Would you swing with a co-worker?

[twoferfun69]

Ok, I'm going to attempt my first very own poll. No laughing from the peanut gallery......or that banana tree either for that matter!!
Recently Mrs Twofer found out a co-worker is in the lifestyle and makes it known quite a bit. This kinda freaked her a bit, so we took our pics down, and decided we best save those for emailing those we choose to chat with. But, it got me to wondering...........

[driveajeepnaked]

It's early in the poll, but at this time, a resounding HELL NO is winning!! My answer may be different if I weren't the business owner.. so would I swing with an employee/co-worker - HELL NO !!

A better question for me would be... what would I do if I found that 2 of my employees were swinging with each other??

No idea...
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[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by driveajeepnaked

A better question for me would be... what would I do if I found that 2 of my employees were swinging with each other??

Would'nt you need at least THREE coworkes to say they're swinging?

[all4fun]

Work is work, I keep it separate from any other thing I do. This is no exception! So no is the definite answer.

[pumpkins1970]

I've always thought it best to separate work from play, and try not to inter-mingle the two, ie. a fallout at either place could have serious reprocussions down the line. (This may fall under the don't shit where you work rule too!)

[Mike and Jan]

I did it twice years ago.

My assistant manager and I went out on the town with the wives. It was really the first time either of us had spent any time at all with the other's wife.

He and his wife were a little older than us and probably much more experienced in this sort of thing. My wife and I had only one prior swinging experience a couple of years prior and she had been very apprehensive of doing anything again.

Anyway we bar-hopped, drank, and danced until it was quite late. Mostly dancing with each other's wife. I could tell that my wife was really enjoying herself with the man and I was seriously enjoying the other wife.

I was elated when my wife suggested going to our house and even more elated when the four of us wound up skinny dipping in our pool.

It wasn't long before the other wife suggested that she and I go back to the bedroom for some privacy. About the time she and I were in the middle of orally enjoying and exploring each other's naked bodies, my wife came in upset. Seems she sobered enough to have remorse and had stopped the other husband just prior, I suppose, to having intercourse.

Anyway, really bad ending to a really fun evening. The next Monday at work was really uncomfortable and it wasn't long before he found a reason to resign. Too bad, because he was a good assistant manager and she was a really neat lady too.

The second time was with a salesman who worked for me and a really good friend too. Same scenerio about bar-hopping, drinking, and dancing. We'd made some silly bets and one had the loser, his wife, to agree to giving a blow job. So, in the back seat of our car on the way back home she gave it to him.

The other bet was between the guys and the gals and the losers had to dance, nude, for the winners. The gals had lost that one. So when we got to our house the gals began to strip and dance. And, to my delight, my wife was in front of my friend and his wife was in front of me. At that time my wife and I had agreed to, if we did anything at all, only soft swing. So, after the dancing we enjoyed everything except intercourse with the other's spouses.

It was a little uncomfortable at work but I thought it was going to be OK. I didn't suggest doing it again and, even though I'd have loved too, didn't think we should.

Turns out that he called my wife several times wanting to have sex again. She just didn't really want to so that ended that. We remained friends and coworkers for years afterwards so I guess I'd have to say that this time it turned out reasonably well. I don't know how it might have been if my wife would have wanted to swing with them again but I sure would have liked to.

So, I guess my experience is one and one. I'd have to say that the 50/50 risk just wasn't worth the bad outcome of the one.

[intuition897]

I voted HELL NO, but I would say that if it came up that one of our co-workers (as in PEERS, not superiors or employees) was into the lifestyle - and I mean seriously into the lifestyle, had a very mature outlook, a few years experience, a sense of discretion, and a great marriage - we might consider it. But there's about a 0.001% chance that this would happen. Why? Because one thing we've learned is that people change, and circumstances change. People get promoted/demoted all the time, and somebody ends up working for their swing partner. People develop an inoperable tumour and suddenly they feel they must confess their sins before they die. They "get religious" and they feel they must strike a blow for "righteousness" by outing the people they used to play with. Extreme examples, but you get the idea. There are too many variables.

This is why we don't play with people we a) work with, b) live on the same street with, or c) even in the same TOWN with. Kingston is a much smaller world than you might think. It's population keeps on growing (we even have rush hour traffic now! ), but I've received emails from lots of single young guys wanting to play...then say that they're Queen's students. Uh...no way. Would we swing with someone who worked in a completely unrelated department at Queen's? Maybe...under the right circumstances. Would we swing with one of the students? Not a chance. I totally buy into Murphy's Law; as soon as we had sex with them, we'd find out the student had one or more classes within my department. :rollseyes I'm in a position that has access to students' marks, which suddenly puts me in a very awkward position with my employer. Not to mention legally. So. Student = no play. And I don't care if they SAY they're never taking a class in my department, that student is there a minimum of 4 years. Sorry, but I just don't trust anyone to hold themselves to a promise like that.

See? Way too complicated.

[RenoFantasy]

Well, I'm not horribly secretive about my lifestyle, at work or otherwise. I don't go around announcing it to everyone, but if asked I'm very straight forward and honest. I could really give a rats petooty what people think .

For my wife and I, our very FIRST experience was with one of my coworkers. She was a bi-sexual female, and we had a fabulous threesome. An no, this didn't cause any work-related complications. Since then there have been several times where I've been interested in a coworker (and spouse, where applicable). I've even expressed this interest on occassion. Nothing ever came of it, but I never experienced any reprocussions for making my interest known, either (I guess I just have one of those non-threatening personalities ).

So yes, I would (and have) swing with a coworker. However, if I were the business OWNER... I would only do it if it were someone whom I had known for quite sometime BEFORE they became an employee, and even then I would also prefer to have had a (good) SWINGING history with them.

Matt

[Swingercast]

Voted Hell No, but wait a minute. I work with my wife!

[Mr.T]

An odd scenario just came up for us.We arrived home from a kids christmas party tonight to find that someone had added us to their MSN.No problem there.

They also sent us an e-mail stating that they had seen our profile in a local swingers site and wodered if we would be interested.They inculded pics and asked us to let them know.Still,no problem.(and yes,we are interested )

Here's where things get a little more interesting.They live in a small town nearby that also happens to be a major operation point for the company I drive for.After taking a good look at the pics,I think(but am not positive) that I've seen him driving one of our trucks.This wouldn't bother us(could make next years christmas party more interesting).Just quite ironic,I think.

I'm curious.Has this happened to anyone here before?Any thoughts would be welcome.

[Mr. Truelove]

Oh, like finding out the neighbors, that my wife and I drool over, have an ad on Swing Lifestyle? Too bad for us neighbors are off limits. Not to mention he is a client at my work. Sigh..

Maybe I can quit and move...

Mr. Truelove

[Mr.T]

What a Relief!

We met this new couple for coffee last night.Nice,down to earth,attractive and not at all pushy.What more could you ask for.

Thankfully,while he has buisness ties to my employer,he doesn't work for the same company I do.He just looks like a few of the guys I work with.So that opens a few doors of opprotunity .

We're looking forward to our next meet.They are more experienced in the lifestyle than we are and are more than willing to take it easy and not scare us off.They even know where the swinger activities are in our area.Which is great,considering we didn't know there were any up here.

A big door seems to have opened for us.Now lets see where it leads to.

[WesternSwing]

My wife works for a very big company with an office here locally that employs thousands of people. Turns out that the husband of one couple we've played with works there on another floor, and there is another guy that she keeps seeing and always gives her a sly smile that she is sure we know through the Lifestyle, she just can't place him yet.

So, yah, it happens. I think the bigger the company the bigger the chance of it happening.

Mr. WS

[Mr. Truelove]

Good to hear Mr. T! Glad to hear it's going well, I had forgotten all about this thread and it was nice to get an update.

Mr. Truelove

[djjwp]

Never $hit where you eat. This would not be a good idea.