Swinging and Body Image

[curiouscouple4f]

Originally Posted by ShellyM

Rule #1 from me: stop worrying about it. I have to remind myself this daily. Jay and I are meeting a great couple tomorrow evening, and I'm freaking out here lol.....I don't think I have a piece of skin that has not been shaved, exfoliated or masked! LOL

I'm about to do the same thing, my husband and I are going to our first "real" party/meet n greet, I'm going to be doing the same, but i'm including a pedicure and haircut I ride horses so I tend to develop callouses on my heels, last thing I want to do is rub up against a guy/girl and scratch him/her with my heels! So, pedicure, and haircut too....Is that normal for first timers/semi-newbies to over do?

The Mrs.

[Menage_a_Trois]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

I'm all about the plushies Mr. WS

Hmmm now there's a term I've never used on myself but I'll have to remember that one.......plushie.........now I feel like I should have a certain color to go with plushie........thinking pink plushie works for me......

The Other Mrs. Menage

[Menage_a_Trois]

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Keith,

You said the magic words....RED HAIR IS A PLUS!!! facelick I am feeling really good right now knowing that there are more guys out there that have such an attraction to red heads. I am so glad I am a natural red head.

MrsVan

Well I can speak for Mr. Menage he is a huge attraction to Natural Red Heads and one's with a bush are even more in demand for him, since he lost his virginity to a red head he just never has gotten over the addiction.......

The Other Mrs. Menage

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by curiouscouple4f

I'm about to do the same thing, my husband and I are going to our first "real" party/meet n greet, I'm going to be doing the same, but i'm including a pedicure and haircut I ride horses so I tend to develop callouses on my heels, last thing I want to do is rub up against a guy/girl and scratch him/her with my heels! So, pedicure, and haircut too....Is that normal for first timers/semi-newbies to over do?

The Mrs.

I don't think its overdoing it necessarily. I am a notorious girly girl, and this is part of my thing to help me feel sexy. I do this even when Jay and I go out to a local bar.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by curiouscouple4f

I'm about to do the same thing, my husband and I are going to our first "real" party/meet n greet, I'm going to be doing the same, but i'm including a pedicure and haircut I ride horses so I tend to develop callouses on my heels, last thing I want to do is rub up against a guy/girl and scratch him/her with my heels! So, pedicure, and haircut too....Is that normal for first timers/semi-newbies to over do?

The Mrs.

I don't think so. I think everybody primps a bit more for a date than they do just to go to work. Your spouse loves, admires, and appreciates you just the way you are. Hell, even in going to work you primp more than you do on the weekends when you are just doing personal things. The general public might not be as kind, so we all want to put our best foot forward for them.

Mr. WS

[nice_cpl_n_bama]

I have no preference for body type. It's all about confidence. If a woman is well groomed and confidently flirty the rest doesn't much matter

[Mr. Truelove]

As long as I find them attractive to me, their body could be less than perfect. Facial features and I hate to say it but proportionate bodies are part of that attractiveness. Personality has a large part. I don't like to say that it makes up for the imperfections because the personality is something that is important all by itself, body or not. I'd rather say that my scope is rather wide from the thin to being somewhat overweight.

I voted for average though. Thick/Chubby/Voluptuous didn't quite fit for me, but perhaps the Thick/Chubby/Voluptuous I've seen don't look that to me, if that makes sense. I think Average covers a lot.

[SW_PA_Couple]

I guess it is simply wired into peoples' brains to catagorize but I, personaly, just see people. The lines just are not that well defined. What, for example, might be the difference between "Thick/Chubby/Voluptuous" and "BBW"? It must be something, though. Some women give me an erection that cpule win an election. Others cause not even a twitch. Seems not be relate to size or shape. Might have more to do with seeing a friendsly smile or a gleam in the eye.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

As long as I find them attractive to me, their body could be less than perfect. Facial features and I hate to say it but proportionate bodies are part of that attractiveness. Personality has a large part. I don't like to say that it makes up for the imperfections because the personality is something that is important all by itself, body or not. I'd rather say that my scope is rather wide from the thin to being somewhat overweight.

I voted for average though. Thick/Chubby/Voluptuous didn't quite fit for me, but perhaps the Thick/Chubby/Voluptuous I've seen don't look that to me, if that makes sense. I think Average covers a lot.

I agree with you. I guess I'm average.......some things are more fluffy than others lol. With me, I hate to admit this fact, but I have to. I have a certain "look" in men that I am attracted to. I prefer them sort of tall I guess, and stocky. They would fall under the thick/chubby category I suppose. And I'm in the minority I think in I love men who have hair. Chest hair in particular really does it for me lol. Facial hair is really nice too. But yes, there just has to be a physical attraction for me as well.

[nmgrrrl]

i like my men taller. i'm not into very skinny men but obese is out too (i can just see myself explaining to the coroner how he just keeled over dead while we were going at it). excessive body hair is out as well, on men & women.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by nmgrrrl

i like my men taller. i'm not into very skinny men but obese is out too (i can just see myself explaining to the coroner how he just keeled over dead while we were going at it). excessive body hair is out as well, on men & women.

Yeah, I agree. When I say thick and chubby I mean a man who is around 5'10-6'2", 200-250 pounds. I don't want to see rib bones though. I'm screwing a man, not a skeleton lol.

[nmgrrrl]

its the hip bones that get me. mine should stick out more than his!

[Tybee Swing]

Shelly, I have the same taste in men. I like them tall, with meat on their bones. I like them hefty in a way that's more muscular than fat. Not bodybuilder-lean with 2% bodyfat, but rather manly and strong with some flesh on them.

I'm not attracted to the hairless guys that shave all over, hairless chests, arms, legs, etc. It's kind of weird to me, as if they haven't hit puberty yet. I'm not saying I'm attracted to Sasquatch, but medium/normal body hair on a man is attractive to me. I want to have sex with a MAN, I guess! Not a boy, and not Sasquatch. (I definitely like a man's genitals well-groomed, though.)

Skinny is a real turn-off to me. I just cannot get attracted to bony guys with scrawny arms and narrow chest. I'm more attracted to a man 25 lbs overweight than to a skinny one. In fact, the same is true of women, if I'm going to be playing with her. The bony-frail ones turn me off.

[looking2swing]

Yeah, I agree. When I say thick and chubby I mean a man who is around 5'10-6'2", 200-250 pounds. I don't want to see rib bones though. I'm screwing a man, not a skeleton lol

Very true. I wouldn't want to be with a man that has smaller thighs than I do!! And when single women join us, they need to have some curves, something to runs your hands over!

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by nmgrrrl

its the hip bones that get me. mine should stick out more than his!

lol, yeah thats always a problem lol