Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"?

intuition897 · 11-12-2006, 05:48 PM

I'm curious to see what everyone's initial experiences were in this respect. Perhaps this has been polled already, but I'll try it again. So did you start out slowly and gradually with much talk, or did you just decide one night, on a lark, to hit a club and the rest was history?

DGrey · 11-12-2006, 06:37 PM

We went right in, feet first.

Decided to swing in January of 2006.
First meet & greet was 2 weeks later and that very night we were at a house party...our first swinging experience.

We haven't looked back.

E

VanHlebar · 11-12-2006, 08:47 PM

Mrs Van and I jumped in head first!

We really aren't the slow moving types and yes this caused some issues at first, but in the long term we haven't looked back and we have been very lucky that all of our encounters up to this point have been great!

-Van

Mr. Truelove · 11-12-2006, 08:53 PM

Medium. However in the terms of some people starting off with voyeurism or soft swap and/or lots of rules we didn't. We just went straight in with full-swap very few rules.

flkeyscouple · 11-12-2006, 08:59 PM

I said 'medium fast' because when we decided to do it... we jumped in and did it. But at that time we still lived in our small home-town and we would only party and play when we travelled. We had kids at home so we didn't travel often..... so swinging was at a stand still for years. But the START was jumping in without delay! And as empty nesters we are restarting that life again - and again jumping in without delay!

Sarah

Pepper & Drew · 11-12-2006, 09:39 PM

We took a running leap.

Even though it was 6 months from the night at the strip club that started our ideas of swinging all until we went to Hedo I, once we got there, we didn't waste time. We soft swapped the second night of the trip, and full swapped the next afternoon. It didn't seem too fast at all.

Pepper

girlsnboys · 11-12-2006, 09:47 PM

We waded for years after having a couple of threesomes that we weren't ready for. But once we joined a great website this year for couples in area, we felt ready and took the plunge -- there's been some bumps in the road but we handled it, and what a fantastic ride its been!

girls n boys

Spoomonkey · 11-12-2006, 09:53 PM

We went VERY slow...

It took us six months to go from agreeing to start exploring to doing our first soft swap.

After that - we put on our running shoes

Spoomonkey

**good times** · 11-12-2006, 10:20 PM

Yep, same with us, we discussed and researched it for about a year but once we decided to do it, we jumped right in.

wifes_sex_slave · 11-12-2006, 10:23 PM

We're taking our time.

I first mentioned it in the summer and we've had our "discussions, questions, what if's". We are now attending a local club, meeting new couples, getting tons of advice from you fine folks.

It will come... and we'll be waiting when it does.

interested-05 · 11-13-2006, 04:31 AM

simply taking our time. Taking care of our realtionship is more important than getting a little extra pleasure

playmatesinpgh · 11-13-2006, 09:33 AM

We jumped right in... After we decided we would like to try playing with another couple, we posted our first profile on Swing Lifestyle the very next day. Two weeks later we were in a hot tub and then bed having our first full swap.

Beaverbumper · 11-13-2006, 12:26 PM

We talk and played on line with a few couple. Then things went cold.. Then one day it started up and its been going ever since. Now she even enjoys watching porn...

**LFM2** · 11-13-2006, 12:29 PM

It was about three months from the time we first started talking about swinging to actually doing our first full swap. I (Mrs. LFM) needed to do a lot of investigating and research before actually just jumping in.

Thankfully, I found this board and that helped me more than anything!

Unfortunately, our schedules have really sucked this fall, but we're hoping that this winter our schedules will allow us time for more play. We have no clubs here, so we do interviews only. Those are fun, too. It gets us out of the house and we get to share a great meal with some great folks.

havefuninsun · 11-13-2006, 01:26 PM

We talked and talked, but once we paid for our Swing Lifestyle site, we got up on the high dive, jumped around a bit, and plunged right in. Not many rules. We are trying to establish the "friends with benefits" type of relationships, so we haven't been "hard core." But, so far so good and we're having fun. In the sun. Duh.

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View Poll Results: Did you jump into the lifestyle, or wade in?
0 mph. The lifestyle is at a stand-still for us.	6	3.82%
Slow speed. Just fantasy so far.	14	8.92%
Medium-slow. We're moving ahead but VERY cautiously.	29	18.47%
Medium. Talk and action were pretty balanced.	29	18.47%
Medium-fast. Very few obstacles slowed us down.	31	19.75%
We jumped right in; swinging was a perfect fit for us.	48	30.57%
Voters: 157. You may not vote on this poll

11-12-2006, 05:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
intuition897 Canadian, eh? Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 2,633 Location: Kingston, ON Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:intuition897	Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? I'm curious to see what everyone's initial experiences were in this respect. Perhaps this has been polled already, but I'll try it again. So did you start out slowly and gradually with much talk, or did you just decide one night, on a lark, to hit a club and the rest was history?
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11-12-2006, 06:37 PM	#2 (permalink)
DGrey Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 386 Location: Exit 13A Thank you very much! Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:DGrey	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We went right in, feet first. Decided to swing in January of 2006. First meet & greet was 2 weeks later and that very night we were at a house party...our first swinging experience. We haven't looked back. E
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11-12-2006, 08:47 PM	#3 (permalink)
VanHlebar Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 711 Location: Here Status: S	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? Mrs Van and I jumped in head first! We really aren't the slow moving types and yes this caused some issues at first, but in the long term we haven't looked back and we have been very lucky that all of our encounters up to this point have been great! -Van

11-12-2006, 08:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
Mr. Truelove Wearing a evil grin Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,198 Location: Fort Wayne Status: Married Male Swing Lifestyle Name:Thetrueloves	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? Medium. However in the terms of some people starting off with voyeurism or soft swap and/or lots of rules we didn't. We just went straight in with full-swap very few rules.
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11-12-2006, 08:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
flkeyscouple Sarah&Roger's Female Half Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,160 Location: FL Status: couple-female half Swing Lifestyle Name:floridakeyscouple	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? I said 'medium fast' because when we decided to do it... we jumped in and did it. But at that time we still lived in our small home-town and we would only party and play when we travelled. We had kids at home so we didn't travel often..... so swinging was at a stand still for years. But the START was jumping in without delay! And as empty nesters we are restarting that life again - and again jumping in without delay! Sarah

11-12-2006, 09:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
Pepper & Drew Mmmmm...tasty! Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 1,035 Location: Hurricane Alley Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:alhedonists	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We took a running leap. Even though it was 6 months from the night at the strip club that started our ideas of swinging all until we went to Hedo I, once we got there, we didn't waste time. We soft swapped the second night of the trip, and full swapped the next afternoon. It didn't seem too fast at all. Pepper
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11-12-2006, 09:47 PM	#7 (permalink)
girlsnboys Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 42 Location: Los Angeles	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We waded for years after having a couple of threesomes that we weren't ready for. But once we joined a great website this year for couples in area, we felt ready and took the plunge -- there's been some bumps in the road but we handled it, and what a fantastic ride its been! girls n boys

11-12-2006, 09:53 PM	#8 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We went VERY slow... It took us six months to go from agreeing to start exploring to doing our first soft swap. After that - we put on our running shoes Spoomonkey
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11-12-2006, 10:20 PM	#9 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? Yep, same with us, we discussed and researched it for about a year but once we decided to do it, we jumped right in.
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11-12-2006, 10:23 PM	#10 (permalink)
wifes_sex_slave Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 73 Location: Ontario, Canada Status: Married to Gladiola4u Swing Lifestyle Name:Tony_N_Lucy	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We're taking our time. I first mentioned it in the summer and we've had our "discussions, questions, what if's". We are now attending a local club, meeting new couples, getting tons of advice from you fine folks. It will come... and we'll be waiting when it does.
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11-13-2006, 04:31 AM	#11 (permalink)
interested-05 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 218 Location: CT Status: couple	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? simply taking our time. Taking care of our realtionship is more important than getting a little extra pleasure

11-13-2006, 09:33 AM	#12 (permalink)
playmatesinpgh Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 136 Location: Pittsburgh, Pa Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:LvrofBBWs	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We jumped right in... After we decided we would like to try playing with another couple, we posted our first profile on Swing Lifestyle the very next day. Two weeks later we were in a hot tub and then bed having our first full swap.
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11-13-2006, 12:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
Beaverbumper Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 155 Location: Union City, Mi Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Beaverbumper	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We talk and played on line with a few couple. Then things went cold.. Then one day it started up and its been going ever since. Now she even enjoys watching porn...
	__________________ Diane & Allen

11-13-2006, 12:29 PM	#14 (permalink)
LFM2 ~This space for rent~ Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,750 Location: across the tracks Status: Couple	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? It was about three months from the time we first started talking about swinging to actually doing our first full swap. I (Mrs. LFM) needed to do a lot of investigating and research before actually just jumping in. Thankfully, I found this board and that helped me more than anything! Unfortunately, our schedules have really sucked this fall, but we're hoping that this winter our schedules will allow us time for more play. We have no clubs here, so we do interviews only. Those are fun, too. It gets us out of the house and we get to share a great meal with some great folks.
	__________________ Dave & Holly

11-13-2006, 01:26 PM	#15 (permalink)
havefuninsun insert witty banter here Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 1,190 Location: Virginia Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:havefuninsun	Re: Did You "Jump In" or Did You "Wade In"? We talked and talked, but once we paid for our Swing Lifestyle site, we got up on the high dive, jumped around a bit, and plunged right in. Not many rules. We are trying to establish the "friends with benefits" type of relationships, so we haven't been "hard core." But, so far so good and we're having fun. In the sun. Duh.

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