How much info do you get before you play with someone?

[JustAskJulie]

Another thread (and some comments there) got me wondering. How much info do you get from people that you play with? Do you ALWAYS get their full name? Or even just their first? Do you go beyond that and get their address?

What are your reasons for getting the information that you do get? Or for not getting anymore than you do?

[Dynamar]

I figure most information I collect or reveal is on a need to know basis. It's nice to have each other's cell phone numbers to confirm meeting times, or in case something comes up. Generally last names will come up in conversation, or are on email accounts (although I use a pseudonym for my Yahoo account that I use for swinging.

[txduo2000]

We generally get first names and contact information. Over time, if we continue to see the people, we will usually get last names. Sometimes we happen across their last names because they have it on their email address, other times, they just volunteer it. Neither our first or last name is on our email, so we have to either volunteer it or be asked for it. When we introduce ourselves, it is with our first names only, and that's what we usually get from others as well.

I personally agree that more information other than first names and contact info is on a "need to know" basis.

[EvilMJ]

I am happy to have your first name.. . I don't need last names. I would like to have contact information incase we want to meet again...but other than that a first name is good for me.

[good times]

Since most of our play has taken place at the clubs, we would be in the "We don't ALWAYS do anything." category. If we have a good time with a couple and decide we would like to get together with them outside the club we will usually get some contact information, but that doesn't always happen.

[twoplayful2]

We'll always know first names before playing (well, most of the time anyway ) and if we like them we'll get contact info as well. Sometimes we forget the contact info though, makes things tough lol

[TNT]

Most of the time we get first names.

There are very few people that we know their last names, or they know ours...the ones that do, also know where we live, phone number and quite a bit about out lives, as we do their's, but...it took knowing them for a while before any of this information was passed on.

About 95% of the time if we have played with someone, we have contact information, usually an e-mail addy and/or a cell number in case we want to keep in touch and play again.

Teresa

[Vespertine]

I like require two forms of ID, three written references and their last four pay stubs.




I'm not picky.

[Spoomonkey]

First names usually come out early in a conversation... Other than that, we don't ask for much.

Like Good Times, most our play is at the club, so if we get any more than that, it is at the end of the night and it means we liked you

Spoomonkey

[ItTakes3]

If a potential playmate immediately gives us full names and contact information, a red flag goes up. If they are willing to expose their own privacy that quickly, we question their ability to be discrete when it comes to us.

[MrXxotic]

We don't always do anything. We have some playmates that we know everything about (full name, birthday, address, etc.) and other that we never even knew their first name. If we meet someone online we try to give and get a cell number just in case. If we play with someone in the club and would like to hook up again we will try to exchange cells and/or emails.

[WildMiCouple]

We try to get enough info so we don't embarrass ourselves with them.....like their first names But the times we've ended up in an after-party suite when there's numorous couples there ......that hasn't been the case


Brett

[Greg & Sheryl]

We were about to answer that we always get their first names, but then we realized that in certain group situations (most recently at this year's Lifestyles West Convention in Las Vegas) we sometimes don't get that information.

[screaminggood]

We usually get first names as we're introducing ourselves, but I don't always remember them! And one time a knight in shining armor came up and saved me from bad sex---I didn't learn his name until a couple months after the incident.

I'll give out my "alternative" email, or request theirs if we like them.

[Bama0468]

Originally Posted by screaminggood

We usually get first names as we're introducing ourselves, but I don't always remember them! ....
I'll give out my "alternative" email, or request theirs if we like them.

We are in that boat! if its a party situation, we do tend to email or even chat a bit before we meet normaly, which is when we would get some sort of contact info, the email and chats happen as like a few of us, we have kids! older one and we have to plan things ahead most of the time to keep things discreet.