Where do newbies/veterans prefer to meet someone for the 1st time?

[getnit2gethr]

I was curious about the other poll results. Do veteran swingers preference for a first meet differ from the newbies? I figure you can decide if you are a veteran or a newbie. We've been in the lifestyle for a year but We're not veterans so I chose from the newbie side.

BTW, sorry for the repeat. This seemed the only definitive way to clear that question up. Thanks

[Beaverbumper]

We are also newbies but without the jealouse and drama that alot have. We would prefer a resturant or a meet and greet which we have never found around us..

[rpu3]

We have few months of experience now, and so I voted that we are veterans who prefer on-premises clubs for a meeting.

We've just spent too much time, money and energy in meeting other couples at vanilla locations. Considering we still need to meet our 'regular' life friends at the bars/restaurants, our entertainment budget was getting out of hand. Just easier for us to invest the money in a night at the club - we are guaranteed a good time with each other even if we don't feel we'd be a good match with the person/persons we met.

[flipflop]

We are also newbies and would prefer a meet and greet setting, especially since we live in a small town. Although there are not many meet and greets in the province that we live in, there isn't even a club that we can find . Maybe that is part of the reason we are still newbie's.lol. If anyone knows of a place where we could meet other people/couples in our area feel free to let us know.

[havefuninsun]

We're neither newbies nor veterans, but I said veterans who like to meet in a vanilla setting. We've never been to a club or meet and greet -- so that made the decision easy (LOL).

[good times]

Some of the previous posters brought up a good point to consider, that is that your pole will probably still not be definitive because most people will use what they have handy. As an example, we have on-premise clubs here and of course we have vanilla settings, those are our only two choices. Of those choices we prefer the on-premise clubs, if we had other choices or if all we had were off-premise clubs or M&G's we may very well prefer one of those. So I think in the end, they way people answer this pole will reflect more of what they have available than what their actual preference is or would be. The fact is, having never been to an off-premise club or M&G, I have no idea whether I would prefer them or not.

[getnit2gethr]

Originally Posted by good times

So I think in the end, they way people answer this pole will reflect more of what they have available than what their actual preference is or would be.

Good point.

[Spoomonkey]

I like RPU3's post - because it made me think... Which smells like burnt hair, BTW.

We have most of our success at clubs (on-premise) but when we meet people from ad sites, we meet them at vanilla places for dinner and drinks. We prefer that - but now I think maybe RPU3 is right. If nothing else - meeting for dinner before heading to a club would work perfectly...

It makes things much easier and if a couple isn't into clubs, we might not be much into them. There are certainly wonderful exceptions, but the club does make it easier to explore right then and there...

In fact, we met a couple we still enjoy at a restaurant on the first night. The chemistry was so good that we did some rather inappropriate things in this vanilla setting. Gas on fire? Yeah - it was just like that. Had we just met at a club we could have avoided the frustration of not getting to play on the first date (which was not something they or we did, but in this instance was one of those incredible exceptions!).

I think maybe in the future, we might suggest a club for ease of transition.

Spoomonkey

For MrVan and I, we are similar to the Spoo's in the regards that if we meet a couple or single on Swing Lifestyle or Swapper, we tend to meet in a vanilla setting first to make sure that there is an attraction and a connection. MrVan and I like to get the chance to "read" the couple to see if there is anything that sticks out that may not feel right about them.

We do like the Meet-Up events as it has allowed us to meet alot of great people whom we have become friends with on here. But we also like the club setting as well, where you can go to a club and have a great time there also. facelick Adding the mix of dancing and skirts with no panties is a sure way to get things started and to have a good time.

MrsVan

[Mr. Truelove]

As newbies, dinner or drinks followed by a club is what Mrs. Truelove and I thought we would like best. Especially since you can act a little more outrageous in the club. Not that I do act outrageous, but some day I hope to.

Mr. Truelove

[gatorvol64]

We all need goals. But I'm thinking you may need to set new ones that you haven't actually achieved.

Vol

[Tia Vampire]

I picked a newbie and on premise club, because it is a good a way to test the waters and find out alot about each other in that kind of environment so that neither couple feel uncomfortable.You can see if the person can handle liquor or if they are a asshole when they drink, this is very important for me. Save the drama for someone who gives a damn.

[JustAskJulie]

We prefer clubs/socials (of any kind) to meet people for the first time.

[MrkLin]

If we're meeting with a couple we've met online for the first time, we prefer to meet in a neutral public place, where we can relax and get to know each other a little better. We figure the vanilla setting is something everyone is comfortable with, and there's absolutely no pressure to try to make anything progress. Oh, and we're 15 year veterans.

We do like to go to on-premise clubs, but we're a bit more casual there than most. If we meet someone there, great. If not, that's great too. That's not our primary reason for going to the club. We always have fun at the club, whether we play with anyone else or not.

[Brian and Jo]

We are veteran swingers and when we meet a new couple, for example when we are on vacation, we prefer a vanilla meeting first. We usually suggest meeting somewhere convenient for drinks and/or dinner so we can all get to know one another in a non-swinging environment. If we all hit it off at the first meeting we will arrange a second meeting where we can take things to the next stage. We have to admit though that if we REALLY hit it off we are sometimes willing to play on the first meeting.