Do you find kissing to be a normal part of swinging play?

[Mariposa_y_Oso]

Mari and I were talking to some friends of ours and they mentioned the fact that there is a significant number of couples they've played with that viewed kissing as a "no-no". Now, we're still relative newbies to the Lifestyle, but so far, everyone we've played with has enjoyed the kissing and making out just as much as we do. As a matter of fact, we're not sure if we could play with another couple if kissing weren't allowed...it would just seem weird. lol

So as to get a wider sampling, I set up the poll to find out about your experiences with others, rather than your own personal preferences...

Enjoy and feel free to elaborate further, we'd love to hear everyone's opinion on this topic.

Cheers!
~Mike

[darling]

I guess its funny that I will stick a dick in my mouth, but not let them kiss me. hehehe

Since we swing, its just the one thing that I save between my husband and me only. There is something really personal about kissing to me.

[J & K]

J here---the second half of K.

Kissing we both like, but it has some turn on's and turn off's. I saw the post above about the gal says she will put a dick in her mouth, but won't kiss. Sounds normal since a "dick" can't kiss--lol.

We both are use to eachother kissing and when someone else does it it is different. Which can be good or bad. Some folks can be great kissers and others....well...need to learn better.

Kissing can be great, but others need to learn that a mouth can taste real bad and have bad breath. We wish more folks would learn to brush their teeth before hooking up and those that smoke need to learn to use mints---a lot of mints---for non-smokers. Yuck--kissing an ashtray is a TURN OFF!!!! Now two smokers can handle eachother very well. Another thing is being at the swing club and drinking booze and then kissing. Well--how many ladies hate beer and the men drink beer. Go for the kiss and she just taste your last beer. I think it goes both ways, but women tend to notice it more.

Kissing has so many forms. It is one of them things we are never are taught. So tech. can vary from one person to the other.

We both started off saying "No Kissing" when we first talked about doing this. We have played around with two cpls before and found out that kind of went out of the window. It was in the game to kiss while we were at the club to break the ice. Also--we have kissed them when playing at later times. So--every cpl is different on the "Kissing" ideas. There is no right or wrong reasons to Kiss others---it is how comfortable you are with yourself to do it. It has it's turn-on's and turn-off's.

[OhioCouple]

Kissing is a very big part of the foreplay and seduction process for us. We have though run into one couple in which they just were not our type of kissers, so we just put their lips to better use and only kiss each other. If they are biters, tongue thrusters or tongue flickerers (is that a word?) we move em' right along. Chances are we wouldn't play with them again since we do enjoy the passion of it. I'd say we are a most of the time couple based on how compatible the kissing is.

Lori

[jstawildguy]

Weighing in with my opinion... Kissing is very erotic, and it doesn't have to be on the lips. Skin kissing.. over face and body is very enjoyable and avoids the "breath" situation.

I do agree, personal hygene in all areas is a must, to be involved in this lifestyle!

Dave

[TNT]

Originally posted by J & K
Well--how many ladies hate beer and the men drink beer. Go for the kiss and she just taste your last beer.

I had to laugh at this statement. I hate beer, I never drink it. I have told hubby should I ever pick up a beer to drink, to take me home IMEDIATELY, because I am wayyyyyyyy to drunk, lol.

But, I LOVE the smell of beer on a man's breath. Not someone who has had a whole bunch of beer, but one or two. It is such a sexy, turn-on smell to me, I guess you could say I find it very manly .

As far as kissing goes, we are about 50/50. If we do no big deal and if we don't no big deal. We usually take our lead towards kissing from the people we are playing with at the time.

Teresa

[Alura]

We can only speak of past experiences. We've never played with a couple without kissing. In our opinion, kissing can have different meanings. Between the two of us, it means "I love you." With anyone else it means, "Let's get hot!" We will agree with Lori that it is very difficult to find a couple who are both good kissers.

Alura

[ciscosv]

My wife and I have kissed others when the feeling was right. It doesn't bother me to see her passionately kissing another. In fact it is a turn on for me because I know that there is an attraction there. She is not bothered by me kissing others. Everyone is different.

[Regularguy]

When it is right I really like kissing too....

[bimrdcpl]

We love kissing and making out with others, it part of the play we think. And what better way to find out what kinda lover they are going to be!!!

Dawn

[DBL D]

LOL TNT,

I fell over when I saw your comments on BEER.

I make my own beer and make many different varieties.
Believe it or not, not all beer makes you smell like "beer", but I get your drift. Come to my place and I'll educate you if you like

On the topic of hygiene...I kissed a gal at our 1st dance (after my WIFEY had already kissed her) and she was a smoker. I am too and forgot about it. Well, she said, "You're a smoker aren't you?"

I was a little taken back, but then I realized the Faux Pas. Even with a smoker/ drinker/ pussy eater/ etc. there is an odor that persists and we should all be aware of the others feelings about this.

BTW, Kissing and "Safe Sex" were a topic of discussion before the dance. Since Fem D let loose and changed the rules I went along with it because I was in favor of kissing. When I saw her do it, I became relaxed in my interactions. She'd got a little drunk and didn't realize a few things till I told her later.

We have since talked and she now feels that kissing might be ok, depending on the situation.

Do I sense another rule change in the works?

Anyway, I'm for it and she's about 50/50.

BTW, The type of kissing is v. important. A good kisser goes slow and sexy at 1st and follows the lead of the partner.

Hey, If they like to kiss, just ask what kind they like. Just as you would like to know how they like to get fucked.

Remember the communication thing works for the partners too, not just the S. O.

Male D

[mde 4764]

We just can't imagine not kissing. That to us is just part of the total package of sexy fun. Definitely a nice way to ease into foreplay.

[gsu22]

I'm definitely a fan of kissing. It really adds to the whole thing. If I'm fucking someone, I also want to kiss them over and over again.....in many different places of course.....it'd be hard to not kiss for me atleast.

I mean you're already doing everything else

facelick

[good times]

My wife is very into kissing so that is a question we ask when getting to know another couple. As far as my wife is concerned if the other couple isn't into kissing then we are not compatible as it is a very important part of forplay for her.

R

[NWARcouple]

Originally posted by Alura
Between the two of us, it means "I love you." With anyone else it means, "Let's get hot!"

Alura

Admittedly, we are still undecided about kissing... As others have said, it does sound strange when we say that kissing is too personal. But, like others have also mentioned, we disassociate sex and love... Our kissing is so linked to the love element of our relationship that we are not sure if we want to do it with other couples.

However, Alura has definitely made a great distinction! Food for thought!!

J and H



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