Reasons You Haven't Jumped In Yet

[Spoomonkey]

Where is Mr. Truelove when you need him to computer generate a pirate and Cinderella Spoo?

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

Ok...back to your regularly scheduled thread and topic

Yes - what Van said

Spoomonkey

[Mr. Truelove]

Before I even hit next page to see what you replied I was already thinking about it, and already saying, "heck no, waaaay to much work."

Maybe another day...

Mr. Truelove

[Mr. Truelove]

Sigh....

ARRR It's a Pirate SPOO!!!!


Mr. Truelove

[sexyshelby]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Sigh....

ARRR It's a Pirate SPOO!!!!


Mr. Truelove

Good job!
I like it.

~SS

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Sigh....

ARRR It's a Pirate SPOO!!!!


Mr. Truelove

Awesome! Way to go Mr.TrueLove....Now he just needs the outfit to go on him.. We need to see the Cinderella one also..

MrsVan

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Sigh....

We just love your work, True... You have established yourself as the world's number one Spoomonkey artist!

Spoomonkey

[VanHlebar]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Sigh....

ARRR It's a Pirate SPOO!!!!


Mr. Truelove

Man we need to find you a hobby...you have way to much time on your hands.

Great job...when do we get to see Cinderilla Spoo??

-Van

[atlas]

If we were childless, I think we would have hit the club already. However, we're kind of shy, homebodies so we don't go out much to begin with. Sacrificing a babysitter for one of the few nights we want to go out makes it twice as hard. In addition, T works on Sunday morning and most clubs are on Saturday night. It needs to sort of a perfect storm where we're both in the mood, Friday party, and haven't played our sitter card recently.
Having said all that, I voted jealousy because I've also shown early signs of being jealous and need to regain her trust on that front.

[warrencouple]

At the moment, I voted other...

Neither the Mrs nor I have yet even gone to a club, or an off-premise. Most likely, our first swap (soft or hard), won't be for quite some time, we want to take this some slow, make sure we've got our heads on straight, and not doing something to ruin our relationship with each other.

[crazi429]

Well I am very ready but Red says she is ready but I can't get her to commit to a start. She has a Co worker thats Bi and she approached her and this lady is not quite ready yet as she is getting her tubes tied in near future and wants to wait till then. I don't want to push Red to hard but I know from other things in the past she does have to be pushed. So I am unsure what to take as the next step. Along with her working 3rd shift and 6 to 7 days a week sure makes it hard to get started.

[celtic239]

I voted for "some other reason" but in reality there is no one particular reason other than my wife is attempting to come to terms with the concept of her feeling comfortable in the lifestyle. She has reservations based on several of the first listed options, while no one in particular is overriding but a combination of them give her "pause for concern". I believe that while I can provide her with certain information, she and she alone, will have to attain a certain piece of mind first and then we will be able to take the "plunge" without reservation.

[Spokaneman]

Originally Posted by harsh

Basically catching fire with the notion of swinging 6 months ago, approaching my wife with the idea, and then my impatient self making it a topic of basic conversation with my wife for 2 straight months. She certainly wasn't averse to the idea and we even came up with some basic ground rules for whenever that first time came. But after 2 months, and I can't articulate it very well, the daily conversations seemed disingenuous from my end. No doubt we had felt the enhanced level of communication we both had created, but this had to be expanded and transcended into other areas of our lives together. The level of enhanced communication and discovery after 20 years of marriage has been mind blowing in a positive way, and some days not easy by any stretch.

I have no doubt our time will come to jump in, and no doubt we'll be ready when that day occurs. The journey in getting there has been fun, rewarding and priceless for our relationship. In the meantime, I'll continue to lurk and learn

Wow everything you wrote is exactly why me and my wife have not got involved yet. I am ready, she is very interested... however... she is a bit worried about meeting people for real and them being wierd or have bad intentions in mind. she is also worried that because we are a heavy couple... 300 for me and about 235 for her, that we would just be looked at as the fat people who are discusting and dont belong.

we have talked about doing this for a long time now. I brought it up a while back and at first she was thinking I was funny, but as I sugested that I would love to see her getting ummmm a good time from another man or women, she started to get interested. however it has not yet gone past intrest for her, and I am not going to push the issue. It may happen in the next year or sooner who knows. then again even if she never goes through with it, at least we know we can talk to eachother about anything and we are not jelous at all.

[rt829]

I wonder how many people are like me....I like the site, read the storys, read the forums, comment once in a while.....But never in a million years would my wife ever consider a swap.

[JoCoCpl]

We simply haven't found the right couple yet. That is mostly our fault, as our "real" lives have kept us too busy to get out much. We've chatted with several great couples - just haven't had time to meet many of them and get things headed the right direction.

[TnMtns]

We aren’t ready to play because I am concerned about jealousy. - I guess my biggest fear is how hubby will react after the fact or the next day if I have sex with another guy. I am Bi-sexual and both my DH and her DH have watched us in action. However; before DH and I were dating I had a FMF with her and her hubby. I told DH this, when he was a BF before we were engaged (it happended the last time about 3 months before our first date) and he became VERY jealous...but soon got over it. However, from time to time he makes little sharp comments about those 2 times.
We aren’t ready to play because I am concerned about STDs.- Being a nurse I am a condom required unless I know you really well person, any playmates will have to understand. When dating I never made a guy wear a condom for a BJ, but if Im gonna swing (and I do want to) I think he is either gonna have to wear one for a BJ or not cum in my mouth. I expect DH to play by the same rules.
We aren’t ready to play because he (DH) is concerned about privacy (being discovered). - DH is a firefighter and worried how discovery would alter an future promotions.

Please, if any of my thoughts seem unrealistic, let me know.