Would you perform a sexual activity just to please your partner?

[Swamprat]

I believe the we trust each other enough to be able to share fantasies with each other knowing each others limits. I would do anything that SHAMROCK would ask of me knowing that she would never exceed my limits.

[I'm her's]

I think I could feel the same way, however much of this is new, but the trust we have in each other is very strong. We just need to get out and play, like we are here. And we'll find our comfort level.

[I'm his]

I would never ask anything that would cross his boundries-and I think he is the same. It's all about hte game and the fun you can have with each other!

[I'm her's]

Yes but mine and your boundaries can change...I know this is a conversation we should be able to talk without the fear of rejection. You have to know, whatever your thoughts and feelings are, that they are natural and right. And I am here for you.

[az40scpl]

Wife and I already had this discussion...she knows that anything she wants to ask I will at least give it my best effort to make it happen.

[YZF]

It wasn't until we had swung couple of times that my wife confessed to me that she had been a committed and pretty promiscuous lesbian from her early high school days. It was funny how she threw herself into FMFs and would dock her lips to pussy like she was starving to death. Even ladies who were just barely dipping thier toes in the water and were merely curious before were seeking Mrs. YZF's oral services later.

I had told Mrs. YZF, "Don't feel obligated to eat pussy on account of me."

[Trellken]

My girl and I met online and talked a LOT about sex long before we actually met in person (I think that's one major benefit to a relationship like ours that started online - we talked and got to know each other for hours and hours long before ever actually getting physical). In those discussions, we talked a lot about our boundaries and what we do/don't have interests in.

We share most of the same rules:

No scat
No animals/kids
No actual pain (bondage and spanking is fine, real pain is not)

The other boundary that I made clear was that I don't want other men involved. I'm all for sharing her with women, even if that means me just watching while she plays with another woman.

There is one gray area that we've discussed a little and is still up for debate. While she's never expressed interest in playing with another man herself (and knows that I would not approve of that), she has said that she finds the thought of seeing another man giving me head and/or me returning the favor to be an incredible turnon. I'm still not sure where I stand on that one. On the one hand, I'm not gay and wouldn't even consider myself bi. On the other, I'm not repulsed by the idea and if it would really excite her I might agree to try it once (though I might need a couple of drinks first).

Other than that, we've been willing to look into and explore most things. She had always been very curious about being bound and spanked and dominated, but had never felt safe enough to try it. I made her feel safe and comfortable to start exploring it and she has loved it. We are both into voyeurism and exhibitionism so we've been to a swingers club twice to start exploring that (fucking on a bed poolside with people around also fucking and/or watching was pretty damned hot). She also did some light play with women on both of our visits.

The central theme of all the rules and limitations we have is that we'll try anything that excites each other so long as it doesn't make the other one overly uncomfortable or jealous. No matter how exciting somethign might be for me, if I can see she isn't enjoying it then it just isn't going to be enjoyable for me either. I think the same is true in return.

[romancelover]

What online site did you use? I would love to meet someone who also enjoys playing with others for a long-term relationship. However, as you know, that is not easy for a single male.

[Trellken]

Originally Posted by romancelover

What online site did you use? I would love to meet someone who also enjoys playing with others for a long-term relationship. However, as you know, that is not easy for a single male.

We didn't meet through any online dating/swinging site actually. Was a site devoted to a non-lifestyle hobby and we just happened to get lucky.

[Tina and Bob]

I am not into pain, unsafe sex or anything that involves shit, minors or animal play.

[AZCouple]

I would do just about anything for my wife. It is an absolute turn on for me to see her turned on. No kids, water sports, scat, or animals though.

[couplers]

Hello, Petra reporting. Yes, and I have. My current boyfriend, who was the one to take my virginity, shortly thereafter wanted to put his dick in my bum. I said OK, but was quite nervous. He was slow and gentle, but it was uncomfortable and a little painful the first time. We still do anal and it doesn't make me nervous anymore or hurt at all, but it also doesn't make me cum. I do, however, enjoy dp with bf and hubby and that always makes me cum.

Hubby has never asked for anything. He asks me what I want to do or makes suggestions, which is the way it should be. I would do pretty much anything for them or for Clair, even if I didn't think I would enjoy it the first time because they would never do anything to hurt me in any way and if they think they want it that's good enough for me.

[olderyder]

Not any more. I used to participate in MFM's with my Mrs., cause it was the only activity available to us (as a couple), but I lost interest in them a long time ago. I continued for a while, just to please her, but I finally got honest with her and told her, if that was all that was available to me in the lifestyle, I would rather watch TV or read.

[lotsoffun201]

Interesting responses to this thread. I (the Mr) was involved in the lifestyle for many years with the ex. I thought we had done just about everything we could. When I met the Mrs (online btw on a non lifestyle site) I told her about what we had done previously. She was never involved in anything like it, nor would have ever considered it.

Turns out she is actually the kinkier one of us since she and her ex had experimented and enjoyed things I would have never imagined. Never the less, she has enticed me to try some things which at first I thought I wouldn't enjoy, but actually do.

I on the other hand introduced her to the lifestyle (since she wanted to experiment with it and I never pushed the issue) so I guess one good turn deserves another.

[essexcouple]

Depends what it was, but I've done things for DH that don't do much for me, and vice-versa. It's all about give and take. I love to please him sometimes, so its a turn on seeing him horny, without me having to climax or want to do something that much myself.