Would you perform a sexual activity just to please your partner?

[JustAskJulie]

Ok, this came up in another topic, so I thought I'd post a poll here and ask.

If your partner asked you to do something because it would turn them on to see it, would you do it just for them? Even if it was something that you had no interest in or that perhaps even repulsed you?

For instance, if you are straight would you engage in bisexual activities to please your partner (because they wanted to see it)?

This can apply to anything not just bisexual activities, the one example John used was having his wife get gangbanged by a group of midgets so that he could watch.

Vote in the poll then tell us how far you would be willing to go JUST to please your partner.

[sportync]

I sincerely feel that both partners in a relationship should have the freedom to explore their fantasies, as long as they are done together as an extention of the relationship, and not to the exclusion of one of the partners. Each person's fantasies are unique, and this can bring some real insight, excitment and erotic overtones to a relationship. If you love your partner, then you will do all you can to see that their needs and desires are being fulfilled. One partner, however, may feel a real aversion to something their partner fantasizes about. The whole idea is that the sex should be fun for both of them, and doing something that you cringe at just the thought of couldn't be much of a turn-on for you. The mind is the most powerful sexual organ we have, and it pretty much controls all the rest of them. If the fantasy involves something that you've never actually done, but something that you feel fairly comfortable with, then if it's something that your partner really gets turned on by, then I would certianly try to give it a shot. Sportync

[sinc]

Im not so much what I wouldnt do but when. Im pretty open but I have be able to enjoy and be into what we are doing or forget it .If I have to do it without feeling comfortable then I wont do it. It may sound selfish but I wouldnt expect anyone else to do something for me if they didnt feel comfortable. Sex is for enjoyment why make it work.
I dont think Im open enough to try any animal. Ill stick with humans.

[TeamSoBe]

I'll do pretty much anything that doesn't leave anybody injured if my wife wants me to. It doesn't matter a lot to me if I enjoy the specific activity, if she's getting something out of it then I'm enjoying providing fun for her.

[Alura]

I think I can safely say that I would do anything Mrs. Alura asked of me. That's because she knows me well enough to know what to ask. I would never submit to anal but she would never ask it of me because she would have no interest in seeing it herself.

Mr. Alura

I agree with my husband on this. Neither of us would ever do S&M, bondage, water sports, etc. We tried anal once early in our relationship but neither of us liked it so we never did it again. We tried unsuccessfully tried a dp once and I'd like to try that again but so would he.

Mrs. Alura

[sinc]

I couldnt enjoy myself if my husband did what I wanted and got no enjoyment at all. I usually dont have a hard time getting into something but I let go not thinking just let my body do what it feels and I dont think what I should do or how because if I thought about what to do then Im not going to relax and let go because Im thinking what or how Im supposed to do whats on my mind, and belive me my husband enjoys hinself much more when Im into the sex. If we talk about something one of us wants to do we dont set a time that we have to do it. In fact we let our minds play with the fantasy until it seems to just happen at the right time. Im not saying its always like that for us but most of the time. We enjoy the anticipation of if we will actually do it .

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by Alura

I agree with my husband on this. Neither of us would ever do S&M, bondage, water sports, etc. We tried anal once early in our relationship but neither of us liked it so we never did it again. We tried unsuccessfully tried a dp once and I'd like to try that again but so would he.

Mrs. Alura

Just curious are you doing double vaginal penetration then? Since you said you didn't like anal?

[Alura]

We think we didn't like anal because we couldn't kiss and Mrs. Alura felt like she needed to shit. We didn't hate it, we'd just rather do other things. She'd like to have another go at dp with anal/vaginal penetration and Mr. Alura is happy to help. We may never do that again once we've tried it. On the other hand, who knows?

Alura

[dragonfly_nc]

Hmm..well I would be willing to "try" most anything (minus pain or water sports) to satisfy my partner. However if it was something I just wasn't into I wouldn't continue it, just to satisfy him.

[RnKin Fla]

We have a friend who is a bi-male. He likes R. I have a fantasy of watching R get a blowjob from another guy. R is not willing (but I keep bugging him about it).

In light of all this, it would not be fair of me to say I would not do certain things to please my partner. I do have some limits, however.

No scat. Ick. No bestiality. Double Ick.

The thing is, there is not much I won't try. I think the above is pretty much my list of things that are off-limits. And since the above two also turn R off, I doubt there is any danger of him asking me to engage in them.

But, to answer the question that was posed. Yes, I'd try nearly anything I haven't tried before if R wanted me to. Of course, then I'd expect him to indulge my fantasy as well.

I know that R would never EVER try being on the receiving end of anal sex. I have begged and pleaded with him to let me use my strap-on, told him I'd be gentle , you know all those things guys say when trying to get a virgin into bed...and he adamantly refuses.

So, I guess some fantasies will remain just that.

There may be hope for the BJ fantasy however.

K

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by Alura
We think we didn't like anal because we couldn't kiss and Mrs. Alura felt like she needed to shit. We didn't hate it, we'd just rather do other things. She'd like to have another go at dp with anal/vaginal penetration and Mr. Alura is happy to help. We may never do that again once we've tried it. On the other hand, who knows?

Alura

I can't help you on the feeling like you have to shit bit, but on the odd occasions that we have anal sex, I prefer a position where I am sitting on top of him and riding him. This allows me to control how deep how fast and also still gives us access to kiss, allow him to play with my breasts more easily and it allows me easier access to my clit (without having to hold myself up on one arm).

[FTnPV]

My wife has been so fantastic to me that I'd do almost anything she asked. The only thing that is definitely off limits is my backdoor. Even if it were something that doesnt trip my trigger, I'd do it if she enjoyed it. That would probably get me going because I love seeing her enjoy herself!

[bimrdcpl]

We as a couple are willing to try just about anything for each other, but we also have a pact together that if one of us did not enjoy it fully then we will not do it again. That way we can move on to the next thing. And I have to admit there isnt to much we wont do.

Thats what works for us.

Dawn

[BiloxiCouple]

You still trying to find a couple of bi-sexual guys?

[sportync]

The responses I've read don't really suprise me, coming from the open-minded, trusting and loving people who frequent this site. My wife made me an offer recently that I found rather intriguing. Although she thoroughly enjoys taking me orally during fore-play, she thought that I might enjoy the experience of being deep-throated and swallowed at least once in my life. She has a couple of friends that are somewhat gifted in this particular ability, and she asked me if I would want to have one of them give me a treat, since this is something that she can't do herself. After further discussion, she told me that these girls don't really get any sexual pleasure from the act themselves, it's more of a joy of accomplishment and the ability to do something which other's can't that they enjoy. That pretty much gave me my answer. If both parties aren't really into the sex act, then it's time to change the act or change the partner. Now, my fantasy would be to have my wife sitting on my face while the other girl was working her magic, but my wife doesn't really wish to be envolved. So, I can happily do without this particular treat. Now if I knew that the other girl would have a multiple orgasm while performing her magic, I might re-consider. That doesn't seem to be the case, though, so I think I'll pass. Sportync