Have you ever had a sexual partner that was a better lover than your spouse?

[txesqcpl]

If you had something done to you sexually by the other wife or husband of a couple, do you tell you SO that they did something sooo good that it was the best ever not even with you SO. If you do tell your SO, how do you bring it up or tell your SO?? I am interested in hearing from both sides on this issue.

Thanks everyone!

[OhioCouple]

Good question, txesqcpl.

I think bringing it up with your SO is a win/win situation as no one person can be the end all be all of sexual enhancement. Not too awfully long ago I experienced something with the male half in a position that had never occured to us to try before. Now we implement it in our own lovemaking.

As for bringing it up...do you talk about your experiences after the fact? We always do, so it isn't hard for us to talk about what was good, what wasn't and what we will or will not do again. If your communication is good then neither should be threatened by he/she did something different that just felt sooooo incredibly good. Let's try it together!

[NorCal Nites]

In our case, I'm kind of glad this hasn't had to become a topic of choice from my end yet. He's been seriously the best at everything so far.

On the other hand, I would definately tell him, as he's told me in the past so that we can "practice" and make it part of OUR repetoire!

[wrnakedru]

I think definitely yes - you communicate anything that has happened with your SO. Because it begins to be something that is divisive to your relationship, rather than an enhancement of it, if you do not communicate.

And yes, as Mrs. O said, if it has been something of particular pleasure - I would think your SO would wish to know of it so that it could become a part of your lovemaking as well.

Anything different would make your activity seem to be a quest for comparative analysis - so that you could always say to each other "You're still the best!" And that's just plain dangerous to your relationship - - sometimes something may seem "better" just because it's with somebody different.

But if it truly IS something new and different, and it was a pleasure - - why not share the information, so it can be included in what the two of you do together? Wouldn't you want to know - if the situation were reversed? Rather than the prospect of him seeking out this particular partner because of that "unique" pleasure she had provided?

[Brit_Pair]

Dito

(Apologies for the lazy post! )

[txesqcpl]

Thanks everyone for your posts, the insight is great!

As for talking after we have been with a couple, yes do talk about what did happen and didnt happen, liked and disliked. We get a little graphic but not real graphic.

Ok I understand that talking to eachother about what did happen is a good thing, but what would be something that or in what manner if your SO did tell about something someone else did was better then how you do it or feel? What type of statement would be offensive to you if your SO was telling/describing something to you and what wouldnt not be offensive?


Thanks everyone for you insight!

We always talk about things. And yes it's always more interesting if one of us had a good experience. Not that we've had many bad experiences, but some times the chemistry just isn't there. Most of the time we are same room, but what few times we've been alone. We always reveal all the little details. We are not jealous about things. Actually if one of us don't enjoy ourselves, we make up for it with each other.

[good times]

Dito Talking about it later is half the fun.

R

[hmr]

According to the mrs. i'm still the best lay she's had. I say this because I'm not the best at oral. I'm good according to her, but, not her best. I know all this because we talk about it and tells me what others are doing to make each other better.

Fortunately for me, I've yet to find a woman that does anything better than the Mrs.

Mr. hmr

P.S. Again, according to her I'm now up to #3 on her all time licking list.!!

[LadyCleo]

Unfortunately, the one time that I commented to my husband that someone had performed something on me that was as good as him, he bluntly asked me, "Why did you tell me that?" That question has made me not want to share that with him again.

After the fact, he said that he was joking. But as Freud says...

We'll see...the next time...

LC

[txesqcpl]

Thank you everyone for you input, it has been great.

I am wondering if more people didnt experience what Lady Cleo said about her SO.

I would also like to hear from everyone about how do you tell them things about what happened? examples of what is said and examples of what you all would like to hear you SO say to your about it? Also, what you all would not like to hear your SO say about it

Thanks everyone

[jdf7379]

Jesse and I like to share with each other. Even though we are still swinging virgins. We love to go out to our local hang out and share stories of people that we been intimate with during our single days. He has a big cock...she gave me the best BJ ever. We totally get turned on sharing with each other.

You can't go wrong with honesty!

It's all fun, and we like it!

[mrbandsatl]

Setting love aside for just a moment, and realizing for many, this will be purely hypothetical but...

Have you ever had sex with someone, in or out of the LS, that was better than your mate? Did you discuss it with them? If you did meet someone that just rocked you in a way you have never been rocked, would you admit it to your mate? How do you think they would resopond?

BTW - I made this a private poll so those responding will not be listed.

[DBL D]

I have the most complete and versatile sex with Fem D. Not saying there hasn't been a "talent" here or there that didn't get my attention but in general I'd say that Fem D and I are the closest match for great sex. We are new to this whole thing and are just now starting to really get into doing some of the fantasy things that we say we want to try. We know that we will both learn new things about how others do things and I'm pretty sure that neither of us gets so worried about hurt feelings that we'd keep that to ourselves. Should be about growth as well as a fun time too.

Male D

[Alura]

Mrs. Alura and I just had a discussion about this, Bob and Sandy.

Our conclusion is that we can't set love aside. That's what makes the difference between really good and great sex. For us, at least.

Alura