Poll: Breaking in 'Newbies'

[2jersey]

Some experienced swingers might have an aversion to playing with first timers, possibly out of concern that newbies will behave awkwardly in bed, or are prone to emotional insecurity and drama.

How do you feel about taking newbies on their first test drive?

[DGrey]

The couple who broke us in have since become very good friend and should we ever have the chance to break in newbies, we'd be more than happy to do so.

E

[SAMnTINA]

We were all Newbies once. Besides it's fun to be the leader on occasion and we have met some Newbies that sure had a lot of pent up excitement and were ready willing and able not to mention hot hot hot.

We just want to know that both partners are up for the "test drive".

Steve & Terri

[biblonde]

We are a little leary of newbies although if we felt you were ready for this we wouldnt say no. But with our experiance 99% of the time some drama always seems to happen(not that all newbies have drama just the ones we have agreed to meet..lol). But hey we were all new once and someone gave us a chance. our first was the most enjoyable time ever!! The first time with any couple is very nerve racking to start with...the first time ever is even more so. I wouldnt say No...but would have to have alot of talking time before the nekkid time to make sure this is really what they want to be doing.

[Spoomonkey]

Dito biblonde

We've played with newbies and we used to think, "no big deal" - but the truth is, newbies can be flighty. Some aren't sure what they want, will leave the lifestyle right away, and could even be a little weird in the play room.

We much prefer couples who are comfortable with the situation they are stepping into. Because if I am going to kiss someone's wife, I may not see the punch coming

That said - the right newbie couple, the right chemistry, the right "vibe"...

Spoomonkey

[Thrax]

I'd consider it, but they would most likely have to contact me first to see if I'd be interested. I don't actively search for newbies.

And there would have to be a lot of talk beforehand.

And I would probably require that they do a lot of research, mostly on this Board, so they have a better idea of what they're getting into.

Then, after the financial disclosures, shots, and reading/comprehension tests, I think we could give it a try.

Thrax

[CandPinSA]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

We much prefer couples who are comfortable with the situation they are stepping into. Because if I am going to kiss someone's wife, I may not see the punch coming

Too funny Spoomonkey! :-) Well, if you were here and at our first ever swap.... if you kissed my wife, I have to tell ya..... I'd be hard as a rock in a second! :-)

Mr. C

[good times]

Sounds like we are similar to most of the people who have answered here so far. We take the cautious approach with newbies because they often have unresolved issues that sometimes they don't even know about. Don't know why though, but lately we have been with a lot of first timers. Three out of the last four couples we have hooked up with, it was their first time. Two of those were great experiences. The third? Well, lets just say it ended a bit early.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by CandPinSA

if you kissed my wife, I have to tell ya..... I'd be hard as a rock in a second! :-)

Me too

Spoomonkey

[neoparadigm]

what's wrong with newbies? nothing.. get naked have sex and don't take all this so serious..
have a good erotic time and get on with life.. there is more to life than worrying about the feelings of newbies.. they're there for the same reason.. If they want backyard BBQs with soccer moms there are a whole lot of them here to snack on the chips and salsa.

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by 2jersey

Some experienced swingers might have an aversion to playing with first timers, possibly out of concern that newbies will behave awkwardly in bed, or are prone to emotional insecurity and drama.

You did a great job of summarizing our thoughts on this matter. We know from experience that it's not pleasant to be around a couple in the process of discovering that swinging is not for them. Even for the newbies who do have stable personalities, we don't necessarily have the patience to show them all the ropes.

[VanHlebar]

Mrs Van and I have been extremely lucky. Our first couple was extremely good to us and has since become great friends of ours. We have always been honest with them and they have been very patient with us and helped us work through some of our issues.

If we ever have the opportunity to return the favor to other newbies, I am sure we would, but like everyone else has already said, we would want to have lots and lots of chat time before we played. Just want to make sure that both parties are really into swinging and that they are in it for good reasons.

I wouldn't mind a little drama as issues do arise. As long as the other couple was honest and explained what was going on, no big deal.

But....since we are still newbies ourselves, we won't be breaking any in any time soon.

-Van

[meandher2go]

we love that newbie scent. and are pretty good at breaking in that newbie too..

[Edison Carter]

Simply put, we let Captain Kirk go where noone's gone before.

[CuriousInOregon]

Being quite new ourselves I dont know that I would have as much of an "issue" with another inexperienced couple as opposed to the idea only because if all parties are New and nervous NO ONES gonna make a first or second move so For me I would not go there at least not till i had a few more tries under my belt (so to speak)