to just say so. It does annoy me a little when they don't respond at all to an initial message, but even that I suspect is just a matter of them not being all that compatible with us after all.

Someone posted on here a couple months ago (maybe longer) that swinging couples are far less likely to be compatible with each other all around than a one-on-one dating man and woman are. I absolutely agree--now, instead of merely two people needing to be compatible with each other, you have four people, and each of them must click with two other people instead of just one. Mathematically, swinging should be 1/4 as successful as vanilla dating. Thankfully, swinging couples are much more laid back than the average person...so it's more like 1/3 or 1/2 in my estimation.

[JustAskJulie]

There has been a lot of discussion about this in various threads lately.

For us we use the ads minimally... in fact we have yet to meet anyone through them. We have ONE ad out on SLS and that is it. I would say mostly we use it to log inand see what is going on near us and who is signed up to go.

[sweet_tna]

We do the online thing, but have yet to make "first contact" through the site. We've met couples that contacted us, but I've been leaning toward the Meet & Greets and parties as a better way to meet folks.

[havefuninsun]

We've only met folks through our SLS site. We've not done any of the clubs in our area, but we've been talking more about that. We had heard that some swingers hang out at a particular bar on a particular night in our town, and went to see one night. We didn't find the party. We later learned that the group and dissipated for lack of interest.

I'm wondering if it's a regional thing ... some of our friends have been to the clubs, but I'm not sure if they've met any of their swing friends that way. House parties seem to be more of a way to go, but I still think SLS, at least around these parts, is the starting point.

[funfrkycpl]

We are paid members of three sites right now and have met people from two of them. We have had the best luck with Swappernet, meeting quite a few people over the years, and have met a few people off of SLS. The other site, LoveVoodoo, we haven't had any luck with because there just aren't many members from our area.

Meeting people isn't the main reason we are members of these sites though. We use them more for finding parties and events in our area and events we want to travel to. Being able to find info on parties makes the cost of memberships to these sites more than worth it to us.


C & G