What colour of silicone bracelet would you wear at a swingers club?

[OttawaCuple]

If your swingers club had silicone awarness bracelets in different colours that you could put on to give people a heads up about your preferences, would you wear one or not?

If you would, what colour(s) would you wear?

You can pick more than one colour if you think you'd like to "say" more than one thing.

MrsOC

[jennandjamesinm]

I don't think that I would wear a bracelet - my preference depends on alot the individual person adn where my head is at that particular moment in time. Not to mention, I don't like to be put in a category.

I know that I didn't really answer your question, I just march to the beat of my own drum.

[good times]

Dito, I doubt if I would wear a bracelet either. We have been to a club that used colored cups for a similar thing and we chose not to participate. We prefer to work out what we are in to while getting to know a couple.

[Spoomonkey]

I wear a black bracelet already - as a bit of humor. It is a "LiveWrong" bracelet, and it always makes cracks me up. You've seen it, GT.

I had no idea there was a color code for bracelets. My guess is, there really isn't a color code that would stick. I've heard the straw code, the cup code and now this. Chances are - even if I wore one, I wouldn't pay much attention to them in a club.

Especially since purple is already taken and wouldn't mean "monkey lovin'".



Spoomonkey

[mrs good times]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I wear a black bracelet already - as a bit of humor. It is a "LiveWrong" bracelet, and it always makes cracks me up. You've seen it, GT.

I love that bracelet and have been looking for one like it ever since. If you happen to spot one let me know Spoo!

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by mrs good times

I love that bracelet and have been looking for one like it ever since. If you happen to spot one let me know Spoo!

Promise

You DESERVE to wear one, after all :*

Spoomonkey

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by mrs good times

I love that bracelet and have been looking for one like it ever since. If you happen to spot one let me know Spoo!

Go here for that bracelet....

I just had to look it up to see what it was like.

[OttawaCuple]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I wear a black bracelet already - as a bit of humor. It is a "LiveWrong" bracelet, and it always makes cracks me up. You've seen it, GT.

I had no idea there was a color code for bracelets. My guess is, there really isn't a color code that would stick. I've heard the straw code, the cup code and now this. Chances are - even if I wore one, I wouldn't pay much attention to them in a club.

Especially since purple is already taken and wouldn't mean "monkey lovin'".



Spoomonkey

Spoomonkey, I have to admit, I decided on the colours for each meaning myself, based on thoughts like, if there were three colours for full-swap, soft-swap & no-swap, no-swap is the "prissiest" and therefore virginal white makes sense for that, and full-swap is the "baddest", so black makes sense for that (I didn't know there was already a black "Live Wrong" bracelet ), and then soft-swap is somewhere in between, so grey makes sense for that.

For the STD one, I just thought it was a "caution" thing, so I thought yellow made sense.

For the bi- one, I thought purple made sense cuz I'd heard somewhere that purple was sometimes considered a "questionable sexual orientation" colour.

And then for straight, I had no idea, so I thought "how about red?" cuz red is one of the colours (red & blue) that makes up purple.

But your post got me thinking that I maybe should have looked into things a bit further(I looked a bit before posting, but didn't find anything) to see if there already IS a set colour code for this sort of thing. This time I googled "sexual orientation colour" and found this page. If you scroll down to the "Social Status of Bisexuality" section, there a piece on the symbol of bisexual identity. It says, "A common symbol of bisexual identity is a pair of overlapping pink and blue triangles (the pink triangle being a well-known symbol for the gay community), forming purple where they intersect. Another symbol is the bisexual pride flag, which has a deep pink stripe at the top for homosexuality, a blue one on the bottom for heterosexuality, and a purple one (blended from the pink and blue) in the middle to represent bisexuality."

So I was close to a recognized standard with my colours, but I guess I should have chosen blue for straight instead of red.

All that said, though, sorry, spoomonkey, it appears that Purple IS already taken ... perhaps you could have your own colour for you and those who play with you - a purple and black swirl, maybe??

MrsOC

[NandTfromCA]

Whenever I hear this come up, it seems that most who post are against it. I’m guessing there are many others who don’t want to speak up because they don’t want to come across like they only want to get to know people if they are willing to fuck them.

I happen to think color-coding is a great idea.

Just because someone is soft swap, straight, gay, bi, has an STD, doesn't mean we don't want to talk to them. If we meet someone and our conversation is really engaging, we will invest a lot of time in them whether we think we’re going to have sex with them or not.

BUT, our main goal in swinging is to have sex with other people. Meeting interesting individuals that we may or may not get naked with is just a wonderful bi-product of the experience.

Since we limit the time we spend away from our kids, but also like to maximize the time we can get freaky with other people, having a rough idea of what someone’s sexual preferences are up front is a helpful thing.

If it doesn’t matter at all, why even go to a swinger event? There are plenty of other venues where you can talk with and get to know people…even open-minded ones.

I know that was a very opinionated post...guess I'm in an opinionated mood

Mr.

[mrs good times]

Originally Posted by LFM2

Go here for that bracelet....

I just had to look it up to see what it was like.

Thanks, on order now.

[EvilMJ]

I am not for colour coding for these reasons (although I do understand what it is you are trying to accomplish):

Basically I don't want a label. I am bi-sexual, but not with everyone and not all the time. Only when I am attracted to someone. I don't want some couple assuming that because I am wearing a 'bi' bracelet that I am going to play with them. They would be pretty pissed at spending time getting to know us, only to find out I don't want to play with the wife. Nor do I want to be hasseled by people who think I would make a good third in their FMF or FFM just because I am bi. I rarely play separately and when I do it is with people I know and trust.

Another problem is losing a chance to play with a good couple because they see a 'bi' coloured bracelet and don't want to play with a couple if they aren't straight. I won't get the chance to explain that just becuase I am bi, it doesn't mean that won't play with a straight couple. There are lots of times that we play as a normal swap, no FF action at all and that is just as much fun to me. I am sure lots of couples with bi sexual men will have a worse time with this scenario.

I just feel it is too limiting and in a sense it ends up defeating the purpose. If everything were clear cut it might be okay, but there are lots of times when it just won't work. For example: What about a couple with a bi sexual female who are into BDSM? Does that mean one colour or two. If you start separating that out then that is going to be a lot of different colours to remember. What I want changes from time to time, somedays I don't want to play with other women..do I get two bracelets then? Will people not want to play with me if I wear a bi bracelet one week, and then a straight one the next, perhaps they will feel I am being disingenuous.


I prefer the good old fashioned method of "so what you are guys looking for, what is your wife into?" .

That and I doubt I would remember what each bracelet means...I would probably only remember one or two and then unless someone had a colour chart on the wall somewhere I would go blank and avoid couples with a strange colour i don't know because I don't want to play with someone with an STD, or am not into soft swap or BDSM..etc.

Hope this all makes sense

[good times]

Dito , Makes perfect sense to me MJ. I feel pretty much the same way about it.

While I too understand the reasoning behind this idea, I think it would actually make people more hesitant to approach people if they thought they might not perfectly match the persons indicated preference than if they did not know ahead of time. Many swingers are flexible and will tell a couple what they are interested in based on their interaction and comfort level with that couple. So, while we are both straight and are generally into full swap with other couples, we might entertain playing with a single female/male if the right one came along. However, we would never wear something that indicated we were interested in singles because we would not want to be fending them off all night long. On the other hand, we would not want singles to avoid us just because we indicated we were not interested in playing with them.

Another reason I don't think this is workable is that people change their minds constantly. I cannot tell you how many times we have met somebody that said they were only interested in soft swap, or just ff bi activity, etc... Then a couple hours later after getting to know them and visiting for a while, we are back in the playroom full swap. We were recently at a club and a couple came up to us and stated that they were newbie’s and absolutely were not interested in playing with anyone, but could they ask us a few questions about swinging. We said sure, because it was kind of a slow night and they seemed like nice folks. Two hours later, the woman of the couple says, "so do you guys want to have sex with us...now?” Had we all been wearing little wrist bands, my guess is we wouldn't of given each other the time of day, as it turned out, we had some really hot sex.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by NandTfromCA

I know that was a very opinionated post...guess I'm in an opinionated mood

Mr.

I always like reading your opinions... you make your points in a positive and engaging way . Plus, in a thread like this it's nice to have someone representing the 'other' side. So keep those opinions coming .

I'm not sure how I feel about this... probably would come down on the side of "nah, I might not wear one". I would find it hard to choose between the straight and bi-sexual ones, being selectively bi-sexual. Although...we would wear the full-swap bracelets.

Then when we talked to people, trying to look at their wrists and do mental calculations. That would feel a little awkward to me. And I could definitely see people getting turned down and getting annoyed because the couple that turned them down had a certain bracelet on.... so while they might be useful, I'd have to say they wouldn't be for me.

[LOL_OMG]

The Mr and I have talked about this kind of thing in the past. I wouldn't wear a bracelet because just like EvilMJ said it depends so much on who you're with. Also I do agree with Good Times in that if you wore a "we'll do anything" bracelet some people might think we're a little too wild for them.

On the other hand, it might be helpful to have bracelets for what you WON'T do...instead of what you will. Some people won't kiss, or do anything with anal sex....etc. It might be nice to know something like that so you don't cross a line that they don't want to do.

Mrs

[OttawaCuple]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

The Mr and I have talked about this kind of thing in the past. I wouldn't wear a bracelet because just like EvilMJ said it depends so much on who you're with. Also I do agree with Good Times in that if you wore a "we'll do anything" bracelet some people might think we're a little too wild for them.

On the other hand, it might be helpful to have bracelets for what you WON'T do...instead of what you will. Some people won't kiss, or do anything with anal sex....etc. It might be nice to know something like that so you don't cross a line that they don't want to do.

Mrs

In a way, except for the black/full swap bracelet, what you WON'T do is kind of what most of the bracelets are about ... if I don't do full swap, but I'm open to soft swap, I'd wear a grey bracelet, but if I'm NOT into any kind of swapping at all, I'd maybe wear a white/no bracelet so people looking to swap wouldn't hit on me .... ditto, if I was straight and NOT interested in girl/girl action, I might wear a red(now blue)/straight bracelet so girls wouldn't take an interest in me, forcing me (perhaps a somewhat shy person) from having to say "no thanks" and feeling bad.

Alternatively, if I was a definitely full swap straight person who was definitely looking to hook up with another full swap straight person, if they were wearing a black bracelet together with a red (now blue) bracelet, I'd figure there'd be a good chance we'd be a match assuming the chemistry and all the other attraction issues alighned.

Either way, I wouldn't chat with or NOT chat with someone just because they were wearing a certain colour bracelet ... as someone said before ... you never know what they may end up getting into by the end of the evening depending on the particular circumstances facelick .

The Fuse mentioned

being selectively bi-sexual.

and that being that way might be a problem when deciding what colour they'd wear. I don't see that wearing a bracelet of a certain colour takes away anyone's right to be "selectively" anything, any more than BEING in a swingers club takes away a person's right not to swing. I see the bracelets as more of a non-verbal clarification of a person's limits and interests which would be worn by those who, for one reason or another, WANT their limits and interests known.

I guess you can tell I voted that I'd wear bracelets

MrsOC