Who do you prefer to take the lead during sex?

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-23-2006, 07:24 PM

When it comes to sex, who do you prefer to take the initiative to get things started? Do you have a preference? Would you prefer the guy take the lead, or do you like a forward woman who knows what she wants and goes after it? What about you women? Do you like to take the lead? Or do you prefer to wait?

CuriousInOregon · 01-23-2006, 07:27 PM

VERY good one Julie. I personally am the shy ones that waits to be approached Maybe its the part of me that feels she should have been born in the 1700's where a woman is courted but once approached and shown shes wanted the Real Tigress comes out. My husband on the other hand is a take charge man he has no problems telling anyone he meets how wonderful they are or if the situation is approporiate how much he would like to "get to know her"

Livin24nic8 · 01-23-2006, 07:29 PM

What about, "I am a male, I like a female to take the lead"?

Spoomonkey · 01-23-2006, 07:35 PM

I tend to start things, but if a play partner steps up and takes the lead, I love it!

I've had it happen one time and I think she got the best Spoomonkey had to offer

Spoomonkey

Mrs Spoomonkey · 01-23-2006, 07:42 PM

I prefer to have the man take the lead but it really depends on the mood and the connection between us. Sometimes I'll take the lead. It's rare though, Spoo is definately the one in control and even when I try he turns it around and takes the lead

I sometimes get a little frustrated because there are times when Spoo is taking the lead with the female half and the male half is doing nothing to help me get things start between me and him. There is one couple though that I do take the lead on and leave him no doubt what I want facelick

Mrs Spoomonkey

Dynamar · 01-23-2006, 08:26 PM

Lead... follow... or get out of the way! It really just depends on the circumstances. I'm ambidextrous that way!

sexyshelby · 01-23-2006, 09:29 PM

It depends on the mood, the situation, and the comfort level. I have no problem getting things started, but sometimes I like for the man to take the lead. It really all depends...

~SS

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-23-2006, 09:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Livin24nic8

What about, "I am a male, I like a female to take the lead"?

Sorry about that, blame copy & paste. I've fixed the options to display as they should have read.

**good times** · 01-23-2006, 10:29 PM

I usually pretty much take the lead but if the woman takes the lead that would work for me too.

PrivateDance42 · 01-24-2006, 02:18 PM

My preference is not among the poll options: I am female and I like the other female to take the lead.

Vespertine · 01-24-2006, 06:05 PM

I like to be led... on a leash, on all fours.

Thrax · 01-24-2006, 06:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vespertine

I like to be led... on a leash, on all fours.

Collars R Me

spamcatcher · 12-10-2008, 12:50 PM

Male here. It doesn't really matter to me, but it seems that most of the (few) women that I've been with have left it up to me to make the moves and decide the pace & direction of our play.

Tia Vampire · 12-11-2008, 09:36 PM

I love it when the male half takes the lead, but I rather take the lead when using a stap-on with a woman.

threes_company · 12-21-2008, 11:03 PM

I guess for me it depends on the guy. If its a well built guy i prefer him to take the lead, carry me around with my legs wrapped around his waist and let him know he's the one in charge. If its a smaller guy i prefer to take the lead and show him who's boss

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View Poll Results: Who do you prefer to take the lead, sexually?
I am female, I like to take the lead	4	2.22%
I am female, I like for the man to take the lead	32	17.78%
I am female, I don't care who starts it, so long as it starts	25	13.89%
I am male, I like to take the lead	10	5.56%
I am male, I like for the female to take the lead	45	25.00%
I am male, I don't care who starts it, so long as it starts	64	35.56%
Voters: 180. You may not vote on this poll

01-23-2006, 07:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Who do you prefer to take the lead during sex? When it comes to sex, who do you prefer to take the initiative to get things started? Do you have a preference? Would you prefer the guy take the lead, or do you like a forward woman who knows what she wants and goes after it? What about you women? Do you like to take the lead? Or do you prefer to wait?
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01-23-2006, 07:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
CuriousInOregon Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 601 Location: Oregon Status: Couple/ Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:CuriousInOregon	Re: Let's Get it Started... VERY good one Julie. I personally am the shy ones that waits to be approached Maybe its the part of me that feels she should have been born in the 1700's where a woman is courted but once approached and shown shes wanted the Real Tigress comes out. My husband on the other hand is a take charge man he has no problems telling anyone he meets how wonderful they are or if the situation is approporiate how much he would like to "get to know her"

01-23-2006, 07:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
Livin24nic8 Active Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: New York	Re: Let's Get it Started... What about, "I am a male, I like a female to take the lead"?

01-23-2006, 07:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Let's Get it Started... I tend to start things, but if a play partner steps up and takes the lead, I love it! I've had it happen one time and I think she got the best Spoomonkey had to offer Spoomonkey
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01-23-2006, 07:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,758 Location: Ohio Status: Married Swing Lifestyle Name:spoomonkey	Re: Let's Get it Started... I prefer to have the man take the lead but it really depends on the mood and the connection between us. Sometimes I'll take the lead. It's rare though, Spoo is definately the one in control and even when I try he turns it around and takes the lead I sometimes get a little frustrated because there are times when Spoo is taking the lead with the female half and the male half is doing nothing to help me get things start between me and him. There is one couple though that I do take the lead on and leave him no doubt what I want facelick Mrs Spoomonkey
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01-23-2006, 08:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
Dynamar Ready-Willing-Able Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 746 Location: A flyover state Status: Single Swing Lifestyle Name:Dynamar	Re: Let's Get it Started... Lead... follow... or get out of the way! It really just depends on the circumstances. I'm ambidextrous that way!
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01-23-2006, 09:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
sexyshelby It's not easy being easy. Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,012 Location: In Bed Status: Person	Re: Let's Get it Started... It depends on the mood, the situation, and the comfort level. I have no problem getting things started, but sometimes I like for the man to take the lead. It really all depends... ~SS
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01-23-2006, 10:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: Let's Get it Started... I usually pretty much take the lead but if the woman takes the lead that would work for me too.
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01-24-2006, 02:18 PM	#10 (permalink)
PrivateDance42 Active Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 30 Location: California	Re: Let's Get it Started... My preference is not among the poll options: I am female and I like the other female to take the lead.

01-24-2006, 06:05 PM	#11 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Re: Let's Get it Started... I like to be led... on a leash, on all fours.
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12-10-2008, 12:50 PM	#13 (permalink)
spamcatcher Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 121 Location: Southeast Michigan Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:PleasureDroids	Re: Who do you prefer to take the lead during sex? Male here. It doesn't really matter to me, but it seems that most of the (few) women that I've been with have left it up to me to make the moves and decide the pace & direction of our play.

12-11-2008, 09:36 PM	#14 (permalink)
Tia Vampire Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,059 Location: Florida Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:tiavampire	Re: Who do you prefer to take the lead during sex? I love it when the male half takes the lead, but I rather take the lead when using a stap-on with a woman.

12-21-2008, 11:03 PM	#15 (permalink)
threes_company Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 29 Location: Melbourne Status: Couple	Re: Who do you prefer to take the lead during sex? I guess for me it depends on the guy. If its a well built guy i prefer him to take the lead, carry me around with my legs wrapped around his waist and let him know he's the one in charge. If its a smaller guy i prefer to take the lead and show him who's boss

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