Question for Couples with bi-males

[JustAskJulie]

This question is solely directed at couples with bi-males and I"m putting it in a poll form because I realize that even here many bi males are not openly bi... and beyond that even more may not be willing to be honest with this question.

For those of you who are a couple where the male is bisexual... or even single bisexual males. Are you honest in your ads? Do you state that you are bi upfront, or do you say you are straight and only let on that you are bi when you find out that the people you are talking with are ok with that?

My guess is that if you are not open with this upfront it is because you fear what others may say or that it may limit you from playing with some couples where the male is straight out of a fear he may have that you may hit on him. Or it may just be a general fear of being open about your bisexuality and therefore not being accepted amongst the community. If you are willing to share your feelings on this please do.

[Mike and Jan]

Julie,

Very good poll.

You know? I really don't know why men who aren't bi are so concerned about being in a foursome or threesome with another man who is though?

If a woman doesn't want anything anal it's no big deal even if the 'other' man does. It's just off limits and there are plenty of other pleasures to explore. Oh well.

To answer you, yes I do enjoy a man's penis and testicles.

Now I very much do enjoy every single little part of the female body, mind, and soul though.

But sexually with men, it's just that one area.

And, yes, my wife knows.

[BiloxiCouple]

What about bi-curious? Could that have been part of the poll also? I am sure there are some out there!

[velbuzz]

Male bi-sexuality is such a spectrum. I think more men would be willing to admit being bi or bi curious if soley talking about oral/penis. But the thought of making out with a guy or being active with anal intercourse (giving or receiving) are, in my humble opinion, different.

[JustAskJulie]

The question is really about whether or not you will admit it (whatever the level is) in your profiles/ads or do you just say you are straight and leave it at that unless you come across someone you feel will be open to your bisexuailty (or bi-curiousity).

And so far from the poll and its limited responses I'm seeing exactly what I expected to see. Very few are actually honest about it in general.

[Roman Hands]

Very good pole!

It appears to me like there is quite a bit of male "bi" deception going on not only in couple to couple play, but with single guys as well. I have to admit, it took me a long time to acknowledge that I am bi. Largely because of the perceived "stigma" attached to male bisexuals. I also listed myself as "bi-curious" for a long time. Even though I had in fact been bi with two men. So obviously, I wasn't just curious anymore!

Our postings, on all sites, clearly states that I am bi. And in fact, we are only interested in couples or singles, with bi men. We are VERY explicit about this requirement! What is very interesting to us, is that often we get "hits" from single men who "CLAIM" to be straight! Yet, they say they are willing to "experiment", provided that a woman is also present. Although the woman does not have to participate beyond watching, if she chooses.

We ALWAYS reject those type of hits. We feel that if a guy is not honest and comfortable with their sexuality, we will not be comfortable with him.

We think that many men who experience "bi" activity, of some type, in the "heat" of the moment, simply chalk it up to "incidental" contact. No harm, no foul. After all, sex is a contact sport and there is bound to be some "accidental" MM contact. And yeah, it felt ok, but it doesn't mean I'm bi or want to explore further! And perhaps that is true. Unfortunately, many "open minded, modern men" are still very homophobic.

It is too bad that, we, as a society, still struggle with "sexual labels" and taboos. It seems like we simply cannot admire a human body, male or female, for the true art form that it is (granted, in some cases it may seem very abstract! ). Personally, I love beautiful art. And the better to experience it, when possible, with all of my senses.

But I suppose that there are those that would consider Da Vinci and Michaelangelo gay. After all, why would a hetero male draw, paint or sculp, a nude male?

[Rockme]

Originally Posted by velbuzz

Male bi-sexuality is such a spectrum. I think more men would be willing to admit being bi or bi curious if soley talking about oral/penis. But the thought of making out with a guy or being active with anal intercourse (giving or receiving) are, in my humble opinion, different.

Thank you for this post! This is how I feel. My “bi” play is ONLY oral, period! I don’t find guys attractive, I don’t do anal, and I don’t want to date a guy. I am cool if that is your thing, but just not mine. I think of myself as “bi” because I do the oral thing.

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by Roman Hands

But I suppose that there are those that would consider Da Vinci and Michaelangelo gay. After all, why would a hetero male draw, paint or sculp, a nude male?

Well, if I remember my Art History 101 correctly, many biographers and historians consider both of these geniuses to have been bi-sexual, if not homosexual. And although some of their homoerotic (and pornographic) art clued scholars to their sexual tastes, there was also contemporary documentation that described Da Vinci's and Michelangelo's relationships with their male models, apprentices, and sons of dukes and counts. But then again, such relationships during the Renaissance -- although scandalous to the Church and the masses -- were apparently pretty common among at least the Florentine aristocracy, if not the rest of the Italian courts.

I would assume that Rubens, Picasso, and other hetero males based some of their artwork on the nude male because they recognized the beauty of the male form. They recognized this as artists and exploited it (that's a positive) in their art. Also, it was a way they could make money.

Sorry about the threadjack...

Interesting poll, Julie.

Thrax

[Dooode]

Interesting poll, Julie!

I am bi and I list myself as bi. I've listed as such since first beginning in the lifestyle. I want to be forthcoming in my interests and activities so there is NO SURPRISE to anyone who initiates their interest.

The upside is that people who contact me ARE those who want what I have to offer. I've found that listing who I am seperates myself from the "dime-a-dozen" straight single male group, and puts me in a little more unique category. After all, I am quite capable and willing to satisfy both sexes, just as well as any single bi-female.

Unlike the single bi-female, the downside is that I don't get a tremendous volume of interest and am subjected to a degree of prejudism. Both are something I can live with because the pluses outweigh the minuses by quite a bit!

To top it off, I don't have a hairy ass, which helps. haha

[driveajeepnaked]

Because of the prejudices of bi-males, we have 2 profiles... one Str8 Male/Bi Female, the other bi-curious M/Bi Female. We have been contacted by many males that are listed as straight, and not as many listed bi or curious.

I have found that we have exchanged mail with more men that are married and cheating... but only if the male is bi - the only reason they want to cheat, to experience the bi-thing they like, as their wife either doesn't know or "understand". We've turned them all away, as one of our rules is we don't do the married but cheating thing.

V

[Roman Hands]

Originally Posted by Thrax

Well, if I remember my Art History 101 correctly, many biographers and historians consider both of these geniuses to have been bi-sexual, if not homosexual. And although some of their homoerotic (and pornographic) art clued scholars to their sexual tastes, there was also contemporary documentation that described Da Vinci's and Michelangelo's relationships with their male models, apprentices, and sons of dukes and counts. But then again, such relationships during the Renaissance -- although scandalous to the Church and the masses -- were apparently pretty common among at least the Florentine aristocracy, if not the rest of the Italian courts.

Then I am honored to be a bi-Italian male.....Now, where did I put my brushes???

[reed&diana]

I (the male) am listed as bi-curious but I wonder if I should change it. We are fairly new in the lifestyle and I wander how many couples are turned away from us because, as someone said in another post, they are scared off by a bi-courious male. It seems, and I'm liable to tick someone off here, that a bi-male can not keep his hands or mouth off a straight male, is diseased, or whatever. I really believe that in the lifestyle, a bi male or female has to be looked at differant than a bi in the vanila world. These bi swingers aren't necessarly people who would look for same-sex partners outside of the lifestyle. I beleive most of the bi people in the lifestyle are only "situational bi", only bi in a play situation.

[MIbbwcpl]

We've gotten negative reactions for having it listed as him being bi-cur, so we don't list it. I hate the double standard, but it exists. I've read ads that are very hateful about not wanting to even be w/ a couple with a bi-cur male. Of course, OTOH, why would anyone want to be w/ someone that hateful?

[walt1961]

I'm always honest dont want it comming back biting me in the butt.

[Rackir]

Totally open about it. It ups the odds of meeting other fully bi couples, and helps weed out those whom we probablly wouldnt click with anyways.