Have you ever had a sexual partner that was a better lover than your spouse?

[BiloxiCouple]

I forgot to mention the Gremlin. My friend had one many years ago. What an ugly car!!! I just don't know which current cars are overall considered cool or not. The 70's had some real POS's.

I thought my analogy of cars and sex was good!! Even slipped one in about a virgin.

[LFM2]

I really wouldn't say better, but things are different. Each man has their own way of having sex and each one has brought something to the party, but not really anything better. It's all been good.

In all seriousness, there will never, ever be anything better than making love to my husband. Sure, we have sex and that's all good, but when we make love, there is nothing better.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

I forgot to mention the Gremlin. My friend had one many years ago. What an ugly car!!! I just don't know which current cars are overall considered cool or not. The 70's had some real POS's.

I thought my analogy of cars and sex was good!! Even slipped one in about a virgin.

Actually, my 1968 VW bug wasn't so bad -- except for the heat issue. Try being a teenage girl who drove a turquoise Gremlin to high school. Yes, it was the ugliest car known to man. And it shot sparks out the dash each time I started it up. It was horrendous!!

[strathmore]

If we are talking sexual intercourse, I'd have to say that overall the wife wins going away — the result of years of experience and getting to know each others wants, needs, moves, etc. — although there are a few specific instances of specific positions with other women like one who must have been a Romanian gymnast the way she did the Asian Cowgirl, or the one who did about 7 versions of doggy for over an hour. Ah, sweet memories.
As for blowjobs, its a different story. There have been several women with some pretty incredible talents. And as others have said, they're all different.

[heatherb]

Thanks for sharing. I agree that love makes sex better and as a result, my man is "the best". However, if we're not talking love and we're just talking sex for sex sake, then no others were better in terms of technique, size, endurance, etc...Putting it all together, I have had a few sex partners that gave me orgasms that were just more intense than I have had with my man. I have to believe I am not alone. Maybe it's just that I can speak more honestly because he doesn't read my posts on this site whereas maybe others partners read their posts. Either way, I can't be alone here.

[PB&J]

Agreed, heatherb- OF COURSE sex with my hubby is best in terms of the whole package, because he is the the man I love and that gives the experience a whole different dynamic, but if we look at technique, etc, etc..... there have been a few encounters that have left me weak and gasping and the sheets soaked in a way that he and I alone have never managed.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by heatherb

Thanks for sharing. I agree that love makes sex better and as a result, my man is "the best". However, if we're not talking love and we're just talking sex for sex sake, then no others were better in terms of technique, size, endurance, etc...Putting it all together, I have had a few sex partners that gave me orgasms that were just more intense than I have had with my man. I have to believe I am not alone. Maybe it's just that I can speak more honestly because he doesn't read my posts on this site whereas maybe others partners read their posts. Either way, I can't be alone here.

That's an interesting point you raise . . . about folks whose partners read the site and the possibility that it may color their responses here.

My honey does read this board, but I can guaran-damn-tee you I wouldn't say anything on this board that I wouldn't say to his face. There have only been two playmates that have even come close. IF I did encounter someone with whom sex was overall better than sex with him, he'd know it. AND he'd be happy for me, as I would be for him.


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[kryspete]

It has happened and yes we've talked about it after,,, we always share experiences, if K plays solo I want to hear all about it,,, including what her friend may have done "extra special". Same for K, but there have been situations where we might have felt a little envy for not "sizing" up.

Most couples would agree however, that the reason we swing is to spice up the sex,, after all, the same ham sandwich eaten day after day - gets old quick, lets hope we all get to meet great lovers who are willing to share their finest moments.....

[hamlet]

If we're talking about my ex-wife here, the answer not only is "Yes," but the specifics run well into double figures. But if we're talking about the woman whom I think of as my real wife, the answer is: No way--and, since I can't imagine that it could ever happen, I can't choose any of the options offered in the poll. Of course, we've both had other partners we've enjoyed lots, both before we knew each other and since we started swinging. But we've come to understand that a lot of what makes our swinging encounters exciting (apart from the obvious elements) is that, when we go to a club or meet a couple, we're making sex the main event of the evening. Conversely, when our one-on-one sex generates something less than fireworks, it's usually because it comes in the context of a busy day when we don't have all that much time for it and we're just trying to get it in (all puns intended). However, we've been on vacation together of late, and have been reminded of something that's proven true of other such vacations: when we're able to relax, ignore the clock, pour a drink, put on a porn movie, and take the time to do all the fondling we want before we move along to other activities, our sex is not only as good but better than anything that happens when we swing. And that's after 16 years together.

If there's any exception I should make in answering this question, it's probably on my wife's behalf. I believe her when she tells me that she's never enjoyed any other man as much as me, but when she's with a woman--well, it's not that she might enjoy her partner more, but she certainly enjoys her differently. And I can't really feel threatened or diminished by that, because I know that it's comparing apples and oranges. And, since she hasn't announced that the three of them are running away together (i.e., her, her favorite lady friend, and the strap-on), I assume that, on the whole, she'd rather be with me.

[DigginIt]

Nothing like keeping a great post like this going. I've read a few comments from people who have hinted around what "pops" into my head after reading the title of this post. I think WesternSwing and JustAskJulie come the closest but I really felt the need to voice my own opinion about this topic.

Granted I'm new and my experiences are few but I would be extremely naive to believe that Mrs. Diggs and I will not run into this, maybe even frequently.

After 12 years of being together and having lots of great sex, there is nothing that quite compares to great "NEW" sex IMO and even bad new sex is still quite fun. Intimacy is what comes from 12 years of being together and something that a fun swing night can never compete against. A couple that truly loves each other will share a level of understanding and love that goes beyond the physical yet infuses every physical act together.

I'm sure there are going to be guys/girls out there that will give us experiences we will never forget. Swinging is just like a relationship in the fact that it requires communication and disclosure, lol, trust, honesty and respect for it to continue to be an enhancement to your relationship. When you lose all that then to me it's only a matter of time before you lose the reasons you got into the lifestyle to begin with and it becomes just about the sex and not an experience to deepen your relationship with the one person you have truly given your life too.

Call me delusional, misguided or silly but this is a learning experience and therefore you should expect that you will learn something from it. Share it, enjoy it but always remember that once you start hiding things and blurring the lines, you have to ask yourself if you are still in it for "both" of you or just yourself?

Most posts I see on the swinger boards like Swing Lifestyle all state things like this is about enhancing a couples relationship. Keeping things from your SO seems like a growing wedge that will eventually poison the relationship to me. Sometimes growing in a relationship isn't as comfortable as we would like but in the end, I'd choose growth over stagnation.

Too deep?

Have Fun !!!

[oldrrob]

When the wife and I were in the LS, I once dipped my toe in these waters, talking about my enjoyment with a partner, and pulled back a frost bitten stub. We soon evolved into mfm, as I've seen some couples on here find fun and comfort in. I never felt she was being selfish, it was just the way she felt about things. And it worked for us. I loved hearing about every enjoyment she had, everything she liked about her experiences with the guys we shared her with. I never felt intimidated about being 'bested'. It was all about her and I, and especially her.

[tnt69couple]

Tiffany has had a few that was very good. She would say that they are not better. But I believe if there was not the emotional tie between us that I would say she would feel differently. This one guy's cock is long not very thick. Never gets really hard. So he can bend it while fucking her to also rub her clit. He really knows how to use his talent. He can also guide it so it hits just the right spot and she makes some great noise. He was a college wrestler so he puts her in several positions that she just loves. I have used some of them and Tiffany responds really well. So I believe that yes there as far as technical aspects go Tiffany has had several men that are better than I am. But it does not bother me at all. She has fun and loves playing with different guys. As long as we have that emotional bond the rest does not matter.

[Just Passing By]

First to go out on a limb with a preliminary presumption. Most couples inclined to swinging type activities , will already have highly developed sex life with the two of themselves. A new playmate would be comparing against the cumlative experieces with the spouse ( well that's how I'm seeing the question, and and feeling about the matter ).
New to you , and different is always interesting, and usually good for its own sake. A new playmate might do something you haven't tried before, do something particularly well, or physically the respective parts ( not just genitals) might fit together in a different way. But for a new or occasional partner to even be compared on same page with spouse, either the new person is a world class lover, or the home situation is in need of serious remedial attention.
PS The Gremlin, particularly the V-8 ones with the factory stripes, fell into category of being just ugly enough to actually be cool. FWIW in their day they had a modest degree of succuess in NHRA S/E competition . With current cars almost 50% I can't tell apart without reading insignia.

[iloveoralsex]

my ex-wife was always bragging on this one lover of Hers. She was always telling me how Very much better he was than Any other guy She had ever been with...i mean She was seeing him a few times a week & Never shut up about him. i asked how was he so incredible & She finally said "Why don't u spend a night with him & see 4 urself"? She told me that he wouldn't suck me but he said if i would do anything he told me to that i could spend the night serving him. Well, after a bit of Her coercing me, i agreed. He was a Black Man that was built like a body builder. He had 10" & it was thick too! In the first minute i was at his house, i felt like i was his servant & lucky to be that! As soon as i was inside he had me on my knees before he even closed the door. i was amazed that i really didn't care who went by & saw me...i was mesmerized by this tall obviously Superior Man. It didn't take me 5 minutes to see why my Wife was so taken by this Hunk of Manhood! i did Everything He told me to do without hesitation! It was amazing! Y'all probably don't want to hear the whole story, but i became a slut for this Man in no time! It was like His pheromones made me "ad-dick-ted" to Him!
After that night both my Wife & i were at His beck & call. i even was told to take off my clothes outside his door & put on a sheer apron before i was allowed to enter & i served his guests in Any way they requested too. He moved away & took my Wife with Him...(i missed Him more)!!

[CXXC]

I certainly hope that it happens for both of us! After all, how do we learn to better ourselves if the bar never moves?

I will always be the best husband Mrs. CXXC will ever have. She is and will be the best wife I will ever have. That being said, Sex is somehting that can become flat unless the technique is tweaked a bit.

She has boy/girl toys that do things better than I do. She or they teach me what they do and we move on from there!

Its not about being better than anyone. Its all aobut pleasing each other to the fullest!!! That is our goal!