What do you expect on the first meet?

[sweet_tna]

We're willing to play on a first date (if everyone clicks, blah, blah, blah), but never EXPECT it. The same goes for house parties and meet & greets. We prepare for the possibility of play, but our only expectation is to have a good time.


=)

[two4youinswva]

Who cares? Pass me another beer.

A tempting choice. A very tempting choice.

But, to keep it honest, we never expect to play, but the door is open if things fall into place.

[ownerspet]

I believe we both go in with the attitude of, let's get to know them a little and if it clicks, then it clicks. If not we have definitly not built our mental expectations in our head, and thus there is definitly no disappointment if nothing happens. As stategic as that sounds, we're really just more laid back and into having fun in general without strings, so I'll stick with "if it happens, it happens."

[JustAskJulie]

The first time we meet someone we just expect to meet someone... it's kinda like that box of chocolates... you never know what you are going to get. Until we've met them and talked to them for a few minutes we don't know if we want to have sex with them let alone do we expect to.

[nicerrtxcple]

no we would rather not on the first meeting.but that just us

[Tia Vampire]

The first thing we do is greet all the people we know, then fix our drinks, then sit back and drink our drinks and just be social. We never go out expecting to get laid. If it happens, we are greatful to have been able to participate in that couple's sex lives. If you go out looking for it to happen and it does not, you end up being that couple at the end of the night looking desperate.

[Pensacolapair]

When we meet new people, the only thing we expect is to meet new people! We always arrange for a meeting to be at a venue where we can easily have an enjoyable time regardless of whether or not we 'hit it off' with the other couple or not. Our favorite is meeting for dinner.. restaurants are usually quiet enough to hold a conversation (as opposed to a bar or club), and dinner is something you were going to do anyway. We really don't go in to any meet situation with a play tonight or don't play tonight agenda - there are far too many variables in play! We also don't infer anything from whether or not that meeting results in playtime because we realize that some couples need time to discuss which way they want to go, and some have a firm no-play-on-first-meet preference.

More and more over the last couple of years we've encountered what's beginning to look like a trend of couples looking for pretty much a 'guarantee' that playtime is going to result before even agreeing to meet. Different strokes for different folks - but what's sad is that when they don't get said 'guarantee', they are quick to label others as not 'serious' or 'real'.

[socolais]

Nothing is ever guaranteed and everyone has veto opportunities whenever they choose. I voted don't expect to, but will - and that's not exactly correct. We've pretty much stopped meeting couples initially in some vanilla setting. We invite them to a house party we intend to attend (coordinating that with the hosts). So when we meet them at the party, if things go well, we may play or one of us may play with one or both of them. At the party, we know most of the regulars and we're there hoping for a sexy time, so yeah there is some expectation of play but not necessarily with the folks we're meeting for the first time.