Do you find kissing to be a normal part of swinging play?

[2newbies]

i love to kiss. it is part of the fun of sex. to me oral sex is more intimate than just kissing. of course everyone has their own limits. i would respect another couples wishes if did not want to kiss, that is no problem. i just love to get close to another person and drink in their smell as i kiss them all over. it gives me butterflies...lol.


k and g

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[Dani&Drew]

It just doesn't seem right to be doing all the other stuff and not include kissing. Kissing for us is a natural start to things.

[bear_n_bunny]

I, for one, can't imagine playing with someone in a swinging context without kissing, nor would Bunny.

Of course, there are a few caveats. The thing about hygiene is something that never fails to amaze me, in the context of "what were you/they thinking?" I smoke a pipe, and know all too well about the delicate sensibilities of some people, and so take the appropriate steps However, I have to say that some of the worst bad breath I've ever encountered was with non-smokers, so it's not like us e-vil smokers have a monopoly on such unpleasantness. Needless to say, under those circumstances things don't get much past the point of a kiss, because if her mouth is that nasty, I don't even want to think about the rest of her must be like.

I won't get into the "a kiss"="love" attitude some people have about smooching. Different strokes and all that. But for us, in the swinging context kissing can be a very erotic act. Indeed, in some cases, kissing can be far more intimate than sex. And if we are going to get intimate enough with someone to have sex with them, we will most assuredly kiss and "make out" with them as well.

One thing I've noticed in recent years is how many people out there that can't kiss worth a damn. And the really interesting thing about is that the people who seem the worst at it are people close to my age (I'm approaching the big 5-0). When I was younger, it was fairly rare to encounter someone who could not kiss at least tolerably well. Do people lose the skill as they age? I'd like to hear some other people's insight into this...

-- Bear

[velbuzz]

We kiss. If I I going to spend hours on vaginal lips, a few minutes on oral lips conveys a genuine liking of the other person which is important. My wife agrees. But making out is not something we have done.

I guess we are prone to move a little faster with another couple than with ourselves.

[Elusive BiFem]

I can't imagine sex without kissing. Simple as that.
- EBF

[BiloxiCouple]

Not everyone is comfortable with kissing. Whether it be a first introduction or a repeated encounter.

I have found that if for some reason you don't want to kiss someone especially on the lips, just turn your head slightly and get a kiss on the cheek.

Sometimes I have to do that especially if I am not feeling well.

[hmr]

I also, can't consider sex without kissing! Kissing, to me, is a part of the foreplay. It is part of the arousal factor. Kissing is erotic and sensual, and very passionate. It is great to express your passion, not confusing it with love! Just passion and sensuality, sometimes it is as powerful as the sex itself. I find kissing and sex most definitely go together!!

I also, smoke so I make sure to bring breath mints. Even if I didn't smoke it would only be curteous, everyones breath becomes stale after a while!

Bear, I can't answer that one. I've found good and bad kissers of all ages. The ones who generally work best for me are the more mature men, 40-50?. They know what they are doing, and what a woman wants. They generally know how to treat a woman. Go slower, less forceful. Then again, some just don't have the knack no matter what the age or circumstace.
mrs hmr

[SexhoundDog]

I'm with you, Mrs. Hmr. My wife also loves to kiss, and I can guarantee you that before she'd put her hands or lips on another man's cock, he'd have to be giving her some very passionate lip action to get her erotic juices flowing first.

And my thoughts to that are identical. I would want her to get involved in the passion of kissing or else she wouldn't have nearly as good a time, so what would be the point?

Being as that women have so many more erogenous zone than we men do, I'd be surprised if most don't require kissing. Although I like kissing, I suppose I could "force myself" to accept a woman going down on me without it. I'd get over it, but I'd say the wife wouldn't go for it without some kissing.

[NorCal Nites]

I personally LOVE kissing... what would sex or foreplay be without it? Sure, it'd be fun... but damn, besides sucking on something, my mouth would be bored!

I don't think I get enough of the kissing at home. Larren's just not that much of a kisser, he just doesn't like it... he swears up and down that he "doesn't do it good". Whatever. Just gimme!

[tbop]

I have a lot of different views and it really all depends on my mood. I really enjoy it when each of us are into each other equally. But if she's not a very good kisser, it sort of ruins the mood for me. And then I have played with couples where kissing is taboo and I respect it. But I've found that sometimes with an on-premise party, not everyone brings a tooth brush and tooth paste with them, so sometimes I get to taste the other partners earlier than I. lol. There's just so many aspects to the whole kissing issue.

[Sadie]

I only allow one special guy to French kiss with me...two other guys I allow kissing on the lips only. The rest...no kissing.

[pinklady36]

What a great topic! Personally, I like to kiss........a lot. Like so many others have mentioned, I can't imagine sex without it! Have experienced many different kinds though. The results have been about 50/50. Must say the hubby is by far the best kisser I know. He taught me a lot about patience and technique.....what a guy!
Here's to kissing!

[b_and_sc]

When we first started out with this lifestyle, we talked about keeping something out...sort of making it special, just for us. We talked about certain positions or kissing. Well, for me anyway, I NEED kissing to get heated up!!! Swinging is for fun and kissing can be VERY fun...it's still different and special with hubby, so we just decided that anything goes

b and s

[Spoomonkey]

Funny this should come up. We didn't want to kiss at first, but somehow - and sitting here discussing it, we don't remember how - kissing happened. I think it was a bet during a game of cards with a couple we were close to, but somehow that started it off for us... At that point, we'd never been physical in the lifestyle, so - until recently - we'd never been with anyone for whom kissing was taboo.

Having been with a couple who make that off-limits, we can say that it really does make a difference for us. Granted - the couple happen to be wonderful in every other way so we will be playing with them again - but that is definitely a missing aspect of the experience.

Mrs Spoo definitely likes to kiss. I have turned my head for a second only to turn back around and see her tonsil-latched to an old friend or new-found single. Then again, I have done that as well...

We are kissers and prefer kissers... But - if you don't kiss I am sure that you can make up for it somehow

Spoomonkey

[zebrahead7557]

My husband is not a big fan of kissing other women but I love to kiss. If I am extremely attracted to a guy(sometimes a girl) it jumpstarts the whole physical process. Sometimes if I am not in an intercourse mood at the swingers club, I can kiss & dance all night long & be satisfied.