Would you perform a sexual activity just to please your partner? - Page 3

DBL D · 01-29-2005, 07:11 PM

I wouldn't do anything I didn't want to do, and wouldn't expect Fem D to feel pressured either.

On the other hand, there's not much I would say "no" to. facelick

There are those things that you may end up doing with a partner that isn't your SO's cup of tea, that way you are able to fulfill your own fantasies.

Male D

Purple · 01-30-2005, 02:59 AM

I think I read more into the question - I took it to mean "If your partner asked, and it had not been on your fantasy list, would you do it anyway, just to make them happy?" -- not to mean "would you do something you'd previously said no to, just bacause your partner begged you to?"

I said I have limits... however, I'm not sure other than extreme pain what those limits are. I always reserve the right to say "NO" so I could not answer with the first response.

HotMoCpl · 01-30-2005, 10:09 AM

I believe I can answer honestly for both of us. As long as it does not have anything to do with gay or bisexual acts, bd/sm, scat, weirdos and repulsive stuff.....yea, anytning.

MrSnozzberryBlu · 01-30-2005, 03:37 PM

I would do anything my wife wanted to do...not because she has me by the short hairs...but because I believe that pleasing her is one of the best ways to show your love for her. Luckily, she's not into anything I would ever want to do.

adventureUS2 · 01-30-2005, 04:13 PM

I have been know to do somethings I wouldn't normally do in the intrest of gettting my wife off.

I don't really consider my self bi. (My wife calls me a situational bi sexual.)How ever my wife loves to watch two men play together. The fact that I can do something that gets her goat is a turn on for me. I have been know to recieve oral sex from another man in order to satisfy my wifes fantacy. I really enjoyed the reaction from her and the women from the other couple.

Now I am not so sure I would ever be able to return the favor, to the other man. And I really don't think I could do anything more then oral with another man. If my wife ever wanted me to do more I am not sure how far I would be willing to go.

ALilOEverything · 01-31-2005, 10:08 AM

Unless there was something that really bothered me or disgusted me I would give it a try. I used to say I would try anything twice. The first time to see what it's all about and the second time because I'm never completely relaxed the first time. But I won't continue to do anything if I didn't like it. I would never want him to do anything that bothered him or disgusted him but I would like him to try things even though he thinks it wouldn't be a huge turn on for him. He's often finds he enjoys things even though he didn't think he would before.

reguyngirlky · 03-05-2005, 04:44 PM

We are in agreement in our desires so there aren't any "do it for me" type of things. I don't know if this makes us unique or just in touch with each other. We have discussed just about every interest we have as individuals and as a couple and tend to honestly agree on things. We discuss just about everything that comes to mind sexually and otherwise. Communication is always key to us.

DBL D · 03-05-2005, 04:54 PM

OK, well, maybe here's an example. Kissing!

After 25 plus years with each other we find that while we do French Kiss each other and enjoy it
we may not do it as much as when we are with one of our partners. Is one of us going to get upset
about too much kissing? Not likely.

Same thing applies to other things you may wish to do as well. Let's say you two have just been diving into each other and skipping alot of foreplay and then when you have a "date" you find that more oral is involved. Are we gonna get upset about that? Not likely.

Throughtout the evening there should be plenty of time set aside for everyone to get their fill and not feel that something was left undone or unsaid even if it's in code to each other. Flexibility is the key and being comfy enough with one another to allow that there will be those times that come along where things happen.

Like I said there isn't much we'd say "NO" to.

Male D

confunktion · 03-05-2005, 05:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

Unless there was something that really bothered me or disgusted me I would give it a try. I used to say I would try anything twice. The first time to see what it's all about and the second time because I'm never completely relaxed the first time. But I won't continue to do anything if I didn't like it. I would never want him to do anything that bothered him or disgusted him but I would like him to try things even though he thinks it wouldn't be a huge turn on for him. He's often finds he enjoys things even though he didn't think he would before.

Dito

Mr. Funk
If at first you don't succeed, try one more time...

Zoe&Wash · 03-05-2005, 10:20 PM

facelick Thanks Julie - this question now has us surfing the extreme bondage sites. I didn't know there was so much that could be done with gas masks . . .

She is attempting to show me how far she wouldn't ask me to go . . . .

My short answer - I'd do whatever she wants b/c I trust her not to reach for the gas masks.

Having just been handed the keyboard for my own explanation - I dated a man who was into some serious b&d for a brief while. There were things I wouldn't even consider with him. Not a lack of trust, just a serious turn-off. I know my husband wouldn't ask certain things of me, but we're just starting to get into serious discussions about fantasies, so who knows? Guess it's strictly my exposure to truly weird stuff!

ranchcouple3 · 03-06-2005, 07:58 AM

I(male) would try almost anything if the wife thought she would enjoy it. I have always done my best to help her get the most out of life. The hardest part is getting her to say anything about what she might like.

The Big A · 01-20-2006, 11:36 PM

I would definetley do anything my wife asked me to do, and I'd probably enjoy it too...She has a few limits but she has said she would have sex with another man not because she really wants to or anything but because I want her to...Our only full swap experience (so far) the other male couldn't "perform" and although my wife was a little bummed she said it really made no difference to her if he did it or not...It was mostly all for me to watch anyway...She mostly wondered and was self concious on why the guy couldn't perform. She kinda took it personal...I tried to tell her that these things just happen (nervous, alcohol, scared, tired, etc...) She couldn't understand because it's never happened to me.......but I'm sure one day it will.

Spoomonkey · 01-21-2006, 08:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

If your partner asked you to do something because it would turn them on to see it, would you do it just for them?

I would definitely have limits. For one - I wouldn't do something that I felt would have a negative impact on our relationship. For example, if it is something that would (knowing her and knowing myself) arouse jealousy, it wouldn't be worth it.

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Even if it was something that you had no interest in or that perhaps even repulsed you? For instance, if you are straight would you engage in bisexual activities to please your partner (because they wanted to see it)?

If asked, I would simply assure my wife that this would not be very hot... I mean - I could probably get through the act, but the eroticism of the whole thing would really be blunted by the crying and gagging involved...

We have a simple rule - if both of us aren't into it, we aren't going to do it. I love watching Mrs Spoo when she is enjoying herself. But watching her do something she isn't enjoying, just so I can see it... I'd feel pretty miserable about that and we'd both end up not enjoying it.

That may mean that we are limited to the activities that we are on the same page about - but we are pretty much always on the same page. So it works well.

Spoomonkey

Livin24nic8 · 01-22-2006, 12:27 PM

I think I would be down for just about everything as long as it's safe, it's not being with another man, transexual, animals, or eating shit, drinking piss.

About the other man thing though, I have been in MFMs and I enjoy that due to the fact that the girl is getting off so much. However there is no sexual activity between me and the other guy.

djjwp · 01-22-2006, 01:33 PM

He: I'm a plug, not a socket

if ya catch my drift. Beyond that, play ball!

She: Also the same but reverse! She likes the boys.

Both, No potty, kiddie, or critters.

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View Poll Results: Would you perform a sexual activity just to please your partner?
Yes, I would do anything just to please my partner.	284	45.51%
There are some things I would do JUST to satisfy my partners fantasies but I have limits (if so tell us what they are).	237	37.98%
No, if I'm not interested in doing something I wouldn't do it just to satisfy my partners fantasy.	68	10.90%
I'm really not sure if I would or not.	35	5.61%
Voters: 624. You may not vote on this poll

01-29-2005, 07:11 PM	#31 (permalink)
DBL D Oh...Why not?... Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,312 Location: Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah Status: Married Couple	Re: Would you? I wouldn't do anything I didn't want to do, and wouldn't expect Fem D to feel pressured either. On the other hand, there's not much I would say "no" to. facelick There are those things that you may end up doing with a partner that isn't your SO's cup of tea, that way you are able to fulfill your own fantasies. Male D
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01-30-2005, 02:59 AM	#32 (permalink)
Purple Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 34 Location: DFW Status: BiFem Swing Lifestyle Name:PurpleBiF	Re: Would you? I think I read more into the question - I took it to mean "If your partner asked, and it had not been on your fantasy list, would you do it anyway, just to make them happy?" -- not to mean "would you do something you'd previously said no to, just bacause your partner begged you to?" I said I have limits... however, I'm not sure other than extreme pain what those limits are. I always reserve the right to say "NO" so I could not answer with the first response.
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01-30-2005, 10:09 AM	#33 (permalink)
HotMoCpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 402 Location: Missouri Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:HotMo	Re: Would you? I believe I can answer honestly for both of us. As long as it does not have anything to do with gay or bisexual acts, bd/sm, scat, weirdos and repulsive stuff.....yea, anytning.
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01-30-2005, 03:37 PM	#34 (permalink)
MrSnozzberryBlu Active Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 35 Location: Ocean Springs, MS Status: Happily Married Snozzberries Swing Lifestyle Name:SnozzberryBlu	Re: Would you? I would do anything my wife wanted to do...not because she has me by the short hairs...but because I believe that pleasing her is one of the best ways to show your love for her. Luckily, she's not into anything I would ever want to do.

01-30-2005, 04:13 PM	#35 (permalink)
adventureUS2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 159 Location: Elkton MD Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:adventurUs	Re: Would you? I have been know to do somethings I wouldn't normally do in the intrest of gettting my wife off. I don't really consider my self bi. (My wife calls me a situational bi sexual.)How ever my wife loves to watch two men play together. The fact that I can do something that gets her goat is a turn on for me. I have been know to recieve oral sex from another man in order to satisfy my wifes fantacy. I really enjoyed the reaction from her and the women from the other couple. Now I am not so sure I would ever be able to return the favor, to the other man. And I really don't think I could do anything more then oral with another man. If my wife ever wanted me to do more I am not sure how far I would be willing to go.

01-31-2005, 10:08 AM	#36 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,847 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female Swing Lifestyle Name:aliloeverything	Re: Would you? Unless there was something that really bothered me or disgusted me I would give it a try. I used to say I would try anything twice. The first time to see what it's all about and the second time because I'm never completely relaxed the first time. But I won't continue to do anything if I didn't like it. I would never want him to do anything that bothered him or disgusted him but I would like him to try things even though he thinks it wouldn't be a huge turn on for him. He's often finds he enjoys things even though he didn't think he would before.
	__________________ ~Lilo

03-05-2005, 04:44 PM	#37 (permalink)
reguyngirlky Active Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 16 Location: Lexington, KY	Re: Would you? We are in agreement in our desires so there aren't any "do it for me" type of things. I don't know if this makes us unique or just in touch with each other. We have discussed just about every interest we have as individuals and as a couple and tend to honestly agree on things. We discuss just about everything that comes to mind sexually and otherwise. Communication is always key to us.

03-05-2005, 04:54 PM	#38 (permalink)
DBL D Oh...Why not?... Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,312 Location: Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah Status: Married Couple	Re: Would you? OK, well, maybe here's an example. Kissing! After 25 plus years with each other we find that while we do French Kiss each other and enjoy it we may not do it as much as when we are with one of our partners. Is one of us going to get upset about too much kissing? Not likely. Same thing applies to other things you may wish to do as well. Let's say you two have just been diving into each other and skipping alot of foreplay and then when you have a "date" you find that more oral is involved. Are we gonna get upset about that? Not likely. Throughtout the evening there should be plenty of time set aside for everyone to get their fill and not feel that something was left undone or unsaid even if it's in code to each other. Flexibility is the key and being comfy enough with one another to allow that there will be those times that come along where things happen. Like I said there isn't much we'd say "NO" to. Male D
	__________________ "Just nod if you can hear me..." David Gilmour Last edited by DBL D; 03-05-2005 at 04:58 PM.

03-05-2005, 10:20 PM	#40 (permalink)
Zoe&Wash Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 461 Location: Just above the frost line Status: Ecstatically Married Swing Lifestyle Name:ZoeWash	Re: Would you? facelick Thanks Julie - this question now has us surfing the extreme bondage sites. I didn't know there was so much that could be done with gas masks . . . She is attempting to show me how far she wouldn't ask me to go . . . . My short answer - I'd do whatever she wants b/c I trust her not to reach for the gas masks. Having just been handed the keyboard for my own explanation - I dated a man who was into some serious b&d for a brief while. There were things I wouldn't even consider with him. Not a lack of trust, just a serious turn-off. I know my husband wouldn't ask certain things of me, but we're just starting to get into serious discussions about fantasies, so who knows? Guess it's strictly my exposure to truly weird stuff!

03-06-2005, 07:58 AM	#41 (permalink)
ranchcouple3 Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 19 Location: wyoming Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ranchcouple	Re: Would you? I(male) would try almost anything if the wife thought she would enjoy it. I have always done my best to help her get the most out of life. The hardest part is getting her to say anything about what she might like.

01-20-2006, 11:36 PM	#42 (permalink)
The Big A Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 26 Location: La Porte, Texas Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:TheAandR	Re: Would you? I would definetley do anything my wife asked me to do, and I'd probably enjoy it too...She has a few limits but she has said she would have sex with another man not because she really wants to or anything but because I want her to...Our only full swap experience (so far) the other male couldn't "perform" and although my wife was a little bummed she said it really made no difference to her if he did it or not...It was mostly all for me to watch anyway...She mostly wondered and was self concious on why the guy couldn't perform. She kinda took it personal...I tried to tell her that these things just happen (nervous, alcohol, scared, tired, etc...) She couldn't understand because it's never happened to me.......but I'm sure one day it will.

01-22-2006, 12:27 PM	#44 (permalink)
Livin24nic8 Active Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: New York	Re: Would you? I think I would be down for just about everything as long as it's safe, it's not being with another man, transexual, animals, or eating shit, drinking piss. About the other man thing though, I have been in MFMs and I enjoy that due to the fact that the girl is getting off so much. However there is no sexual activity between me and the other guy.

01-22-2006, 01:33 PM	#45 (permalink)
djjwp Suffering from Hedo2 DIF Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 388 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:djjwp	Re: Would you? He: I'm a plug, not a socket if ya catch my drift. Beyond that, play ball! She: Also the same but reverse! She likes the boys. Both, No potty, kiddie, or critters.
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