Swinging and Body Image

UCONN Keith · 09-22-2006, 11:29 AM

I've noticed many postings of late in which members are questioning their own body image and their possible "fit" into "swinging" and/or "Polyamory.

I know we all have our own preferences (mine is shubby/bbw's - red hair a plus!

) so I wanted to take a poly to see what others thought.

Thanks!

Keith in Connecticut
CT_MWM@Hotmail.Com

Mr. Hump alot · 09-25-2006, 06:54 PM

I think thick/chubby/voluptuous/BBw Ladies are beautyful and lot's of fun to be with I know b/c I've been married to one for almost eleven years facelick

Thkmlkchoclik · 09-25-2006, 09:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr. Hump alot

I think thick/chubby/voluptuous/BBw Ladies are beautyful and lot's of fun to be with I know b/c I've been married to one for almost eleven years facelick

Thank you baby!!

r_poseidon · 09-25-2006, 09:04 PM

For me, personally... not too skinny, not too chubby. (More emphasis on "not too skinny"... I don't want to feel like I am going to break her!). My girl is 36-24-36 exactly. She is thin in the right places, and curvy in the others. I think she's perfect! But again... that is just my personal preference.

**LFM2** · 09-25-2006, 10:49 PM

Mr. LFM -- likes average to voluptuous. (my gorgeous wife is voluptuous) I don't really find skinny women attractive.

Mrs. LFM -- has no preference. She's just glad to be here.

WesternSwing · 09-26-2006, 01:53 AM

I'm all about the plushies (thick/chubby/voluptuous). Although I am attracted to many "types" of women I tend to gravitate toward the plushier side.

Mr. WS

intensity_too · 09-26-2006, 10:39 AM

Oh my voluptuous, redheaded self is feeling the love!!

ShellyM · 09-26-2006, 05:28 PM

I love men who are "stocky". I like them over 5'9" tall, and they have to weigh at least around 200 pounds. I like pretty much them all......my "fetish", as Jay calls it, are white men with dark hair and dark eyes. They are my weakness man lol.
But I love men's arms, and stubble, and chest hair......I pretty much like men in general lol. Green eyes, blue eyes...........

LetsParty · 09-26-2006, 05:32 PM

Strangely (or not so strangely!), I've always liked new partners to be different from my current partner! When I've had girlfriends that were teeny, 5'0, 100bls, well, it was always thrilling being with a 5'8 type of woman.

Similarly, when I've dated women who had massive boobs, it was always nice to hook up with someone with a perky set of B's.

Conversely, when a girlfriend would have B's, how nice would it be to play with a woman with D cups!

Soooo... I guess the answer is all contextual!

Presently, my wife has a killer bod (bikini photo just made a car calendar), yet for this poll, I ticked off Thin/Skinny. I think it's just a phase I am going through.....!

Mr.T · 10-13-2006, 08:20 PM

I love girls bigger than me.(I'm 5'11",150lbs).This is because my experience with thin girls has been bad(no steryotyping intended),while women of structure have been good for me.

Just my own experience.

ShellyM · 10-13-2006, 10:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UCONN Keith

I've noticed many postings of late in which members are questioning their own body image and their possible "fit" into "swinging" and/or "Polyamory.

Rule #1 from me: stop worrying about it. I have to remind myself this daily. Jay and I are meeting a great couple tomorrow evening, and I'm freaking out here lol.....I don't think I have a piece of skin that has not been shaved, exfoliated or masked! LOL

MrsVan · 10-14-2006, 06:13 AM

Quote:

I know we all have our own preferences (mine is shubby/bbw's - red hair a plus!

) so I wanted to take a poly to see what others thought.

Thanks!

Keith in Connecticut
CT_MWM@Hotmail.Com

Keith,

You said the magic words....RED HAIR IS A PLUS!!! facelick I am feeling really good right now knowing that there are more guys out there that have such an attraction to red heads.

I am so glad I am a natural red head.

MrsVan

MrsVan · 10-14-2006, 06:31 AM

This is an interesting question and loved reading everyone's comments. I am an average woman, not really thin but not chubby or overweight. When MrVan and I first got into the lifestyle I was very self conscious of my body image. I had more weight than I wanted and had been wanting to do something about it. Well, being in the lifestyle kind of pushed me to start taking better care of myself therefore now I watch what I eat, I exercise and I have lost 12 pounds over the last few months.

Just being active and working out has made me feel better about myself than I have felt in a very long time. I still have some more to loose and my target is not to be ultra thin, but just to tone up those areas that need the toning.

When MrVan and I look for a couple, we look at personalities but also weight as we do not want those that are overweight but we have played with those who are average, not overweight and not extremely thin or thin. What attracts us more to individuals is their personality and how they carry themselves. So many people we thought we would not play with, we have because no matter their weight they carried theirselves with such confidence and to me that is more attractive than the size of the individual.

MrsVan

FloridaFlirt · 10-14-2006, 07:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UCONN Keith

I've noticed many postings of late in which members are questioning their own body image and their possible "fit" into "swinging" and/or "Polyamory.

I know we all have our own preferences (mine is shubby/bbw's - red hair a plus!

) so I wanted to take a poly to see what others thought.

Thanks!

Keith in Connecticut
CT_MWM@Hotmail.Com

Well Mr Keith, you would hit the jackpot with me!

ShellyM · 10-14-2006, 10:11 AM

Hey hey,
don't forget about us brunettes now!

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View Poll Results: What is your prefered body-type for a lover?
Thin/Skinny	32	15.46%
Average - everday average size.	123	59.42%
Thick/Chubby/Voluptuous	47	22.71%
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09-22-2006, 11:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
UCONN Keith Active Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 21 Location: Storrs, CT Status: MWM	Swinging and Body Image I've noticed many postings of late in which members are questioning their own body image and their possible "fit" into "swinging" and/or "Polyamory. I know we all have our own preferences (mine is shubby/bbw's - red hair a plus! ) so I wanted to take a poly to see what others thought. Thanks! Keith in Connecticut CT_MWM@Hotmail.Com

09-25-2006, 06:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mr. Hump alot Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 32 Location: P.A Status: M/couple SLS Name:theconcord1	Re: Swingin and Body Image I think thick/chubby/voluptuous/BBw Ladies are beautyful and lot's of fun to be with I know b/c I've been married to one for almost eleven years facelick

09-25-2006, 09:04 PM	#4 (permalink)
r_poseidon Here to Stay Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 62 Location: Charleston, South Carolina Status: Couple SLS Name:hedgehogstew	Re: Swingin and Body Image For me, personally... not too skinny, not too chubby. (More emphasis on "not too skinny"... I don't want to feel like I am going to break her!). My girl is 36-24-36 exactly. She is thin in the right places, and curvy in the others. I think she's perfect! But again... that is just my personal preference.

09-25-2006, 10:49 PM	#5 (permalink)
LFM2 Happy Fall, Y'all!! Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,831 Location: State of Confusion Status: Couple SLS Name:LFM2 Blog Entries: 4	Re: Swingin and Body Image Mr. LFM -- likes average to voluptuous. (my gorgeous wife is voluptuous) I don't really find skinny women attractive. Mrs. LFM -- has no preference. She's just glad to be here. __________________ "One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other." Jane Austen

09-26-2006, 01:53 AM	#6 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,824 Location: Utah Status: Male half of married couple	Re: Swingin and Body Image I'm all about the plushies (thick/chubby/voluptuous). Although I am attracted to many "types" of women I tend to gravitate toward the plushier side. Mr. WS __________________ "God created sex. Priests created marriage." ~ Voltaire

09-26-2006, 10:39 AM	#7 (permalink)
intensity_too Very, very intense! Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 64 Location: Iowa Status: a sorta married female who is "single" now.	Re: Swingin and Body Image Oh my voluptuous, redheaded self is feeling the love!!

09-26-2006, 05:28 PM	#8 (permalink)
ShellyM Jay's Bumper Buddy Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,299 Location: San Marcos, TEXAS Status: On the prowl for man meat SLS Name:lost_j1	Re: Swingin and Body Image I love men who are "stocky". I like them over 5'9" tall, and they have to weigh at least around 200 pounds. I like pretty much them all......my "fetish", as Jay calls it, are white men with dark hair and dark eyes. They are my weakness man lol. But I love men's arms, and stubble, and chest hair......I pretty much like men in general lol. Green eyes, blue eyes........... __________________ Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho Shelly

09-26-2006, 05:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
LetsParty Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 47 Location: Vancouver Status: Couple	Re: Swingin and Body Image Strangely (or not so strangely!), I've always liked new partners to be different from my current partner! When I've had girlfriends that were teeny, 5'0, 100bls, well, it was always thrilling being with a 5'8 type of woman. Similarly, when I've dated women who had massive boobs, it was always nice to hook up with someone with a perky set of B's. Conversely, when a girlfriend would have B's, how nice would it be to play with a woman with D cups! Soooo... I guess the answer is all contextual! Presently, my wife has a killer bod (bikini photo just made a car calendar), yet for this poll, I ticked off Thin/Skinny. I think it's just a phase I am going through.....!

10-13-2006, 08:20 PM	#10 (permalink)
Mr.T Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 173 Location: The great white north. Status: Married couple,Male Half.	Re: Swingin and Body Image I love girls bigger than me.(I'm 5'11",150lbs).This is because my experience with thin girls has been bad(no steryotyping intended),while women of structure have been good for me. Just my own experience. __________________ God gave Man a penis and a brain.And only enough blood to run one at a time.

10-14-2006, 06:31 AM	#13 (permalink)
MrsVan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 667 Location: Ohio Status: M.Female SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: Swingin and Body Image This is an interesting question and loved reading everyone's comments. I am an average woman, not really thin but not chubby or overweight. When MrVan and I first got into the lifestyle I was very self conscious of my body image. I had more weight than I wanted and had been wanting to do something about it. Well, being in the lifestyle kind of pushed me to start taking better care of myself therefore now I watch what I eat, I exercise and I have lost 12 pounds over the last few months. Just being active and working out has made me feel better about myself than I have felt in a very long time. I still have some more to loose and my target is not to be ultra thin, but just to tone up those areas that need the toning. When MrVan and I look for a couple, we look at personalities but also weight as we do not want those that are overweight but we have played with those who are average, not overweight and not extremely thin or thin. What attracts us more to individuals is their personality and how they carry themselves. So many people we thought we would not play with, we have because no matter their weight they carried theirselves with such confidence and to me that is more attractive than the size of the individual. MrsVan

10-14-2006, 10:11 AM	#15 (permalink)
ShellyM Jay's Bumper Buddy Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,299 Location: San Marcos, TEXAS Status: On the prowl for man meat SLS Name:lost_j1	Re: Swingin and Body Image Hey hey, don't forget about us brunettes now! __________________ Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho Shelly

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