MFM who pays for the room??

[Roundstic]

We've met a man on Swing Lifestyle and hope to do a MFM we plan on meeting at a bar then if all is well get a room. Who pays for the room him or us or do we split it?? Is there a proper way that this should be done?
Thanks

[EternallySingle]

Whoever made the approach should pay for the room. Period. If you asked him to meet you, you pay. If he asked you, he pays. (why do I think I know who asked whom to meet LOL)

[Additude]

We tell the guys,

You pay for the room the first time and if she wants to meet again at a later date , next time we will split the room.

Everyones been cool with that.

[NJCouple]

I think if it is a one time thing and you initiate it then you should pay for the room. I think its nice if the guy brings a bottle of wine etc or picks up the drinks at the bar beforehand. If its more than once by everyones desire than alternating would be nice. We have to get rooms whenever we play right now because hubby has our house under construction. He keeps starting another room without finishing the last one. LOL. We would still do first meetings at a hotel, but it would definately be more relaxing and less expensive to entertain after that at home. Sharon

[tribbles]

We always split it...often 3 ways since all three had fun and all have jobs.

S

[Couple_N_Ark]

If a male approaches us, then they pay for the room or provide a place. If our house is available we'd not mind playing here though either.

On a rare occasion if we approach a single man then we would split the tab.

Jayson used to meet married couples as a single man, and he would always pay for the room.

[rpu3]

Well, I picked share, but I don't know the rules. Evidently, there's another recent thread on this very matter somewhere on the board.

We've never done the hotel room thing to date. I could see splitting it three ways as an option. I'm curious to see what the majority opinion is.

Rebecca

[Dynamar]

Split the room... three ways is a nice gesture by the couple. But two ways is fine too. A couple who insists the male pick up 100% of the cost is not only presumptuous, but highly rude.

[gatorvol64]

The first time we meet we have always gotten and paid for the room. (And usually they have suggested the meeting.) It is probably so that I feel more in control. If we continue to meet, we take turns paying for the room. A couple of men we still meet to have a meal with. Then it has always worked out that whoever isn't getting the room pays for the meal. We've had no problem with this at all. I think it was even suggested by one of our gentlemen.

Vol

[clecouple]

This is almost like the question, "who pays for the first date, the guy or the girl?"

I knod of like the idea of NJCouple, if the guy or other couple pays for the drinks or dinner then you should pay for the room.

I also agree that after the initial hotel meeting you can split it 3 or 4 ways. Because then you are familiar and comfortable with the other couple. Although if you get together regularly you can pay for it one time and the other couple the next time. But it seems like after, (unless you live far away from each other), that after a few hotel meet-ups you can have the other couple over your place.

[meandher2go]

we always pay the first time. then after that time we expect to SPLIT the room with the guy.

when its a FMF.... I PAY.

signed,
Me

[bruncouple_nj]

we usually arrange for the room in advance "just in case" and as a result pick up the tab for the first time...it's a 'we can say no or yes' type of thing without logistics getting in the way

[Mr.Essex]

All things considered, I think that the single male should pay for the room. The couple is providing the pussy, so the man should treat it in the same manner in which he'd treat a regular date.

Exceptions:
If he's a regular (or poly), then costs should be split two ways.
If it's a first time encounter with a financially strapped single male (or a cuckold situation), then the M of the MF couple should assume costs.
If he's meeting the woman or couple (at her personal request ), then costs should be defrayed as warranted by personal convenience (IOW, if the single man is one of the rare "good ones", it may behoove the satisfied woman to open her wallet in the name of good sex)

IMHO, though, it's best for the single man to grease the tracks, and digging into my pockets for a hotel room is a show of good faith. At least, until you've built up enough of a bond to consider inviting them over for a nightcap.

[JTcamp05]

We (the couple) always pay for the room, usually we like to have the room to ourselves after the single is gone...just a preference. Every ocassion the male has offered to split or pick up the tab and dinner.....very nice gesture in our view......

[MrXxotic]

Who pays? It depends. If we are staying in the room after the party we pay. If its just a place to play and everyone is going home after we split it or someone picks up dinner and the other gets the room. If the other guy is traveling we'll offer to split the room the first time and pay for the room the second time. By the third time we're comfortable enough to have him in our home so it doesn't matter.