Do You Swing With Single Males?

[shy_tn_gal]

Thus far, we have only played (very selectively) with single men. And it has been a wonderful experience. We count ourselves lucky to have met three or four men who are honest, real, and alot of fun.

They don't bring any drama or emotion with them.

We live by the one strike rule. Everyone is entitled to the benefit of the doubt once. Things do happen unexpectedly to cause last minute cancellations or delays... but we have also learned how to weed out the talkers and the pic collectors fairly easily.

Perhaps we will go to the next level soon....

[lovers]

My wife plays with a single male. It took a while to find the right guy, but she's keeping him around because he understands that his role is to please my wife and then get the f**k out when she's finished with him (and not the other way around).

[PB&J]

We have a male friend that we met through a site, and who turned out to live 7 mins from us, although we both had listed the same "misleading" community as our location. I didn't think I'd be comfortable playing with a married man like that, but he and his wife play separately, and we've actually had dinner with them both so I know she's not in the dark on this. He's a nice guy, and terrified of being pushy, but we do love to get the three of us into the hot tub together. The Mr loves to watch and share.

[TravlParty]

Yes, we enjoy single males (and females).

[Chris&Amelia]

We don't play with single males. Amelia has shown no interest in it, and neither has I. Part of what makes swinging enjoyable for us is watching our spouses enjoy the attention of our playmates in a 2-on-2 setting.

We have discussed (and decided that we would enjoy) playing in a MFM or FMF situation with couples we already know and trust.

[prettylady]

Dog and I have been couples only. But with the couple there was one time when she went to the washroom during play time and I was alone with the two guys and it was incredible.
Dog has said he wants to explore this MFM farther. I'm excited but nervous.
We will see, you only live once so lets start livin'
Your friend,
Prettylady

[funtimesallroun]

We've only ever swung with single males. The reason is simple enough. I have no great desire to be with another woman..... simple as that! I enjoy seeing my wife being pleasured by another guy.

[mixtupcpl]

Interesting reading through threads like this. This is just a casual observation, but it seems like in many cases the LS evolves into a couple moving to singles because "too hard to find couples we're both attracted to (and have it reciprocated)" I can relate to this. It does seem like a longshot to have that happen.

But that said, since there are 100,000,000 single males and almost 0 single females, it seems what ends up happening is the wife playing with SM and the husband just enjoying MFM. Im wondering... In these cases, is this what the husband had in mind to begin with? Maybe the LS is really a female sport? LOL!

Personally, I have no objections to my wife finding singles (I mean we're coming out of an open marriage, so thats ALL we've done), but the idea of that being almost all we do holds about zero appeal. I must be one of the rare guys that isnt hugely turned on by the wife with another guy. I have no problem with it and I like when she's getting well taken care of, but MFM or the wife having a parade of partners isnt something I actively dream of. Yet it really does seem very hard to find a situation where both wives mutually want both guys (b/c I think the selection often will rest more with the wife since guys are pretty open).

Well I guess no one said the LS would be easy! LOL.

For us, I think we'll just wait for that (possibly unicorn level) couple where we are really into them and they are really into us. We had the open marriage for 10 years and, at this point, its really all just extra fun.

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by mixtupcpl

Maybe the LS is really a female sport? LOL!

Politically Correct Answer: "No, mixtupcpl, the Lifestyle is a team sport. You and your partner share equally!"

What I Think Is The Correct Answer (And this is my opinion, not Amelia's): "Pfft. Dude, in the Lifestyle, the women are in charge. We're just holding on and enjoying the ride."

[spamcatcher]

Given that we started out in the lifestyle with MFM experiences, that would be a big "Yes." However, we currently look for couples more than we do single males -- they're a dime a dozen!

[TravlParty]

LS evolves into a couple moving to singles because "too hard to find couples we're both attracted to (and have it reciprocated)" I can relate to this.

That may be the reason for some, but we've always attracted more single females and women who play without their mate. I really can't explain why, but it's true.

So, we tend to play more with singles (both male and female).

[NCfuncouple98]

We have only played with single males so far, and it's been fun, but we now are only looking for couples. Not that we won't play with single males in the future.

[Tracey2]

I don't know what it is exactly about the single male situation, but hubby and I are just totally not interested. We've really enjoyed being with the couples that we've been with and I know we'd enjoy a single female. I'm quite bi and the ff play is very exciting to both of us so that might be a reason that we're not interested in trying a single male experience. MFM as part of the play with a couple is very fun but by itself it is just something that we don't want to try.

[Pioneer Swinger]

I'll swing with a single male after Rick and I have previously met with him, either socially or sexually.

[Trace Ekies]

Mrs. Ekies has been known to pick one or two from Swing Lifestyle or Playfulswingers or even at a party for a quick screw.

We like it and are always looking for a solid single male for a good time.

Trace