How open about swinging are you?

[Hot Raleigh Cpl]

The first 10 years I was swinging -- 70s and early 80s -- I didn't hide it from most friends. At the time, though, most of my friends were pretty open-minded, even though most weren't the sexual explorers I was.

I became MUCH more discrete after an incident in 1987. One morning, a woman I worked with seemed upset about something. I asked her what. She told me she'd seen something on TV about these people -- these perverts, they called themselves swingers -- they were married but they HAD SEX with other people, she just couldn't believe something like that was real.

I responded matter-of-factly, that's not so unusual, I know lots of swingers, they come from all walks of life and chances are some of the folks she knows are swingers, but she just isn't aware of it. I stopped in mid-sentence when I saw her. Her jaw dropped, the blood drained from her face, I thought she was gonna faint. She was SHOCKED that I knew anyone like that. Naturally, I didn't tell her that the way I knew all those swingers was that I'd been pretty active, too, for over a decade.

That's when it hit home that not everyone is open-minded enough to deal sensibly with that knowledge. I also wanted to be sensitive to them, and not shock people. Since then, I've told very few vanilla people about it.

After L and I got together, I told her about the incident. We seldom 'fess up about our wild side except to folks we know also play.

HOWEVER, when we win a SwingersBoard T shirt, L has already decided on some of the places she'll wear it ;-)

S and L, Hot Raleigh Cpl

[JDApopka]

I don't think most of our friends would not understand. I know my race buddys wouldn't

[nicerrtxcple]

No not we are keeping it quite,we thought about telling my wifes best friend cause i would like to take her to bed.

[Malachista]

Oh I made some remarks with people I trust.... but always in a way that they can never be sure if I mean it for real or if I'm just my sarcastic joke self....

[Brian and Jo]

We are nudists as well as swingers and we are very open about our nudism. All our family know about it and so do most of our vanilla friends. It is hard to keep the fact that we are nudists secret when we have decorated the walls of our hot tub room with photographs of us taken at nudist resorts.
As for swinging we are a bit more discreet about that. We are quite sure that our children suspect that we are swingers but they have never raised the subject with us nor us with them. A few of our vanilla friends have asked us if nudists are also swingers and we have replied that some but by no means all most certainly are. We have also told them we have become very close friends with several nudist couples. There is no doubt in our minds that they were able to read between the lines and understood fully what we were saying.
Last week we had our neighbours over for dinner. They have joined us in our hot tub from time to time and are now comfortable to go into the tub with us in the nude. During the evening they mentionned that they had been watching Swingtown. We said that we were watching it too and then came right out and told them we had been swinging for many years. That set the scene for a very interesting conversation over the rest of the evening!

[Red Lady]

I keep things very, very quiet as I could lose my job if people thought I was a "loose woman." The double standard is still alive and well in some areas of human behavior, at least in the USA.