Would you play with soft swingers?

[Greg & Sheryl]

We would pass. For us, swapping is the whole point of this lifestyle.

[telly2]

Mr.Telly2 here.

I don't see why not.For me watching others or even watching the Mrs. give oral to another man is quite erotic,especially if another woman is doing the same to me.

Play comes in many forms,but it's all for fun.

Just my opinnion.

[Sweet_Candy]

Originally Posted by 2jersey

When you choose to eliminate soft swap from consideration, you are defacto separating yourself from a large subset of the swinging community - including some people who you may regard as very attractive.

We choose to eliminate soft swap due to the drama we've encountered with soft swap couples. Has nothing to do with how attractive a couple is.

Lets add non-smoking, hwp, no gog play and no soft swap and our choices are greatly reduced but in our area there are lots of swingers and we still get to choose those we play with. Too many choices and not enough time to play with all those we find compatible.

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by Sweet_Candy

We choose to eliminate soft swap due to the drama we've encountered with soft swap couples. Has nothing to do with how attractive a couple is.

Lets add non-smoking, hwp, no gog play and no soft swap and our choices are greatly reduced but in our area there are lots of swingers and we still get to choose those we play with. Too many choices and not enough time to play with all those we find compatible.

Understood. If you have alot of first rate options, there is less of a need to experiment with second rate possibilities. Good for you!

[WildMainePussy]

Perhaps soft isn't as well favored as full because it requires time and learning how to pleasure your partner?

It's not just a case of getting it on immediately...it's extended foreplay with other options of how to orgasm other than the slambang method. I can see some people resisting as usually the cuddling and intimacy it generates is reserved for each other.

We heard of a couple who claimed 'soft' but when the husband left the room for a smoke, the wife threw all that to the wind and went for the gusto. Of course when he came back in, he flipped out as she was definitely not doing anything soft and called an immediate end to the session.

I think sometimes people's definition of soft involves too many explanations of what to do and can't do to be worth the hassle.

Now to do a 'soft' night as a variation with regular full swap friends might make a nice change.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by WildMainePussy

Perhaps soft isn't as well favored as full because it requires time and learning how to pleasure your partner? It's not just a case of getting it on immediately...it's extended foreplay with other options of how to orgasm other than the slambang method.

Well, I can't say that I agree with this. Now, given this is not coming from experience, only opinion. But, I don't think that soft necessarily takes more time and learning as full play at all. I think that us, for instance, we are in this to fulfill fantasies. I don't know how to explain it I guess, but soft is not for us. Now, slambang is good sometimes, I'll give you that. But, I don't think all full play is 2 minutes and done at all.

[WildMainePussy]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to indicate a short session with 'slambang' but rather soft swap couples don't want penetration at all by other. Agreed, a well paced slambang can be very very good! Especially when the guy can recover with a little TLC to enjoy another slower round.

[Pepper & Drew]

If we met in person, were interested, and you were a soft swap couple, we'd probably play, as soft swap is fun at times, but if you were to contact us online, we'd probably pass, just because it's not what we're seeking out. We've played with soft only couples, and while it's fun, there does tend to be some hesitation on our part because usually you get mixed signals. You start playing, and a lot of times, one member of the couple give signals that they want to go further, when what they've said at the beginning of the night may be something different. We're not against soft swap, but we'd really have to be interested first.

Pepper

[xxoticangel]

Even though it is not our first choice we are open to the idea of soft swap. We went through a soft swap stage early in the lifestyle and had a great time with it.

[northindycpl]

I voted yes, but we would try and talk them into it

We have played with soft swing couples, and it hasn't been bad. Typically, we will soft play for a bit, then the wives will go to their own husband for intercourse. It seems that soft is a way to break into swapping. Or atleast from what we have experienced.

It seems to me that, soft swing, is usually at the wives insistance more then the husbands. It seems to me that wives have no issue with feeling comfortable seeing their husbands get blown, or whatever, but the minute that swapping is mentioned, it isn't that they don't mind the swapping for themselves, but not for their husbands.

What really matters is that you are comfortable and that you are happy with your decision-soft or swap.

[2jersey]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

I voted yes, but we would try and talk them into it

Better to pass than to try to push someone beyond their comfort zone.

[clecouple]

For us the SOFT-SWAP option leaves something "SPECIAL" between me and my wife. When I first brought up swinging to my wife, she cried and thought she wasn't doing something for me. On the contrary! She is the most sexiest wife and she's great at BJ's!!! I just wanted to experiement, one reason I always had this fantasy of seeing with another guy and I was never that experimental when I was younger. I felt that we had a such a trusting and loving relationship that we could try this. To me, it made more sense to try swinging when we were married and committed rather than trying it when we were dating.

The SOFT-SWAP agreement between us is that we can do everything but no guy goes in my wife's pussy. My wife has said that her pussy is for my cock only! That's our point in being married, trying to keep something special between us that no one else can have. And we also will not swap in separate rooms. We both "get off" so much seeing each other being pleasured by someone else that if we went into separate rooms we would always be distracted with thoughts of "what is going on in the other room".

Just our "philosophy" and we respect the full-swap couples. But we have felt that some couples have turned us down at a club because we weren't full-swap swingers.

We even have had a MFM 3-some at our place and the oher guy was very satisfied and had a great time with a soft-swap 3-some. Well, maybe it wasn't completely soft as he did anal to my wife, no DP (yet). But we figured if he couldn't go into my wife's pussy he could still slide his C*CK in her tush!

[fun4usnh]

Oh come on people we have to learn somehow and what better way than w/newbies.It's like hiring a new employee that has no experience, you teach them your way and they have no bad habits...hmmmm, that's a good idea huh.
REMEMBER you were all newbies once yourselfs

[ShellyM]

I think the last post was harsh. I was asked my preference, so please don't get on people for being honest and saying they do not swing with soft swing couples. I have absolutely nothing against soft swingers. Would I swing with them? Honestly probably not. Not because I have anything against them or think of them less than other couples, but I just would prefer a couple who does full swap.

[JTcamp05]

Just a quick reply....No .....its a waist of time in our minds.......flirting leads to soft stuff....which leads to harder stuff...which leads to sex..... Thats what happens!

Thast ok if that is your type of swinging, just please be forthright about your expectations to others...no last minute suprises.